FR: Boned a shit test

she hasn't unfriended me on fb. not yet, anyway. how do i fix it with this girl? she and i have a history of back and forth over fb pm, where i'd try to get her on a date or something and she'd turn me down. she was interested at certain parts. back then, i was having mental blocks with settling logistics because i couldn't see myself successfully pulling, so i'd sabotage or avoid it. i'm past that now. 

i think i need a game level up before I take another run at this girl.

"she then gets disapproving and defensive says something like, "this is a bit awkward ..." and asks me where my friends are and is accusing me of coming here alone to pick up women, to pick up her,etc, etc. I don't remember what really happens but i can't think of what i'm supposed to do here so i remain standing by her in awkward silence."

Just be like "yeah awkwardly awesome, anyway" and change topics, don't take it personally. You are reacting to her, you need be the one setting the rhythm. She's accusing you of picking her up? be like "hm at the beginning I was, but you don't look that exotic now", challenge her back, keep it playful, change topic.

"I tell my friend about what happened, that this honey blew me off for trying to pick her up. my friend thinks this girl that has moved in on my honey, is going to get her. to me, it just looks like chatting, but i can't see their faces. I get annoyed and decide I'm fucking this girls set up. I call them both over to the table my friend and I are sitting at. The girl I want looks annoyed at me but comes over anyway. I resist being as harsh as saying "is that girl picking you up? that's so creepy!", but i'm negative and a bit abrasive (0 charm, here). "

Wtf dude. Think abundance, have fun, game both girls even if one is lesbian, who gives a fuck.

"she hasn't unfriended me on fb. not yet, anyway. how do i fix it with this girl? she and i have a history of back and forth over fb pm, where i'd try to get her on a date or something and she'd turn me down. she was interested at certain parts. back then, i was having mental blocks with settling logistics because i couldn't see myself successfully pulling, so i'd sabotage or avoid it. i'm past that now."

How can you fix this? I think the best way is in person, so If you see her out again go in strong and shoot the shit with her, have fun with her as if that shit before never happened. It feels like you trying too hard to make it work, you need to be willing to lose her. As far as trying fix it through text game, I dunno, but you could tease her on the whole exotic thing and then vibe from there, or comment when she posts something on her fb wall.

Lol. Shikorah do you avoid telling everyone on here you're a girl on purpose? Believe me there are plenty of dudes on here that will be able to help you better with that information. 

This is a pretty incredible story Shikorah. Lmao

Have you figured out physical game yet? E.g. do you recognize or have you experienced seducing a girl through physical touch? I feel like you're describing all the verbals and none of the sensuousness. Maybe it was lacking 

that was really good theking. thanks man.

ah darling, but we're all lesbians in this story. ;) even more reason to game her  too, i guess, but not to pull because i didn't find her attractive. 

better with that information.

no - just not used to brandishing my gender around like a two dollar hooker. 

i haven't figured shit out.

maybe. no. yes. i do it to girls i'm sleeping with all the time. but maybe i'm not so experienced with brining it into cold approach and being smooth about it.  it wasn't in this set at all, it went bad before i took the touch any further. I was brain dead and super vagued out that night and wasn't planning on gaming anyone until she showed up. that's bit of an excuse but it didn't help.

Got to close the distance and make her feel you. She was missing it, she felt the divide. Dafuq bish

"ah darling, but we're all lesbians in this story. ;) even more reason to game her  too, i guess, but not to pull because i didn't find her attractive."

Exaclty, game everybody, share your vibe with them, be physical, and only build sexual tension and project sexual vibes with the ones you want.

"maybe. no. yes. i do it to girls i'm sleeping with all the time. but maybe i'm not so experienced with brining it into cold approach and being smooth about it.  it wasn't in this set at all, it went bad before i took the touch any further. I was brain dead and super vagued out that night and wasn't planning on gaming anyone until she showed up. that's bit of an excuse but it didn't help."

Wtf is this, "wasn't planning on gaming anyone until she showed up.", act as if there's always a 10 by your side, game is 24/7, you're always on. It's just who you are, it's just how you operate. Even when you are tired, you don't need to game only when you feel good, just go and share that with the girl, be congruent, hide nothing. Then from there you build your vibe as you interact with her, build momentum.

As being physical, just be aware if the girl is comfortable or not. Do your physical expression, but as soon as you sense that she is tensing up just back off a bit and try again later. Always attuned to that, but also always trying to push her boundary from time to time, and if she freaks out be prepared to flip shit around like nothing happened. Try to get away with as much touch as possible, but don't let the touch linger for too long, if you see that she's tensing up then break off the touch. You also can just do fast physical expressions like a 3 seconds hug, like do a bunch of this small timed touches observing if she's comfortable with more, and also break proximity, in and out with steady eye contact, building sexual tension while at the same time chatting her. Don't freak out if you are not being physical right from the start, be physical when you want to be, touch her when you want to, is just expression. Keep in mind that you can command her to escalate on you too, or just take her hands or arms and put it on you. When you go for a hug or whatever, come from the frame of offering and letting her come in, like just put your arm out for her to take it, if she doesn't come then you go in her space yourself or comand her to come in, and if you sense she's tensing up then calibrate. You don't need for you physical expression to "work", don't get stuck on that, if she's not ready just move on and keep vibing, try again later.