FR: Hockey game
Figured I'd do a FR to share with you guys.
I was out on Saturday with a huge group of friends at a hockey game. The group was about half guys, half girls. I was sitting next to two girls, Jill (she's a 7) and Ashley (she's a 6). I honestly wasn't super attracted to either of them but we had a little banter going on. I was fuckin with anyone that had to get up for a beer or to go to the bathroom like if it was a dude, I'd say, "If your gonna be that guy you have to let everyone feel you up as you scoot past." And then give them the pretend feel up, squeeze their bum and stuff.
There was a girl in the group two rows up, that I hadn't noticed before, who's a friend of a friend (our group was so big it took 3 rows of seats). I came back from getting beer and she was sitting in my seat talking to Jill and Ashley. She's a really cute petite little brunette.
So she see's me and says, "Oh hey, I'll get out of your seat."
I said, "Yeah no worries." I sit in the open seat.
She says, "No, no here have your seat back!"
I say, "Alright then, get the fuck out of my seat." and stay sitting where I am. She gets up and goes back to two rows up.
About 5 minutes later during half-time when everyone's up and walking around, she comes down and sits next to me and says, "Hey what's up, I'm Nat."
So we start talking. I find out her family's from Syria. She's a very good looking girl. I don't remember how we got on the subject but we were talking about comicon and how people dress up, and how a lot of them are really cliche. I asked her who she'd dress up as. She said Sailor Moon. (she looks nothing like sailor moon, but ok). She said, "And you?" I replied that I would probably be one of the Ghostbusters or Captain Hook. She LOLed and said, "OR THE CROCODILE!"
So then I start teasing her and telling her that drinking beer and not wearing her burka is bad behavior for a muslim girl. She says, "I'm not muslim! My family's christian!" Bla bla bla. We have some banter here that I don't recall very well. Some of it involved her 5th grade students, and I accused her of giving the 5th graders boners.
After the game we went out to the bar. I immediately went and started dancing with girls. Like a LOT. Ashley specifically was a badass. She wasn't that good, but she was confident and fun and it looked sexy as FUCK. It was one of those situations where I can see girls watching out of the corner of my eye and think, NOW I CAN APPROACH ALL OF THEM. EASILY. Ashley made my night. After that, I took a time out and Nat was there, so I hung out with her for a minute or two. [looking back this is where I REALLY should've knuckled down, but I was on such a high right then the thought didn't occur to me]
A chode came up and grabbed Nat's cousin (also very beautiful) and danced with her. The cousin came back and said, "That was terrible." So I offered to give it a try. We danced for a little and she dropped it. I just shrugged and walked back. Nat patted me on the chest all patronizing and said, "It's ok, don't be bitter. I know my cousin, she's very picky." I was like, "I'm not worryied about it." She goes [patronizing again], "It's ok Mr. Bitter Pants." I just kinda smirked and said, "You're a brat is what you are. Hang on, I'm getting a drink." Then I stepped up to the bar to get a drink and got super sidetracked by other people talking to me and lost track of her.
So the last time I saw her, at about 12AM she came up and said, "Hey, we're leaving." I was like aw fuck. I put my arm around her and kinda manhandled her to the side and said, "Hey lemme get your number. I think you're a cool chick." She said, "you can get it from [our mutual friend] I have to go." She hurried out.
I'm not sure if her group was leaving or what the deal was there. Maybe I shouldn't have been so physical with her at that moment. I'm not too keen on asking my friend for her number and hitting her up. That seems like it would be a bit weird.
As far as things I think I need to work on:
1. Staying focused and pay more attention... Don't be so easily distracted. I think I could've easily closed her if I had focused on my game and given her more attention.
2. I need to pay more attention to setting up "the bubble." I did a little bit, but definitely could've done a LOT more.
3. I'm not sure how well I handled her patronizing remarks, like calling me Mr. Bitter Pants. I genuinely wasn't upset and didn't react to it at least. But maybe it could've been handled just a bit better.
On the upside, I got down on the dance-foor with the 10 in the bar that night. I got laid with a 7 (but only because of my earlier pre-selection lol) she wasn't nearly as hot as Nat, but at least it wasn't a complete failure. I made a lot of really cool friends... There it is.
