Girl randomly puts me down in streets of LA
Friday night I was out in Los angeles. Just to clarify , I was in state, in a positive mood and feeling good.
I was about to get in line to get into a club.. when a group of asian girls walk past me.
One of the girls from the group, then walks directly up to me, and does the hand to her forehead to my forehead move (checking height)
we are the same height btw.
She then sighs outloud and says "phew, I feel better about myself!" then keeps walking past me..
There was an asian guy in my group that I met that night, he was my height also (5'6") and he heard what she said to me.
He went on to say "That's fucked up man".. trying to console me.. but it really didn't phase me.
It caught me off guard, but after the interaction my state remained the same...I just said "I'm not worried about it"
I'm just curious as to what would cause a girl to go out of her way to put a guy down like that?
If this would of happened 2 years ago.. I probably would have felt like shit the rest of the night.
Now I'm wondering if I should of returned the favor and said something like..
"Your breath smells like dog bitch" and motioned her to shoo fly, you're bothering me with my hand
She has assburgers and acute-chronic-explosive diarrhea.. Plus her dad just died.. Killed himself because of the diarrhea.. Plus full blown aids.. I'd be pissed too. Sadly, sometimes all we can do for people like her is feel a deep pity for the unfortunate circumstances of their life.
Dunno mangs. That doesnt seem that bad. Lol. Probs why it didnt affect you. Probably wouldve had some words with her where im tooling her in front of everyone. (im good at talking shit lol) gotta be quick on yer feet. Miss a beat and it's basically too late and try hard.
Yea, definitely shit behaviour...
Guess it just comes down to that.
I feel bad for the more weak minded guys she comes across that will take shit like that to heart.
Imagine a hardcase newbie hearing that his first night out? harsh!
This has been on my mind a lot today, strangely. A weird little insignificant detail from my life about fifteen years or so ago keeps popping into my head. I was watching Canada's counterpart to MTV, MuchMusic; there was a "VJ" interviewing a bunch of teens at a punk show. The "VJ" struck me as a cool, pretty, obviously well-socialized chick. The teenage punk girl she was interviewing was acting like an ass to her. She insulted the interviewers hair, insulted the band, insulted the venue and probably threw in a few other random shitty insults. For a moment I watched and waited for what I thought would certainly be a well calculated dismissal of some kind by the interviewer, I was almost hoping that she would knock this little shit down a peg. Instead I saw what I would describe as a mix of sadness and kindness flash over the interviewers face. She seemed to almost energetically "pick up" on the kids sadness. She made a cheery comment, said goodbye politely and moved on.
There are obviously many ways you can respond to an insult. On a very low conscious level you could be offended or hurt, maybe choosing to retaliate, certainly letting it affect your state. On a higher level, you can be aware that someone has insulted you but choose not to let it affect you (sounds like what you did/ probably what I would have done). On a higher level level still, and I think this was the frame of the VJ, you are completely out of reach and oblivious that you have been insulted at all and all you see is someone lashing out in pain.
This is where it might actually be funny, as a silly thought experiment, (still petty obviously), to actually picture any girl who insults you as having chronic diarrhea. Her precious little asshole raw all the time so she just runs around lashing out and insulting people. That way you can feel sorry for her while trying not to bust out laughing.
She put you down to give herself a state boost. It happens. Girls look for a good target, someone that isn't capable of causing discomfort back. Something in your subcoms let her know you were a good target.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Is it a bad thing to have a smile on your face from being "In-state" and feeling like a million bucks when not even interacting with anyone?
And not like a goofy smile,
But more of a 'I know something you don't" type smile.
That's the only thing I can think of in my subcoms, that made me seem that way.
Other than that.. I'm actually a really calm guy, and not one to lash out or retaliate verbally at anyone... Maybe this somehow shows in my facial expression/body language?
Would it have been a good move to make a girl feel discomfort after a comment like that?
There's a LOT more to subcoms than that mang. And yes when someone fucks with your frame like that, you have to "reject" it, otherwise it can potentially fuck with you internally.. AND.. most importantly, when it comes to macking ho's, you need to realize that you need to be SUPREMELY SELF-CONFIDENT. Like a raging demon. If some chick walks up to you and does that, yeah it may not crash you, but it will hinder you from achieving god-mode because you've allowed a super bitter and negative frame to stand. You've condoned it and therefore mostly validated it.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
The line about being "SUPREMELY SELF-CONFIDENT. Like a raging demon." really struck a chord with me. Even though in retrospect I could say I was feeling confident. When you put it like that.. I feel like I was no where near that level... which makes this little fyasko make more sense.
And another piece to the puzzle is added.
There's a LOT more to subcoms than that mang. And yes when someone fucks with your frame like that, you have to "reject" it, otherwise it can potentially fuck with you internally.. AND.. most importantly, when it comes to macking ho's, you need to realize that you need to be SUPREMELY SELF-CONFIDENT. Like a raging demon. If some chick walks up to you and does that, yeah it may not crash you, but it will hinder you from achieving god-mode because you've allowed a super bitter and negative frame to stand. You've condoned it and therefore mostly validated it.
A.j the issue with that is you do nothing "proactive" with it, just a dimissal. I always prefer to engage to see what can come of it. Usually, unless I'm feeling lazy lol
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
God that makes total sense why i dont feel deflated when i successfully counter a put down. Where as when i "let it go" shit will fuck with me. I just knew the correct choice , and sort of why, but the way you described it is crystal clear.
The worst part is that you are dweliing on it. If you game her you do and if you did not then so what? No one always has the perfec answer for everything, if she legitimally got you then good for her you cannot win them all do not worry about the last time focus on the next time, my man
Keep pimping
i wouldve made fun of her and told her something like yeah you had a real nice sex change