Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
Sat, 10/20/2012 - 23:37
This week I texted a few girls and hit rock bottom. None of them texted me back. I know I'm doing something wrong, but I don't know what. I was wondering if anyone could help steer me in the right direction and point out what I'm doing wrong.
Here are the contexts of the texting situations with two different girls:
Scenario 1
I asked if she was going to this club on Thursday (the club we first met at). She says "I think so. It's the best night in town for dancing". I reply "Perfect, then I'll see you there."
I show up at the club on Thurs and she never showed. It didn't feel like a "date" in the technical sense, since we just said we were both going to a club for an event on the same night, but I don't know what to text her now. I was thinking maybe I should've set a more formal date in a different place than we met because we met at the club. What do you think?
Scenario 2
A chick was supposed to come over last week and cook dinner with me, but that never panned out. So this week I texted her "Chef Stmercury is gonna cook his epic dish this weekend. Could you bring fresh basil?" I got no response. What can I text her now to get the momentum going again. It's Saturday, so do you think it's bad to text girls over the weekend and best to text them during the weekday?
Thanks in advance for your help.
Here are the contexts of the texting situations with two different girls:
Scenario 1
I asked if she was going to this club on Thursday (the club we first met at). She says "I think so. It's the best night in town for dancing". I reply "Perfect, then I'll see you there."
I show up at the club on Thurs and she never showed. It didn't feel like a "date" in the technical sense, since we just said we were both going to a club for an event on the same night, but I don't know what to text her now. I was thinking maybe I should've set a more formal date in a different place than we met because we met at the club. What do you think?
Scenario 2
A chick was supposed to come over last week and cook dinner with me, but that never panned out. So this week I texted her "Chef Stmercury is gonna cook his epic dish this weekend. Could you bring fresh basil?" I got no response. What can I text her now to get the momentum going again. It's Saturday, so do you think it's bad to text girls over the weekend and best to text them during the weekday?
Thanks in advance for your help.
Sun, 10/21/2012 - 00:23
#1
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
Well the first one is like.. nothing. She just didn't go to the club. You didn't actually make plans with her so no skin off your back.
Second girl.. asking her to bring cooking ingredients to your house after a botched cooking session is just weird.
Second girl.. asking her to bring cooking ingredients to your house after a botched cooking session is just weird.
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Sun, 10/21/2012 - 09:31
#2
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
@Manwhore:
Great points. With the second girl I was sort of being facetious, but I can see why that would be weird now. What do you think I can text her next week to recover from this mishap? Was thinking something like "Was totally joking about the basil, I got some of my own. The dish was good. Too bad you couldn't taste it." Thoughts?
Great points. With the second girl I was sort of being facetious, but I can see why that would be weird now. What do you think I can text her next week to recover from this mishap? Was thinking something like "Was totally joking about the basil, I got some of my own. The dish was good. Too bad you couldn't taste it." Thoughts?
Sun, 10/21/2012 - 12:31
#3
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
No if you fubar like that you dont bring it up like youre apologizing to your momma, you just pass it by
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Sun, 10/21/2012 - 16:08
#4
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
@stmercury:
Throw em this song and watch their panties drop.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOXm_qmC05o
Throw em this song and watch their panties drop.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOXm_qmC05o
Sun, 10/21/2012 - 16:32
#5
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
@Manwhore:
Got it. I'm struggling with a text to send her next week. What do you think would be a good starter text to pick up after the fubar. Thanks for taking the time to write by the way.
Got it. I'm struggling with a text to send her next week. What do you think would be a good starter text to pick up after the fubar. Thanks for taking the time to write by the way.
Sun, 10/21/2012 - 17:08
#6
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
@stmercury:
How often do you go out? Give us some more information about your experience etc.
You're super technical and logical. Do you have a wing you go out with? I have a feeling you're VERY logical when you're out
Anyway- You're makin a real solid effort to send some funny texts, so that's cool.
I would send her somethin like, "Hey beb, grabbin a flight to colombia to become an evil druglord- pack light and bring snacks: You DO know how to make a sandwich, don't you"
Somethin like that- you just wanna throw out some random shit that has nothing to do with your last next. Make it playful and a little ridiculous and then make it slightly accusatory in a funny way (that's how you guaranty the response)
How often do you go out? Give us some more information about your experience etc.
You're super technical and logical. Do you have a wing you go out with? I have a feeling you're VERY logical when you're out
Anyway- You're makin a real solid effort to send some funny texts, so that's cool.
I would send her somethin like, "Hey beb, grabbin a flight to colombia to become an evil druglord- pack light and bring snacks: You DO know how to make a sandwich, don't you"
Somethin like that- you just wanna throw out some random shit that has nothing to do with your last next. Make it playful and a little ridiculous and then make it slightly accusatory in a funny way (that's how you guaranty the response)
Mon, 10/22/2012 - 00:54
#7
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
@stmercury:
"is it mean if I put laxatives in my milk, my roomates keep drinking out of it."
send her that
"is it mean if I put laxatives in my milk, my roomates keep drinking out of it."
send her that
Mon, 10/22/2012 - 06:32
#8
Re: Getting no textbacks from a couple girls, Need help
Thanks for the funny text suggestions. My text game is not perfect, but I have often found that the best texts that hit home are ones that are:
-Short
-To the point
-Not so serious and formal
-Show that you value yourself
Funny texts are very risky. You could easily be too funny and risk her seeing you as just a friend. You could also risk her seeing you as someone who is trying too hard. None of these are attractive. Funny is good, but I think there has to be a point to it and you should use it in a way that elevates your value in her eyes. Humor is a weapon that should be used with a purpose.
My purpose for texting a girl early in the week is to build up momentum so that I can ask her out later in the week. I've found that if your first text is asking her out, she will not respond. So I'm looking for a text that allows me to build momentum first, so that I can ask her out in my second text.
Let me know what you guys think, but I think a good momentum text would be one that starts off with a question. Not a plain, boring question like "how was your weekend?", but an interesting question about her. Of course you can tailor it to what you know about her. But if you don't remember anything in particular, a good default is to ask a question about work or school. This is because the beginning of every week is the start of work or school for everyone. All girls can relate to that. As to what exactly to text, I still don't know. But I think this is a good general direction. Thoughts?
-Short
-To the point
-Not so serious and formal
-Show that you value yourself
Funny texts are very risky. You could easily be too funny and risk her seeing you as just a friend. You could also risk her seeing you as someone who is trying too hard. None of these are attractive. Funny is good, but I think there has to be a point to it and you should use it in a way that elevates your value in her eyes. Humor is a weapon that should be used with a purpose.
My purpose for texting a girl early in the week is to build up momentum so that I can ask her out later in the week. I've found that if your first text is asking her out, she will not respond. So I'm looking for a text that allows me to build momentum first, so that I can ask her out in my second text.
Let me know what you guys think, but I think a good momentum text would be one that starts off with a question. Not a plain, boring question like "how was your weekend?", but an interesting question about her. Of course you can tailor it to what you know about her. But if you don't remember anything in particular, a good default is to ask a question about work or school. This is because the beginning of every week is the start of work or school for everyone. All girls can relate to that. As to what exactly to text, I still don't know. But I think this is a good general direction. Thoughts?