Girl isn't as communicative over text as she is in person - input appreciated
Hey fellas, been a while. So I’m having this situation where I met a girl on tinder, slept with her that night, and she stayed over with me. Everything was pretty damn solid in person and was a good time – however I’m finding on text that she’s not nearly as communicative as she was in person. I like this girl and ideally I’d like to continue to see her.
The one thing I was thinking of is that I was perhaps a bit too into her, and perhaps that came off somehow. The night started with me not really being THAT into her, but still enjoyed the time. It was more after when we had sex and hung out for a while longer in bed that I started to feel differently about her. Didn’t really say or do anything that gave off strong signals of that, but the vibe could’ve been there a little bit, with the cuddling and chit chat, etc. I don’t see how it could’ve made her feel differently about me, but something seems off in my opinion – could just be me looking into things way too much..
The other thing is – maybe she’s just not a big texter? She never really was THAT talkative either via text before we met. I would like to explore this further, but hesitant in fear of rocking the boat/being too available. I suppose I thought she would’ve wanted to chat more on text, and I’m thrown off that she’s not more interested in doing that.
We do have plans to get together this Friday, so there’s that.
Any input is appreciated.
You brought it up at all? What about your actual phone convos?
Okay, so I'll post the texts from when we started texting after we had sex. Met her Saturday night, she left Sunday morning, and then I texted her Monday. The only thing I did to bring it up was playfully tease her about not being a big texter - any ideas on how to address this better?l MW?
First I thought she would've found the cum stain text funnier - she was a little embasrassed by it when it happeneD, and I teased her a bit for it, but then praised her and told her it was like a flattering souvenir for me lol.
The other thing I can see which is the main point of all this is that the eagerness was coming out somewhat through my texts off the bat. I came in a little too hot with those texts - although I was pretty excited to talk with her to be frank. Having said that - I feel like it wasn't handled that poorly, and could've gone WAY worse.
One of the things I had to restrain myself from doing Saturday night was being too boyfriendy, such as maybe kissing her while cuddling with her, holding her hand, etc. I would've liked to be more like that, but felt I would've been far too "clingy" so fast. Her and I both came out of relationships within the past few months. Funny, because I think that part of the reason she is not that communicative is because I mightve been too available, but at the same time I feel like had I honestly expressed myself and desires, and ultimately gave her that warmth I withheld - perhaps it would've been what ultimately had her develop more feelings and be more comfortable with me.
Shes not some crazy party hoe by any means, and I'd have to put her in the more "down to earth" bucket if I had to give color to her. Perhaps she needed some extra comfort building before feeling more open.
Hmm, yeah, I know what you're saying. I think that everything will be fine, and the reason I started tripping about this was because although I felt emotions for this girl - I heavily muted the communication of them, perhaps making her feel a bit cold towards me for not being more expressive/warm to her (hence her aversion to frequent texting), which in turn I register as "not interested" - meanwhile still having feelings for her and hence the me tripping. Hmm.
Any other thoughts? Would love to explore this a bit further.
I can't see the pictures you attached for some reason but kimnastybitch is right on the money.
Let's say for whatever reason she were to back out (she hasn't) - would it best to lay off her for a few days and retry then, or to address what I now believe the issue might be ? I haven't really been in a situation where I'd be doing something like this (if I address it).
Thanks kimnasty/MW. Will give it a shot.
Dude I still can't even read the texts lol. I can't gauge anything. Tried a lil light sexting? Hinted at something a bit deeper? Lol