Gym Chica

Doing squats in the gym, thinking about leaving. A 9 walks by. Plans change. I go over to see if what I saw was legitimate, and yes, she is hot. This is not simping, this is just a factual statement.

So I start using a leg machine near her and try to get eye contact, nope, but still, I am very much thinking about approaching. Now normally, and for the long past while, I haven’t been going up to random girls. And especially at the gym, “don’t shit where you eat right..” Well I cant help myself from looking at her…and then bam she makes her way to the machine directly to my side. Ok, shit, I am thinking, “If I don’t talk to her now, then I am a pussy. And nope, not today I tell mysel!”

After some nervousness, which actually was kind of exciting to feel, I finally muster up the old courage and go for it, “Hey, Hi, so what are you training for?” She’s obviously super athletic, so it must be something. And honestly, right then and there, just doing that, was a victory for me. I was stoked that I took, that tiny risk of rejection, but I went for it.

So what happens? She takes her earphones off immediately and smiles back up and we chat for a few moments. She seems pretty enthusiastic about it. I probably was a bit self-absorbed and maybe qualified myself here or there due to the nerves, but whatever…again, I had already succeeded just by taking on that initial fear. Convo ends with, “I am sure Ill see you around..” I do a few more exercises to pretend I wasn’t hanging around to talk to her :}, then leave…

A few weeks go by, I met her before the holidays, maybe she went somewhere, and I don’t see her at all. So while of course not totally forgetting, Im no longer going into the gym actively looking to see if she is there. Well today, yep, you guessed, she walks right by me. I knew it was her, but I was not looking her way, I could just tell. She doesn’t say anything to me, even though she most definitely saw me, so I just go on with what I doing. I then head to the outer portion of the gym…

I am thinking, well, I know she is here, but honestly whatever, I am only going to say anything if we “organically” pass by each other or see each other. My aim is to simply be who I want to be, my best self, which basically is a fun abundant dude enjoying life….

After about 20 minutes of being outside, yep, she heads on out. She has to see me, cuz I am in direct line of sight and there are only 6 or so other people out in this big space. No eye contact though…Hmm…ok, so same protocol just keep doing my thing, which is basically just stretching in one spot, getting my legs ready for some explosiveness! And btw, my health, wellness, and athleticism is far more important to me than some chica! And honestly I hope she has the same attiude… But anyhow she ends up walking directly towards me to grab some weights and even directly by me, And boom no eye contact. I’m looking at her with a smile just ready to smile and wave, nothing else, just a simple hello! With positive vibes, but straight up, she is going out of her way to not look me in the eye….hmmm…ok then. some feelings of humiliation come up if I am being honest...

Well to make a long story longer she ends up doing some squats about 40 feet directly In front me, facing away from me, meaning her back side is in my view, which I may have looked once of twice…And even on her breaks from the set, when she is sitting and facing directly at me, haha NO EYE CONTACT….Ok I get it.

But I will say this, for what it is worth, I caught her looking at me very briefly, I was in a pretty sweet stretch position and she wasnt expecting me to look her way but then boom eyes straight to the side, I mean damn, this girl is good at acting...

I thought about just going up to her, but I chose not too... But here is the real breakdown of it…

I mean first of all, 100% she knew I was there. Secondly, I can’t believe there are any other number of other dudes who have talked to her in the gym in a calm and casual upbeat manner, in other words, somewhat smooth if I do say so myself…
With that being said, when I left the gym I found myself thinking, “Well, I fucked that one up. I came off too self-absorbed when we chatted, and she’s not interested.” A long time bad habit of self-sabotage and self-doubt conjures up the feelings of simply not being enough….

But hey with that being said let’s look at the possibilities.
One, She is just not interested…

Two, She is just reserved and perhaps doesn’t want to appear as eager…

Three, It was just a straight up shit test to see if I would man up and approach regardless of her “signs,” (in which case I failed!)

Had I just approached today, and asked her how her holidays were or something than went on my merry way, I probably could have found out! But I did not!, I left trying to hold me chest high, but really my tail was between my legs! Lol….

And this saga all started with basically an urge to just face up to some nerves and fear….
That’s my story for now! Thanks for reading! Comment below peeps