Getting girls to meet near your place when they live far away

Do you have the convo? Post it if you do!!

I pretty much drove across the country for a man before, this is just another wall to break down. It can be done.  

Fireworks at my house later...Can i borrow your lighter

If you were a chick and you don't even know a guy why would you meet up him somewhere way outtown where all kinds of shit can happen and you're stuck if the dude turns out to be a fucking chode. Also it's obvious you just wanna fuck and thats way too much pressure if she's not even sure about you.

Just meet her somewhere in the city where you can actually do stuff, get drinks etc. Then take her back home with your car or the cab after the date. Taking a chick home is endgame. 

If you already fucked or she's just that into you it's a different story but not in your case.

@Fembot: the convo is too long to put it here :O, agree anything can be done

@Johhny: yea agree, definatively sounds reasonable. But I guess players like MW probably have some strategies on how to do it, probably framing themself as the authority, leading the conversation, building trust to make the girl even come over to their house.

Like I said if she's really into you, it's no biggy but the interaction and the frame leading up to that have to be rock solid. 

It can't be about sex. Find something fun that the date can be about. For example challenge her to a game. Tell her you'll emberass her at beerpong or something.

Build a shelf and tell her she can make you sammiches ;) You get the idea - That takes care of the  meetup anxiety.

And manwhore doesn't use strategies, he fucks chicks. There's a difference.

The farther away she lives the more she will flake. This is a fact. I usually overhype the bar we are going to ("its the best wine in the universe" "her: maybe you should come to my area" "me: you don't understand, this wine will change your life") but don't blame yourself if she doesn't do it

I live in the suburbs of a major metropolitan area as well and usuall the girls I meet do not live in close proximity to me.  After pushing too hard to get girls back to my place I go in with the mindset of:

1) Buildling strong rapport and having fun with the girl.

    -This is good to do for many other reasons, but it will also make her more comfortable if you do decide to move closer.  I wouldn't focus too much on just F*&(n'g the girl, that's always good, but if you are having fun and building rapport (physically escalating) that will come.

2) Make sure to drive.

    -That way if you need to go back to your place or bounce to another spot you have more control over the logistics.

3) Try to get her somewhere more intimate.

    -As much as I love coffee bars etc. its hard to escalate in these situations unless there is strong physical rapport already built.  I try to have a built in walk to the next location, and/or some transition that will allow me to escalate w/o be super creeper. Calibrate this, you live and you learn.  For your particular situation I would suggest something really open and then go somewhere

4) Inch closer and closer, don't say "Let's go back to my house and watch Bruce Lee movies, I live 30 minutes away." Say "There is this cool ass chocolate shop, I need to grab some for aunt really quick its right down the street." Now she is that much closer to your spot.  Proceed accordingly until you are about 15 minutes away and hope there is no traffic.  Traffic is a CBLOCK

5) I'm not sure how advanced you are, but from my experiences girls will be a bit distant and/or closed off at first since they are sorta skeptical.  Keep this in mind and do not get frustrated if she is bitchy or doesn't alow you to escalate physically.  As long as you are a cool dude time is on your side and she will open up.