Going from Exclusive Relaitonship to Open/3Somes
Yo yo yo!
So i've been dating this girl for just over 2 months now. She was like my dream girl and I really liked her and I wanted to push things forward with her.
Now I experienced the boyfriend/gilfriend thing. And I definitely would like to redefine the relationship. I know it's hard to change a precedent once it's set. I do know that this girl loves me like a LOT.
I was talking with her last night and casually brought up 3somes. We were joking around. She was like yah, I'll see you saturday unless you're busy with a girl. I said, "oh yah, I may be, but you can come anyways, you'll like her"
Then she said, "I don't want to share you." I said, "haha you're my baby, it's all about you, the other girl is just for fun"
She shrugged and kinda of complied.
Now this conversation went by very casually and I don't know how serious she thought I was being.
But I think that I could possibly redefine the relationship somehow.
The way I would like it to be:
She's my queen, my number 1, I take care of her and she's my number one priority. Then I occasionally go and pick up girls on the side and bang them and filter out for new girls to pull into 3somes with my girl. Then we have a rotation of hotties that have 3somes with us. This is the way I see it. Now let's evaluate the obstacles
Obstacles
1. Doesn't want to share me
2. Worried I'm going to leave her for someone better
3. Nervous about being in a 3some
4. Worried about people finding out and judging her
5. Anyother obstacles do you think?
How to Play it
I suppose from here I need to try to project a different vibe. I need to let her know, she's my queen and no women comes close. And I need to promote a casual non judging frame. "Yo beb. We should get another girl over sometime, that would be fun." Or "you need to meet my friend amanda, you'll like her, she's sweet"
I could even just invite another girl over when she's over and hangout and see how it goes.
Anyways, looking forward to getting your guys feedback. What I really want is for this girl to be my baby and I bang some girls on the side and either ditch them or get them into 3somes with my girls.
The way I would like it to be:She's my queen, my number 1, I take care of her and she's my number one priority. Then I occasionally go and pick up girls on the side and bang them and filter out for new girls to pull into 3somes with my girl. Then we have a rotation of hotties that have 3somes with us. This is the way I see it. Now let's evaluate the obstacles
that's exactly what i want to try with girls. fingers crossed for you man since you already started the releationship in a different way. i just talk openly about not being sure about mongamous relationships right away. girls often say that they don't like this but it doesn't seem to do any harm at all.
have you guys ever talked about her past history with girls, not just the future projections? seems like that would be a smooth transition into action
Yeah Icewahine's got a good point. But dude, haven't we already discussed this before lol. This girl's ALREADY given you permission to fuck other girls she expects it you're the one making it more difficult. Geezez white monkey. Go bang other girls
have you guys ever talked about her past history with girls, not just the future projections? seems like that would be a smooth transition into action
Well she's 17 and hasn't been with any girls yet. But yeah that would be a good transition.
Yeah Icewahine's got a good point. But dude, haven't we already discussed this before lol. This girl's ALREADY given you permission to fuck other girls she expects it you're the one making it more difficult. Geezez white monkey. Go bang other girls
Gah haha yah you're kinda right. Subconsiously she expects me to be wheeling. That's what she got off me from the very get go. I guess it's just a matter of working her up to 3somes. And technically we are exclusive and she even said she'd break up if she found me on Tinder lol. But who knows, maybe she's over that now.
Yeah that's her plausible deniability. P.D. exists across the board. Do what you were born to do P.B.