This girl has a baby...
What's up guys? I know this girl likes me...she's always responding to my texts quickly, she laughs at my jokes, and constantly tells me I'm funny. Well, I went for the meet up and got jumped with some interesting news. From the title of this thread, you probably can figure it out. Here's the cut out from our text thread:
Me: haha we should go do something tomorrow
Her: What do you mean?
Me: I want to take on a date...I'll kick your ass at mini golf. Say tomorrow, 6pm?
Her: Idk I have a baby Vincent and she's always with me except on weekends...
I'm not sure what to do. Any suggestions are appreciated.
So I've come up with some ideas. The first is to change the date to ice cream and just have her bring her kid along, and everyone wins. This I believe is good for a couple of reasons. She doesn't need to get a baby sittter. I get my date. It shows I'm a totally understanding guy who is cool with her having a kid, and that I'm not just in this for her.
The other thing I could do is to set up a meet up for this weekend. I could respond to her text with something like, "haha that's cool. I have a 2 year old cousin that I love playing sports with. How old is your baby?" and then gradually go for the meet up again. By asking about the baby, it shows I'm interested in the kid. By mentioning my 2 year old cousin, it shows I'm great with kids.
Bish should get a babysitter. Don't try to bend over backwards to accomodate a kid. It's not normal, this girl isn't acting normal. I'd call her on it. "Yo if you can't figure out how to handle a baby and still go out you're going to be one lonely girl"
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I would acknowledge that she's a busy mom with real responsibilities but I wouldn't start trying to hang out with the kid around or paint yourself as a role model. Ask yourself who you want to be to this girl: the guy who courts her and tries to woo her by proving himself to be relationship and potential "daddy" material, or the fun guy who gets that she's busy and has responsibilities, is able to make provisions for that, able to work around her schedule to take her out, offer her a much needed break and show her a good time?
Bish should get a babysitter. Don't try to bend over backwards to accomodate a kid. It's not normal, this girl isn't acting normal. I'd call her on it. "Yo if you can't figure out how to handle a baby and still go out you're going to be one lonely girl"
I read it a bit differently. If you knew she had a kid full time and are just all "yo, mini golf, 6pm" to me it kinda shows a lack of "getting it". I interpreted her reply as reacting to that
Thanks for the response Manwhore. I work with this girl, and I don't want any problems. Does this change the situation or should I still shoot her that text?
Nah, I had no idea she even had a kid. She works all day during the week, so I agree with Manwhore that she's acting weird.