Having hard time pulling a date
I'm new here, and I ow alot to MW although I haven't had a coaching course yet.
He made my text game pretty solid (by following he's rules).
I know a girl for about two weeks, met her at a gas station and took her number.
I've been texting to her but could pull her up for a date.
Lthe last time I text her she wrote me that she can't take me seriously because I'm always cocky.
I IGNORED that and kept my frame.
Today after 2 days of not texting to her I send her a text and don't know how to keep this going on. I feel like I lost my creativity.
Me: HEY YOU!
Her: good morning and so.
Me: how are you and so.
Her: I'm fine
Her: cleaning out my closet haha
Her: and you?
Me: are you hiding skeletons?
Me: terrible. Send me some candys.
Her: haha funny.
Her: why terrible??
Please ignore. *damn you double posters*
Her: here you can take what you want (CANDY EMOJI)
Me: mom told me not to take candys from strangers
Me: but because it's you I'll take the eyecandy.
Me: aren't you working?
Her: woke up late Me: "...work work work work work..." (RIHANNA -WORK)
Me: let's fly to Vegas. Get married, argue about our third child name, divorce and get old lonley and depressed of life.
Her: haha wow Her: you came up with a full script.
Her: just wish us to be happy and enjoy what we have.
Thats the end of the conversation. Help needed.
- all the text is in Hebrew. I'm from Israel which means that I'm translating it to English.
- I can't send you all the conversations I had with her because I need to translate everything and I think that some of the jokes or sentences will be meaningless because of the translating.
- please ignore punctuation and such.
- I want to take MW's Skype course but I'm afraid that the language barrier will limit me and give me a hard time.
P.S. all the responses that I text her back was 45mins+- delay because I'm really busy at work and not working with my phone on me... Thanks guys.
Did you go on a date with her? Or at least try to? Youre not being very clear here...
You need to bring it back down to earth a little dude. Have an actual conversation. Take the same level of creativity and make it about your day or what you've got going on. Your texting is disjointed and there's no rapport or common ground occuring.
Lmao! Dude that gay cheerleaders line was FANTASTIC lol.
Ok what was her response to this? It just seems to me like you want to go for the meetup asap, and if she isn't having it then you get a bit disapproving/qualifying her. She needs to feel like she's missing out, because undoubtedly she is.
Her: hahaha (01:48AM)
Her: He really cares about the players
Me: Are you drinking beer or whine? (01:59AM)
Her: Like right now?
Me: YEAH DUDE (02:04AM)
Her: havingalittlebit (02:05AM - I think it was a drunk text)
Her: I'm little high
Me: NoooOoOooo :(
Me: You're no fun (02:09AM)
Her: whay no fun? (02:15AM)
Me: Have a beer for me (02:22AM).
Me: Gotta watch the city. Being Superhero is a b*tch
Her: are you a hero (02:58AM)
Me: if you haven't been raped yet, that means I'm doing my job (03:31AM)
Her: what job? (03:31AM)
and then I stall the chit chat becuase I had a feeling she's shit testing or playing with me.
I have a big match today so I don't care leave her hangin.... sometimes dead air is a good thing so you always can re-engage later
-It was a late night texting... notice the weird hours
-I don't know if she was really drunk or just playing so I had hard time on re-acting
-I feeling like I had an opprutonity to pull right after the "I'm high" response
Yeah dude you're not getting closer with this chick you're treating her like an object. And I spotted an actual opportunity to potentially hang out which went completely over your head.
Like I said earlier you got to bring it back down to earth.
Like I said earlier you got to bring it back down to earth.
like stop being Mr.clown and start talking about real shit? wanna make sure I understand what you said.
like I said before I feel like I blew up with the serious guy image, everytime I'm talking serious she give me short answers or saying she can't know if I'm serious or not
What is your object by being cocky/being a clown?
I think the point is, you need to have a real interaction. Now it seems like you act like that just to get into her pants, ie treating her as an object. Is this how you act around your friends?
You actually need to enjoy her company as opposed to just trying to get into het pants. You can still be cocky while having a real interaction and then it will just add to the experience and youll both enjoy it
Papaya - Good point. I think my game lack with that, so maybe that's most of the problem.
Yep that's it right there. Show me some sections of the convo where you're being more serious
Some introduction - we talked about alcohol and stuff and she said she love red whine and beer.
so I tried to pull her for a meetup
.Me: Me, You, Candles and a bottle of red wine
Her: face with cold sweat emoji
Me: Are you trying to get away?
Her: I don't know what you want
Her: talking nonsense
Me: "talking nonsense"
Me: *burp with alcohol smell*
Her: You're so annoying haha
Me: ok so I have a serious question
Me: Do you ever feel like you're missing your childhood?
Her: Well how do you want me to respond?
Me: That's an intimate question
Me: answer what you feel right
Her: I can't talk with you intimacy
Her: You're no so serious yourself for me to take you serious
Me: OMG you're so harsh
Me: Ok I'll go first and then it's your turn
Me: blah blah blah.....
So right after that I waited for the next day and re-engaged her with
Me: Guess what? I woke up today and discovered I have a sixth sense
That's the "pick a number between 1-10" routine
....And the converstions goes on
- I guess I just didn't kept things smooth and went to serious mode immediately
- Maybe I just got into her frame and it was a trap?
- There are more I just need to translate them all
- On second thought maybe she's telling me to beware of the friend zone lol