Getting Roped In Or Just in My Head
This was a quick one minute number close.
Me: XXXX, stay classy mini mouse.
Her: I will!
Me: Hey russian booty, let grab drinks this week. When are you free?
Her:Sunday?
Me: Saturday would be better, are you free then?
Her: I work on Saturday.
Me: K, lets do Sunday then 5? Meet me at 000 Stone street
Her: Just found out I work Sunday as well, don't know until what time. Whats on 000 Stone Street?
Me: K, let me know as you find out. I also have an exam Tuesday so we'll see if I can make it. Definitely don't feel like studying right now
Me: Stone streeet is my dorm. I figured a walk through chinatown and watching old men play majong or..coffee
Her:That's cool. Do you like thai food?
Me: Yeah, love it, why?
Her:There's a lot of thai in Chinatown.
I haven't responsed yet
I feel like she's is trying to rope me in to getting a free dinner. I don't want to do that. Should I just say, "Nahh, we'll save that for a rainy day. I just wanna chill with you for a bit."
Or should I just get dinner with this chick?
I could find a super casual place and get dinner or just pay for half too. How do ya'll deal with this?
I would say let's get a drink and then I'll make you dinner.
But that's just me. I doubt she's trying to get you to pay though. It's way too straight forward of her. If you do go, just pay for half. She'll either be cool or be a bitch about it. Either way, you'll find out as soon as the check drops.
I can tell you right now I see a problem with your mentality there. It's another facet of scarcity mindset, I guess. You're trying to not be "dinner buying chump who goes home alone," instead of being "generous dude who does it just because he wants to."
I've been there man. You should focus on the means not the ends. Who cares if she just wants a free dinner. If so it's her shit. She's a shitty girl.
The opposite is true too. If you're just doing it to "buy sex, dinner-buying chump style" that makes you a shitty dude and she'll feel the same way about you. "Oh there's nothing to him. He's just trying to get cheap sex."
Just be a generous, cool motherfucker. THAT'S how you make very loyal friends and meet really awesome people and fuck some pretty and cool chicks.
You're making assumptions here you don't have to make. You don't have to assume she wants dinner, or that she won't pay, or that you even have to get dinner if that's what she wants. You're pigeon-holing/bottlenecking yourself at a really early stage in the game.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Do what you want to setup the type of dynamic you want
If you fuck it up and she blows out, does not matter
Do not get stuck in trying to set the right impression game
Stay in control of the tension
I would say:
Yeah, maybe we'll get some, but there is other stuff I like to do in Chinatown besides eat thai food. Let's just start with coffee and we can go from there.
Let us know what you do and how it goes.
^ Exactly, you could easily set it up like that
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
This ended up going flat. She wasn't very responsive in text, so it was tough to reengage her. Here's the convo.
Her:That's cool. Do you like thai food?
Me: Yeah, love it, why?
Her:There's a lot of thai in Chinatown.
Next day
Me: lets get Thai food then. 5:30? Meet same place and we'll head out
Her: I'm busy this weekend.
Me: That's fine, but a quick turnaround. What's behind that?
Her: ?
Me: You just seemed busy all the sudden, but np, shit happens and people get busy.
Her: Homework&work
Me: np, it's a busy time of the year. Homeward for thanksgiving.
Her: No
Me: Well, I'm excited, get to see my fam and not study
Her: That's nice
Me: Well, lets do a raincheck and check in after break, happy thanksgiving dear.
Her: You too!!
Beginning of next week
Me: Russiabutt!! When are you free this week? Let grab a drink.
No response
Next day
Me: Goin to rob a bank and need a driver tomorrow, you down?
Her: Yes
Me: Good. 7 pm tomorrow Chinatown. Hope you like yen.
Me: Its a stickshift, btwn
Next day
Me: All jokes, aside lets meetup for a drink this wknd. Sunday?
Her: I'm working
Next Day
Me: Just got to use a power saw on someone's spine. It was awesome!!!( in retrospect although this was cool to me in my anatomy class, prob no the best reengage txt to a girl on the fence)
Any suggestions?
I might just shoot a date setup txt again tomorrow.