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@Alex123:

This is the last thing I wrote in my "LMFAO" thread:
(originally I wrote this in there but decided it made more sense to make a new topic)

me: Alright baby it's your special day. I got the batmobile I'm rolling thru your town. Got a meeting with the chief of police then it's your turn

Alright, I want to write some shit to get it out there so im not contemplating it endlessly in my head.

basically, I think it's funny that we had a pretty solid phone conversation for like 20 minutes the other night (I ended it she wanted to keep talking), and some solid text banter, I mean MW critiqued and said I gave her a good range of emotions and whatnot. And THEN, when it comes down to the actual meetup, I send those last 3 texts where I guess I sounded "too excited" about it, and then she just bails completely.

I mean man, this game is crazy. Like you can get some GOOD banter going back and forth with a girl, and then miscalculate one part of the interaction (granted, this was the crucial part) but then not get the meetup. Out of all the girls Ive been talking to recently I thought this was the most solid for sure. I mean like I said we talked for 20 min and like actually got to know about each other. The others ive met briefly and then just been texting but its not like weve actually discussed anything serious. I went into some comfort last night with this girl tho talking about her family and how she doesnt have the best relationship w. her mom, partly why she moved out here etc. Nothing amazing but still.

So I just want to say I am really happy im getting better at this, and greatful that there's people out here like Manwhore, who actually want to help guys learn this stuff. I have NO idea how else I would learn this if I didn't have anyone to learn from. Like I would still have the shitty ass text game that I used to have, and feel like shit because every girl I met would just trail off and end up not texting back.

Its awesome the more and more dots Im connecting. And whats crazy is.... I still SUCK. Haha. I mean I havent been able to get one of these girls on a date this summer (although my logistics are ridiculous most of these girls are like an hour away & i have no car). It still feels like, ok, I haven't even gotten to the "Day 2" phase or Date phase, and then from there thats a whole nother skillset where Im going to be back at zero again. And THEN, there's closing once Im ON the date.

Geeeezus Christ. Hahaha.

So with that being said, I tip my hat to guys like Manwhore and all the people that actually want to help other guys get good at this. It's fucking awesome. Like even the limited amount of success I've had texting recently makes me feel amazing. I dont know about you guys, but I feel like complete shit when Im out there meeting women, giving it my all, practicing, watching videos, reading about this shit, and then when it comes to texting they just stop replying. Its honestly so depressing.

So thanks.
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@Alex123:

Just keep paying your dues homie. Keep doing what you're doing and a year from now - if you stay consistent - you will read this post and crack a smile maybe even shed a tear at how much you've grown and how awesome you are. Also base your happiness on what you can control - TAKING THE RIGHT ACTION. If you know you gave it your all are you really going to get mad at yourself. Like try it - it's impossible. When i give it my all and "leave my heart and soul" out there - there is absolutely no way I can get mad at myself.

Like trust - the bad times make the good times feel sooooo motherfuckin good. I'm currently in a slump/dry spell myself trying to "claw my way out of scarcity" but I just know I have to keep going....because that's the only option....no girl is going to magically slip onto my cock until I keep taking the right action. So homie - do the same thing your time will come.

I re-watched this clip this morning and it really struck a nerve w/me to a degree - you should watch it - it's like 3 minutes long.

http://www.mycomeup.com/Business-Opportunities/Motivational-Speech-Of-Th...
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@Katalyst:

Thanks for the advice holmes. You're right it IS impossible to be mad at yourself when you know you gave it your all/ did the best that you could.

Which is cool because I really do feel like I have. I have been putting a lot of thought into my texting lately and like MW says it has improved greatly. With that being said there is still SO much room for improvement. But its awesome that i am getting these long conversations going. THAT alone is new for me, & with that there are so many points at which lessons can be learned. haha its like a videogame where I unlocked a new level I can play now. B.c those lessons were previously unavailable to me

Also a lot of "textgame" theory is totally applicable to live game, so I feel like im getting smarter from texting these girls. For instance what type of vibe to play at what point in the interaction. This is going to be huge for my in person game, as my sense of when to push/pull is getting sharpened.

I like what R. Kelly said about the more struggle you have brings more success. Thanks for sharing.