Fucking Monogamy
"I'd like to, but maybe I should tell u something first... And I'm sorry I didn't tell u earlier (I'm a bitch, I know...) I have someone I really love in Finland and he's waiting for me there. So if we could pretend that last Thursday in ur apartment never happened and if we could be just friends who sometimes maybe hug then I can hang out with u... I'd really like u to be my awesome friend. Do u think that's gonna work?"
I knew she was engaged beforehand, but if the girl doesn't say anything I don't give a fuck. The relationship could be open, shitty, maybe it's a barn animal who the fuck knows. But after a text like this I don't even know what I want to do.
Food for thought, what would you guys do?
Ok well what exactly do you want here.. 'cuz there are definitely different paths you can take.
I don't think I want to mess with it, I only see that going badly.
However she does have cute friends, any way of getting her to hook me up?
"Hmmm I could be your friend, but under one condition… Introduce me to your single friends :)"
"I'm just waiting for your answer, which might never come. What you decided... To have a friend or not to have a friend. I'm sorry. I don't know what else I could say. I'd like to know what u r thinking"
Calm down girl I need to ask the internet what to do lol
So how would this go down exactly.. give me some scenarios.. how would this girl hook you up with her friends.
Talked to my bro, he helped set me straight on what's happening here.
Lumps: "sometimes maybe hug" -womanese-> "I need to fuck but I don't want to be responsible for it"
Lilumps: How do I make that work without her hating herself?
Lumps: lol she kinda wants to hate herself
Sometimes I forget how much girls get off on drama.
Haha! Yeah I was reading too much into the scenario you mentioned, e.g. this girl hooking you up.. I wanted you to actually quantify it so you actually had something to work towards. Otherwise believe me, it would never have happened. But it's obvious you just want to bang and yes obviously this girl would be down for the same.
I'm really curious if this typical, or I'm just a wierdo?? I've found that girls who are in relationships are easier to get into the sack.
Her logical brain will tell her that she should be a good girl and stick with the relationship, but there's another part of her that wants to be a sexy pornstar and is thrilled to fuck other guys as long as she can get away with it. She just wants there to be no repurcussions on her. She can walk away at any time, completely clean ...In fact, that's happened a lot to me. The girl just dissappears for whatever reason and we both have a warm fuzzy. Nobody else knows about it.
If you think about it, she's risking a lot sleeping with you. You could flap your mouth about it. Her BF could find out about it. And then she'd lose you, him and her social circle would think she's a slut. So she's being careful in the way she's approaching you with it...
I think you should be really truthful with yourself and with her. I can say with almost 100% certainty, she WILL fuck you again if you keep those factors in mind.
Anyone want to weigh in on a text response? From what people have said would it be something like:
"Heya bub I'm only looking for hugs and adventures. I'm not hung up on thurs and I'd like to hang out when I get back."
So you haven't texted her since?
Sent this earlier today, based on lumpy's recommendation to keep it fluff
"Ok been super busy last few days. I'll be gone for a week on thurs and don't think I'll see you before then. I'll send pics of my halloween :)"
I'd say something like, "There's nothing to worry about on this end doll."