Girl just wont meet up!
This is a really frustrating situation. I met this girl out 6months ago. We only chatted for 5mins before I got her number. Since then we have been texting on and off. Ive probably invited her to hang out 10 times now and shes blown me off or had an excuse everytime. Almost all our text convos go something like the one below. I know this girl is into me because she called my up one night when she was drunk and incoherent. She then sent me multiple texts telling me she loves me.
This girl is an 18 year old half asian living with her parents and studying law. She just moved here from another country and doesnt really know anyone. She lives 20min away from me and I dont think she has her own car. I have a feeling she may have a strict family but I have no proof of that. She turned 18 in feb and still hasnt been out to a club or bar.
So. Last week after blowing me off she told me that she would be free this week because its uni holidays. She said that she will come see me but when i text her today it was the same bs. I guess i got frustrated towards the end and pushed a bit harder for her to come over despite her already saying shes babysitiing . She also pissed me off when I asked for her schedule and she gave me this super fucking vague reply.
These texts were all getting sent back and forth in intervals of 3minutes or less. The last few messages she sent took her 25minutes to write. I put a time stamp on those last few.
ME: How was yer easter young lady. I didnt do shit for it lol
HER: Lolol neither. What even is easter?
ME: yup, I only get excited when its my birthday. How was ur weekend, did you end up at anymore toga parties?(inside joke)
HER: Whens your birthday? HAHA youre never gona give it up are ya
ME: My birthday is 12th october so you have time to organise a suprise party for me. Whens yours?
HER: Thats ages away!!! But of course ;) feb 7th!
ME: Awesome. You can make it a toga party lol. Feb 7 what star sign is that?
HER: hahahahahahaha you just want to see me in a just a cloth, Aquarius! You?
ME: Ya and you can jump out of the birthday cake right before i blow out the candles. Hmm Im a libra. i dont think were gona get along beb
HER: Well i guess this is goodbye baby
ME: Yup cant argue with the stars. You better still throw me a suprise party tho or ima throw a fit lol
HER: What if i dont
ME: Ill just put you in the naughty corner and spank you till you behave
HER: Is that so
ME: haha derrr. WHatcha up to today bebe?
HER: Why are you wanting to take me out? ;)
ME: Ya you owe me an easter egg remember. Come into beachcity and well get some icecream
25mins HER: Yeah ill come except I dont kno if i can do today cause I have to babysit :(
ME: Well whats yer schedule this week woman. I demand my easter egg!
15mins HER: Im going to throw the egg in your face slut. I should be good sometime this week!
1minME: Ill make you lick it off
6minME: Come throw it at me later this arvo Ill allow it!
3hrsHER: If i finish babysitting early ill try and come
Yeah I've been in this situation a few times lately. With the super hot girls. I don't have any advice though. Hopefully someone can chime in.
Yep this girls definitely really hot.
I only heard a little bit of the call today so wait for manwhore to chime in, but its like the same problem as with the shower girl. You are awesome enough to get the girl in the shower or a number in a few minutes but you are missing something that won't let you escalate further on the shower girl. Or that makes you half step these texts and text her like she is a super hot girl not like your bratty lil cousin.
I don't really know what that is because I disconnected from the call but what did you and manwhore talk about after? The answer lies somewhere in there.
In regards to this one you need to hit her with something harder. Show her your junk via text
edit: yeah thats why we wait for manwhore
You completely switched up the dynamic and where she was chasing you before now SHE is the buyer. You're chasing her, this isn't what made her attracted to you in the first place. You can't do that mang, she's lost a lot if not all attraction for you at this point. You got to be higher value when doing this shit.
You should be kind of "meaner" to this chick if she's chasing you that hard.
ME: How was yer easter young lady. I didnt do shit for it lol
HER: Lolol neither. What even is easter?
Me: Just another holiday where you get an excuse to act gay. That's all you want
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I only heard a little bit of the call today so wait for manwhore to chime in, but its like the same problem as with the shower girl. You are awesome enough to get the girl in the shower or a number in a few minutes but you are missing something that won't let you escalate further on the shower girl. Or that makes you half step these texts and text her like she is a super hot girl not like your bratty lil cousin.I don't really know what that is because I disconnected from the call but what did you and manwhore talk about after? The answer lies somewhere in there.