You sure that you calling her a brat didn't come across as mean spirited or miscalibrated. Otherwise, sounds like a productive night.
You don't want to even respond in kind when things start going down that path. That's where you want to stay in your "reality". Even if you have to come up with it on the spot. E.g. frame it another way completely. "She smelled like burka that was kinda weird" would have sufficed. You just got to be on your own planet. Especially when you're dealing with family members from the Middle East. They look for opportunities to tag team any poor bastard they can like that. Since they're mostly naive and prudish, it becomes their ONLY way to relate to guys they're attracted to. Basically you got played. From the moment you "offered" to take her onto the dance floor your fate was sealed. Now you can obviously save it, but you got to be elevated above their "game"
It's possible she may have taken it that way, but unlikely. I was smiling and nudged her with an elbow when I said it.
It's possible she may have taken it that way, but unlikely. I was smiling and nudged her with an elbow when I said it.
cool.
You don't want to even respond in kind when things start going down that path. That's where you want to stay in your "reality". Even if you have to come up with it on the spot. E.g. frame it another way completely. "She smelled like burka that was kinda weird" would have sufficed. You just got to be on your own planet. Especially when you're dealing with family members from the Middle East. They look for opportunities to tag team any poor bastard they can like that. Since they're mostly naive and prudish, it becomes their ONLY way to relate to guys they're attracted to. Basically you got played. From the moment you "offered" to take her onto the dance floor your fate was sealed. Now you can obviously save it, but you got to be elevated above their "game"
"She smelled like burka" HAHAHA! Oh lordy. Your description is about spot on too as far as I know about these two.
Yeah I knew it was a mistake to do that after the fact. I shouldn't have even acknowedled her cousin's existance. I was setting myself up to get cockblocked wasn't I?
Yeah you gave rapport to someone that hadn't earned it and she chose to take a shit on it. Like look at what she did. She chose to shit on you. I learned from the same mistakes when I was younger. Still can get caught from time to time but with girls like this I just don't care. You can still bang them but your game has to be STELLARBALLS. You should have taken the intensity of the night you were having, and projected that onto them. That would have been cool. Play the harem game. They invented it, they know it
I don't think she shat on me lol. She was an idiot for sure, but I was in such a good state, that there was nothing she could do to ruin my night. It almost didn't even register. I'm more pissed at myself because, I had it in the bag right there and I should've said fuck all this other stuff, I'm gonna stand right here and close Nat. Not go get a drink, or dance with other girls, or piss around with her cousin (who I have no reason to even be acknowledging) DURR.
Yeah I'm talking about it from her end not yours. She was mostly likely oblivious to the fact that you were oblivious
'Harem game' lol. This was one of the most powerful re-frames I've integrated into my own style. This happened to me last night, I was playing pool with a couple of girls who I was flirting with at the bar last night. Once upon a time I would have made a call to pursue one or the other and focus on her (obviously). Last night I was overtly getting physical and hitting on both of them and ended up pulling them both home. It just goes to show how if you're firmly planted in your version of reality how powerful an effect it can have as far as girls taking cues and following your lead. G-money, I read one of your recent FR's with the foosball girl and I was like durr, its right in front of you
I meant it in a slightly different way but it would probably come off the same lol
'Harem game' lol. This was one of the most powerful re-frames I've integrated into my own style. This happened to me last night, I was playing pool with a couple of girls who I was flirting with at the bar last night. Once upon a time I would have made a call to pursue one or the other and focus on her (obviously). Last night I was overtly getting physical and hitting on both of them and ended up pulling them both home. It just goes to show how if you're firmly planted in your version of reality how powerful an effect it can have as far as girls taking cues and following your lead. G-money, I read one of your recent FR's with the foosball girl and I was like durr, its right in front of you
you sound like you have experience with orchestrating threesomes. You should post an article on here. It's definitely the next "step" my game needs to take...
It's about being unashamed and unapologetic about your own sexuality in a fun and playful way while staying present with your girl and handling her feelings. Making sure she feels secure and protected. I think it's a common pitfall to want the threesome too much, putting pressure on the girl and causing a bad reaction. Let her know you've got her and you would never force her to do something she wasn't really comfortable with.