Gaming a chick who is hung up on her ex?
So I met this girl, she's pretty attractive, funny (my kind of funny) and all around cool. I was hanging out with her last week for a bit of an insta-date maybe 30 minutes but I couldnt escalate much more than a kiss for some reason. Anyways, we talked a bit the following day and she told me she needs to be alone and on her own for a while since she's not over her ex and it was quite clear she wasn't when she was with me the second time, she literally complained about him for 30-50 mins straight.....
Anyway, I told her I didn't want to waste my time, nor hers. She understood and was apologetic, I told her it was nice to meet her and what not and haven't talked to her since. She does send me snapchats and shit, liking all my stuff on FB and what not.
But my question is, how can I flip this? Should I just hit her up in a text later on or something, or just drop it. She's pretty cool, the baggage was sort of a bummer. I'm trying to think of a way to game her and get her to come hang out or something where I can just be me and run my game. I figure the more time I give her the better, plus it gives me tons of time to game other chicks.
Any tips fellas?
Well dude this is one of the weird as fuck things about girls.. now that you handled it the way you did.. you can go back to gaming her pretty much as normal. Lol. I think your style of communication is such that you can sorta go free reign and not have to worry much. That being said I think you should post the convo I'll take a look at it.
Sure man, I'll post it up I might still have it or at least a bit of it if my history hasn't cleared.
I remember the face-to-face interactions we had were great like tons of flirting, shit tests being constantly thrown at me. I passed each and every one in person, but this is what happened in text. She actually has a couple mutual friends and they've been telling me she is very indecisisive and a little overdramatic/crazy so I'm not surprised at this weird situation. Then again, it could be just her being honest. I don't know, from the interactions we had and the time I talked to her, she seemed normal to me.
This was the last bit:
Me: Hey, hope you feel better, sorry I couldn't stick around I wasn't feeling too well. I gotta say you seem a bit off, is everything cool?
Her: it's okay, I'll never be fully happy and satisfied with my life so nothing will really help anyways but thanks
Me: Just take it easy. I have to be honest though, I don't want to waste my time, nor yours. I've been getting to know you and I think you're cool, but it's clear you have quite a bit going on. Just giving you my thoughts on things.
Her: Well thank you, yeah I'm just not at a point in life where I want anything. I'm 100% not over (ex's name) yet and there's no way I'd be able to make anybody else happy when I'm not even happy.
Me: Yes, I can see that
Her: I need to figure myself out before I even think about involving another person
Me: I agree, do what you have to do
Her: Thank you Alex, really..
Me: No need to thank me, as long as you're doing what you have to do to be happy, no one can put you down about it. It's a shitty situation though, it was cool getting to know you.
Her: I'm sorry, I'm just not ready for anything or to start anything with anyone. I'm 100% not happy it truly sucks and like I don't wanna live like this but I need to be alone and get over (Ex's Name)
Me: Don't apologize, I know the feeling. Take your time to do whatever
Her: Alex thank you for everything though
Me: No worries
Her: I'm just not ready to be honest and I appreciate you being respectful
Me: I've been there. Just take it easy. It was nice to meet you
Her: Thanks and you too
That was that, the other convos I might still have but they were just heavy flirting and shit.
Uh, yeah just game the fuck out of her.
Hahaha really even though she cancelled our hangout cause she wasn't ready?
I could shoot her a reengagement text tmr if you think it's worth it, I mean I want to...I just thought she wanted to be left alone LOL
Ok is there a part of that I'm not seeing in this text convo? You need to let me read the relevant shit dude
No that's the whole convo, that's just what she said when I last saw her in person on Wednesday night, we were supposed to chill but she said we shouldn't cause she isn't ready yet because of that guy and how she needed to be alone to figure things out.
It it was the same process just me telling her "ok, I understand"
Bit of an update her, worked up a convo with her, I tried not to over think it and just have fun and it was going great since I was from a place of self amusement. So I wasn't really attached to the outcome but it's a little weird now.... LOL
Me: How's my fav doing?
Her: Good how are you
Me: Oh no...I meant Alex Jr. :) (her fish lol)
Her: oh awkward haha he's good
Me: Jk aha, I'm fantastic. Just saw some little girl bullying some kid at the park down the road, made me think of you :p
Her: Hahahaha oh jeez thanks
Me: I saw it and was like I kinda miss her.. Then I ditched all the other girls I was talkin' too and decided to see how you were doing
Her: Other girls?
Her: Hahahaha well I'm good!
Me: Yeah, I said I just had to go, something important came up ;)
Her: Hahaha oh wow thanks
Me: I know, you're welcome. They were a little offended, but hey, you can't please everyone
Her: I know, exactly!
Me: Plus I was thinking how could I see you again if I'm too busy with these hoes! Had to cut them loose, Priorities yenno...
Her: Hahahaha wow getting your shit together
Me: Duh, so some stuffs gotta change. We see each other this week, go do something fun and you gotta keep a smile on your face
Her: haha what why!
Me: We both deserve a fun time, plus its totally a bonus if I get to see that dorky smile :)
--- She doesn't reply after reading for like 3 hours---
Me: You can't just leave me hanging, you're going to have to say something
Her: I just don't think its a good idea, I'm sorry
Me: Why would you think that
Her: because I told you I'm not over (ex's name) and like I don't want to give you the wrong idea
Me: I know, I remember. It's not going to be this big thing, just a relaxed time
Her: it's just not a good idea
Me: Okay, cool I don't want to pressure you. I want us to stay in touch though
She kept the convo going, but is just going on about how she's trying to figure out what makes her happy and she's going on about how she'll always love her ex lol.... this is quite a bit of baggage......
Not sure how to play it out now. Might just end convo soon and give her a few weeks and continue gaming other chicks
The timeline is all over the place here. You haven't met this chick out for a while then? Keep gaming her but I'd get tired of the ex-bf thing really quick. Obviously be sensitive to her feelings as she is probably in a spinny daze but the best thing you could do for her is to take her out and show her a good time.
Last time you met her out you kissed her but she kept bringing up the bf?
Mmmm yeah, I'm talking to girl thats badass right now and she's very adamant about not hanging one on one because she has a bf. just be cool with it. Continue inviting her out to social events and be a badass. If they break up you'll get laid, if not then she'll get drunk one night and you might still get laid. Lol.
Now, ow, this girl is a little different since it's her ex. I would invite her out but if she brings up this stuff either immediately ignore or change topics. When she does something you like, high five, hug, compliment, etc. She'll get the message or burn out. Either way, you know where you stand
I appreciate the help guys but I think this is a waste of time. She's very standoffish and accused me of telling her exbf everything she told me.... I don't even know him LOL
everyone was right, this girl is off her rocker.
Im gonna "next" her...