In regards to this one you need to hit her with something harder. Show her your junk via text
edit: yeah thats why we wait for manwhore
Yeah I think its all still somewhat related. Im not sure at what point you got disconnected but manwhore basically told me I need to be more aggressive in those situations and I need to be smoother and overwhelming with my escalation. Turning her around in the shower and pinning her against the wall while I fondle her from behind would have been a nice transition. Tripping her over and putting my cock in her mouth would have been stellar aswell lol.
Overall I need to be higher energy/intensity in most situations and definitely need to manhandle & dominate these girls more. Im giving them too much control.
You completely switched up the dynamic and where she was chasing you before now SHE is the buyer. You're chasing her, this isn't what made her attracted to you in the first place. You can't do that mang, she's lost a lot if not all attraction for you at this point. You got to be higher value when doing this shit.You should be kind of "meaner" to this chick if she's chasing you that hard.
ME: How was yer easter young lady. I didnt do shit for it lol
HER: Lolol neither. What even is easter?
Me: Just another holiday where you get an excuse to act gay. That's all you want
Yeah yer right, Ive been chasing this chick pretty hard. So occasionally being mean to her is a good way to re establish the buyer frame that I want to be coming from? Kinda just like validation stripping or pushing in cold approach?
Uhh, in a phrase.. yes. Probably a bit more complicated than that but that will suffice I think.
Manwhore wrote:
You completely switched up the dynamic and where she was chasing you before now SHE is the buyer. You're chasing her, this isn't what made her attracted to you in the first place. You can't do that mang, she's lost a lot if not all attraction for you at this point. You got to be higher value when doing this shit.You should be kind of "meaner" to this chick if she's chasing you that hard.
ME: How was yer easter young lady. I didnt do shit for it lol
HER: Lolol neither. What even is easter?
Me: Just another holiday where you get an excuse to act gay. That's all you want
Yeah yer right, Ive been chasing this chick pretty hard. So occasionally being mean to her is a good way to re establish the buyer frame that I want to be coming from? Kinda just like validation stripping or pushing in cold approach?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Ok cool.
btw which texts out of that convo are you reffering to when you say im chasing? I think I could guess but i just want to be totally clear on it.
Im thinking it was the 3 meetup attempts, yeah?
Ok so very interesting. This chick started chasing super hard again on the weekend. I was out of town so I thought just ignoring her was a pretty good idea to drive it home that shes chasing me now. I hit her up on monday and she immediately tries to plan ice cream with me. I set up a date for friday and I want to know how you would proceed with this? Should I text her on thursday to make an exact time for the date? If so then how should I act when I text her?
Also should I drop the playfull petnames and humour when shes chasing me this hard?
Friday night 7:30pm
HER: Hey u
Saturday night 10:30pm
HER: call .e (drunk txt?)
Monday Night
ME: Whats been happenin beb how was yer weekend?
HER: Nothing much, I just finished umpiring wana do ice cream soon I do owe ya
ME: Yer but Im going to make you put extra sprinkles on mine. Are you still on holidays or are you back to your nerdy ways?
HER: Back to nerdy ways tomorrow :(
ME: Well what day are you down for icecream cones nerdbutt?
HER: Im guna slap u friday maybs?
ME: Friday arvo sounds good. Have a good week beb.
HER: Awesomeeeeee ya you too
Have a good week beb is pretty dismissive. Remember this girl is feeling something but that text is RELEASING her, practically rejecting her feelings/emotions. Just saying. It may not end up meaning anything, but it could.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Yeah that text was intended to come across that way. I only did it because she said "friday maybs" in her preious text. I interpret that as though shes being vague as usual and not trying to make solid plans so I wanted to act a little bit jaded by her behaviour.
So apart from that I should just proceed as usual and hit her up today to exchange some banter and solidify plans?
Ok I see what you mean but that's the wrong way to handle that sort of thing. "Escalate her escalation"
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
K that makes sense. Thanks holmes