Great dates that were so close but never materialized. What to learn

So this is something that happens to me ever so often but in different types of circumstances. This one in particular is a bit strange so maybe you guys ran into this before and have some input.

So an online dating date. Girl was very responsive before we initiated the meetup via text. Date 1 started off really well, the vibe was great we had drinks and laughing she was pretty engaged. She also looked pretty awesome in person than her pics. She mentioned to me that I looked different but cuter in real life so I think I should get a photographer but thats for another thread.

Anyway I pull her to another venue where they play cuban / latin music. Its a very sexual vibe there so we are instantly making out. I would say Im a pretty good dancer so we stayed for an hour or two and she was impressed having fun making out. We were probably the centerpiece of the vibes of the dance-floor.  We head out and I try to get her back to my place telling her I have wine my grandfother made. Shes hot and bothered but smiles and makes a joke that we came up with from the first venue. She refuses the first attempt. Instead of making the night end there I take her to another place. We chill there and have some more awesome convo in the outside areas, she tells me what a great night shes having, go in and dance a little more, makeout, etc. Shes riding me pretty hard by this point on the dance floor and I am completely filled with precum. I lead her out and I forget if I mention to come back again but tell her she can get an uber by my place since its on her way home way. She says its fine. Tells me she had really fun several times, I push her against an inner doorway as we wait for her cab that she called, Im pretty horny at this point, she was wearing some top but without a bra so I lift it in the dark and start squeezing her nipples. Her breasts are a perfect big size. She likes it but then pulls it down smiling saying not here. I offer again to ride with me first saying “listen no pressure you dun have to come in or anything.. bla bla” just playing it as it was just to save her money and get her closer to home (Im not sure if this was wrong or whatever, as Im still not the greatest at final mile, but I had asked her to come back already once and didnt wanna push the issue too hard. This was push pull from me so I just read it as her not being ready. Im going to make another post soon about this)

Anyway this is sort of where it gets weird. Now the next day she was responsive and we were talking but after that very very vague and difficult to reach. One word responses, there was definitely a distance a couple days later. Sometimes no text back at all. Now I still need to work on texting but being that this interaction was already solidified there didn’t seem any reason to really have to “game” so hard at this point, since I did fairly well on the date. 

Im also not sure about my strategy with communication. I usually try to talk to a girl here and there (after and before meetups) to keep her warmed up via text. Im not sure if this is correct or not or if there is any need for me to keep speaking until next meetup. In my mind I feel maybe its disrespectful to just go full silent till next meetup or maybe its fear she will go away. Still reading the membership material so maybe Ill gain some light there on this issue, but any insights here would be cool.

Anyway I was actually surprised when I sent her a text asking to to go out again that she responded and accepted. We went out to a new spot and ate somewhere. At one point I fucked up and got confused about where she lived in reference to another girl, lol and she laughed and called me out on it. Personally, I dont think this was an issue but maybe it could have been. We eat and go to a rooftop dance club and I have her really laughing pretty hard to the point people are looking at us. Had a joke that I wanted to be a gynochol when I was younger and was real into female sexuality. Topic of discussion is sex based, talk about toys and shit and stuff I may have I don’t tell her just hint I game with this stuff. I have a swing :) . We go back downstairs to dance and its much like the first date, very sexual, and at one point she told me “I want to see your gynocology skills one day”. So this is a que to me so dance like couple minutes more tell her lets go and lead her outside. Now again, Im still learning here but I get outside holding her hand and at this point I feel like sex is pretty immanent. I was going to call an uber but noticed there are a lot of yellow cabs about 25-30 feet away. Ok a little backstory, before the second date she told me she couldn’t stay out late and had to be up very early for a meeting. I reach out for a taxi and she starts to call an uber. So our bodies are pretty close again and I smile and whisper in like a pretty sexual way “cancel your cab” I smile and tell her to come back with me. Go in for makeout again. She was like “if I come we wont sleep at all” Anyway, I try one more time if I can remember and probably said. “cmon cancel the cab” while smiling. She then mentions how different we are and says you are so European. We are pretty different culturally, even the way we talk is pretty different. Im not sure if this was a mental resistance thing for her and I didnt think anything of it at the time but thought it was worth mentioning. 

Anyway, last couple of years my strategy in situations like this, when I know sex is close, I never pushed it too too much because it would work in my favor in most cases if I wait for next meetup. Looking back Im thinking maybe it would have been better to not do anything but call an uber as soon as I got out of the club. To me I dont think this minute detail should really matter so looking for input here. Maybe walking to the corner where the cabs were got her thinking too much. Or maybe she felt that I was not congruent at this moment. Dunno

Now, morning after was much like the first date. Responsive. I sent her a funny meme of a gynecologist later in the evening. My good friend thought it was a mistake but I thought it was funny as hell. Anyway still not responsive after that. We have light communication over the week. She’d respond three hours later, sometimes a day and sometimes not at all. Like I couldn’t even get rapport going. There was one instance when I had free tickets to a show and called her to come, it was super last minute. She was naked in bed and there was a little flirtation back and forth. I tried to get there with no luck. 

My texts used several different methods like references to our dates and other things. Personally this felt very strange to me. Being that our meetups were so positive I found it weird that she was so crappy with the communication. I asked her out the next thursday for a friday meetup. She said she had a birthday. I told her kool have fun. I texted her two days later and at this point Im just so out of ideas. Again still working on text but I sent a “hey chica, how was your weekend” with no response

This was four days ago, so need some help here. This feels really awkward and a shame for all that attraction and tension to not materialize. Now, the way I look at it is that many girls have several several guys they are speaking to or x boyfriends whatever. This could just be a numbers game but cant help that theres somethig wrong here. Haven’t had sex in a bit and was excited to sex this girl but maybe I was throwing some needy vibes her way. Maybe we got too sexual too quick. Maybe she thinks Im a player? Maybe a dweeb. Im so fucking confused lol

Sorry for making this so long winded, will try to keep these as short as possible but feel theres alot to be learned in the different aspects above. 

Can I do anything to reclaim glory here or should I just leave it alone?