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So a buddy and I number-closed a chick at the same time today hahaha we decided to let the best man win. 

I'm curious as to how I should play this...my buddy is super high energy, escalates so fast and stuff. Girls can find him weird. Im more laid back and chill and just like having fun. 

So my buddy ejected the set about 15 mins before me.  The girl and I talked a bit more, her friend interrupted and she came back to me to talk some more. I ejected the set and left it with a hug. Got her number in my phone and my number in hers. 

 I can already tell I need to build more rapport with this girl and comfort. She's already interested in coming out and partying with us that's why we got the number. 

How should I go about this? Stay chill and relax and be myself? Shoot her a few texts and try to get her to invest? I've never competed against a fellow wing hahaha 

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Kill him!  :p 

Kill him! 

:p 

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So like.. have you started

So like.. have you started yet? Dafuq 

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Hahaha so this exact same



Hahaha so this exact same scenario happened with me and my buddy a couple years back. hilarious, because he's super high energy too and I'm more chill. Basically, he texted her and was super inappropriate. Like, she was into it but he went too far and wasn't calibrated at all. I didn't text her at all. I waited until he crashed and burned and just invited her out to a date night thing for my fraternity. Got a little tipsy and went to see a movie (actually an awesome date idea) and then made out with her there, closed the deal later that night.

She was a great fuck but kinda immature since she was so young. She acted like a little girl. She actualy just got engaged lmao.

My advice would be to play it cool and don't try to beat him to the finish line. Aslo, just accept that he may have more chemistry with her. Not saying he will but just know that is a natural consequence and don't be bummed out. Just hit up her friends.

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Oh yeah for sure, my game is

Oh yeah for sure, my game is super relaxed and confident and he does go in for the kill all the time and it doesn't always work for him. During the set he randomly laid on the ground and she was like "wtf?" Hahaha he's weird man. But his ability to open is hilarious. 

I actually met met this chick at the club on the weekends he was blackout drunk and didn't remember but as we vibes she brought up where she went and I was like  "oh wow you were the blonde that fell behind the bar" she was pretty embarrassed hahah 

I'm about to send a text that's simple like "Was good to meet you again, hopefully you remember this time better:p"

was going for simple, fun, and relaxed

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AP_Grappler wrote: Oh yeah

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Oh yeah for sure, my game is super relaxed and confident and he does go in for the kill all the time and it doesn't always work for him. During the set he randomly laid on the ground and she was like "wtf?" Hahaha he's weird man. But his ability to open is hilarious. 

I actually met met this chick at the club on the weekends he was blackout drunk and didn't remember but as we vibes she brought up where she went and I was like  "oh wow you were the blonde that fell behind the bar" she was pretty embarrassed hahah 

I'm about to send a text that's simple like "Was good to meet you again, hopefully you remember this time better:p"

was going for simple, fun, and relaxed

I would build up to the meetup and then send her something like, "Lets go out for a drink or two tuesday night. I'll make sure you don't fall off any bars this time ;)"

Or better yet, INVITE HER TO THE BAR YOU WORK AT lol. That's mad social proof right there.

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That's actually a great idea

That's actually a great idea man. I sent her that message I was going to send she never replied she could be working who knows. 

I'll check my inbox now 

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Since it's important not to

Since it's important not to burn sets in college game. If this chick doesn't reply should I just leave it and continue on or try to reengage later?

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AP_Grappler wrote: Since it's

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Since it's important not to burn sets in college game. If this chick doesn't reply should I just leave it and continue on or try to reengage later?

I don't think it's a big deal to reengage but you def wanna wait a day or two.

Reengagement texts look pretty desparate in college if they're too close together IME.

Different with girls you won't see day in day out.

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I suppose so, I mean I don't

I suppose so, I mean I don't have class with her it was a cold approach on campus. I don't want to be desperate but in not used to girls ignoring the "nice to meet you" text 

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Honestly, I'm not surprised



Honestly, I'm not surprised she didn't respond. I would make the first text a little more interesting to generate a response:

"So do you always take stranger's phone numbers on campus or am I just special? -APGrappler"

Something like that or in context to what you talked about:

"Was cool meeting you today. You're def the second coolest bio major I know"

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Yeah I'm not surprised

Yeah I'm not surprised either, it didn't exactly illicit a reply or anything. I'll probably hit her up in a few days? What do you guys think? 

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I dunno man I've seen

I dunno man I've seen honestly some pretty sick text game from you I'd just go for it. Any progress? 

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Wait what text did you send

Wait what text did you send her? 

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Well I hit her up twice, once

Well I hit her up twice, once was the day the next was a follow up. No replies either time but this is what I sent

Me: Nice meeting you again, hopefully you remember meeting me this time :P

reason for sending that was I met her at a club on her weekend she was just too wasted and couldn't remember anything the next day. I got no reply which was fine, then I sent this

Me: Classes all day + All nighter bartending... It's safe to say summer's over

again no reply so I just haven't bothered sending anything since, I gotta admit this is one of the few times I've ever had a girl flat out ignore me after a pretty decent set too!

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That first text

That first text was sssshhhhit

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That first text had three

That first text had three elements of death:

1. Boring

2. Seeking validation

3. Reminding her she was blackout last time you hung out

live and learn 

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Yeah those were my thoughts

Yeah those were my thoughts on it too like immediately after I sent it I was like "fuck." 

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AP_Grappler wrote: Yeah those

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Yeah those were my thoughts on it too like immediately after I sent it I was like "fuck." 

Haha every guy knows this feeling.

One thing I can def say after being on this forum is this happens almost 0% of the time with me now. And if it does, it's usually because I'm drunk as piss and being a little too "expressive"

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I feel ya on that drunk text

I feel ya on that drunk text situation haha but it isn't something I do often anymore unless I get really in my head about it. My texting is improving quite a bit from reading around on here and practicing but it isn't perfect yet so oh well, I'll take it as a reference 

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