Girl following me around the country...getting weird.
Sup bruthahs, there is alot of context to this situation but I'll try and keep it short and sweet.
3 years ago I was banging this 19 year old in college when I was 27, lol. We stayed in touch and banged sort of regularly and she was always super casual about it and cool. Well I graduated and moved to the other side of the East Coast and we still stay in touch. She is very good looking and a fantastic lay. Like really hot prono good and she is down to fuck literally all the time.
She recently expressed to me that she wants to have a girl on girl interaction. So I said, "well get down here and we'll set this up!" She's coming down in June.
Btw I'm gonna need some advise on this later on lol.
Anyway, about a month ago I told her that she should move down here when she graduates and we'll live together and just go bring girls back to the house. I made sure and tell her that we will not be in a relationship and I will be bringing home girls of my own and she will be bringing home guys of her own as well. She said, "yeah thats fine."
Well lately she's been saying, "I love you", "Hey baby" and when I tell her not to say those things she says she is only kidding and to chill out. I also told her I may be moving to Austin, Texas soon and she is just down to go with no schedule of her own and will start sending me cost of living sheets and how she's excited about this. It makes me feel like she is way more invested in the situation than I am.
After looking at this situation under a microscope she definitely has insecurities and daddy issues. For example, I'll send her pics of hot bi girls that I run into where I live and ask her if she wants to get down with them and she is starting this crap where "I only want a girl that is uglier than I am and she must have big boobs.
When I repeat that I'll be bringing home girls of my own she says that she'll get super jealous about it. Then I'll confront her jealousy issues and she says that she was jsut kidding and she'll probably just join in.
So I'm thinking either I call the whole thing off or if she does come to live in my city we do not live together.
What do you guys think?
She definitely looks at me like a father figure, I jsut dont want a psycho roommate/girl trying to be my girlfriend living with me.
Do you guys think there is a way to keep her tamed or will I just run into headaches?
Shit you're a boss man !
I don't know, sounds like a good deal to me. Is there anyway to avoid making it concrete. Like have her just come down for a month and see if that goes well?
Yeah that's a good idea. I'll also try and get her to come down in June for longer than 3 days as planned. I've never spent more than 4 hours in person with her at one time. If she starts getting on my nerves I'll let her know it.
Yo sorry it took me so long to get to this. Busy as fuck and some BIG shit coming soon ;)
I'd fucking definitely make this happen and really force the issue with "other girls". MAKE her hit on other girls, like actually coach this chick in what to do. If nothing else man, this is just a great life experience. You've basically got a live in female slave you can put all KINDS of expectations on. lol. I've done this myself a couple times now. It's not like you can't handle shit if things go awry, of course you can.. so there's nothing to worry about just do it.
One thing you got to realize/acknowledge.. this girl is scared. She's retreating to the typical female comfort zone.. she's nesting. Let her know shit is going to be just fine she's got nothing to worry about she's your main bitch but you need her help indoctrinating new bitches. She just wants to know she's special, and that she's safe.
I let a girl know SUPER CLEARLY that her role and her "fun factor" is not at ALL at risk just because there's another naked girl running around the house too.
Ok so what your saying is go ahead and enter into an open relationship with this girl because it's basically an atm card for all kinds of freaky sex. Interesting.
What about during a threesome? I'd probably have to pay special attention to her than the other girl
Depends. First of all you want to make sure she's fully on board. A pissed off chick can be super inventive about how she tries to ramrod/sabotage the vibe. Got to cut that shit short if it starts to happen. Get her wanting it. And then yeah from there you can get creative about how you handle the two girls.