helped a friend with opening text, friend gets brutally shot down
so a friend met this girl at a bar where he was playing as a dj. she was there as a reporter for some tv, they talked a bit when he waited till the place where he djs opens, and i think that it kinda happen randomly. he's your typical shy nice guy type. they talked a bit about what she does, that she wants to be a camera woman but that she got rejected from a school, and they actually told her that they don't accept women into this school because women are not able to carry all the equipment needed (i wonder how would that fly in the US lol). they also talked a bit about how they both love biking and that they could go out together sometime. the guy actually told her something like: "well you can take me number, and get in touch sometime" and she basically persuaded him to takes his. so he randomly did a cool thing. she also mentioned being into astrology, and said that he's her ascendant (some sort of compatible zodiacal sign). so we came up with the following message...
me: ascendant woman! i know how to break the cycle. film a documentary about how girls cannot be camera women, and expect stardom. we'll split the profit 50:50
her: haha (2 minutes later)
her: delete my number. it's for the best. bye (8 minutes later)
my questions are 1) was the message so bad or do you suspect there was a problem in the meetup? 2) is there any coming back from this? and if it's possible, what should he write? 3) might it be that the message was incongurent to his image during the meetup? like i said - shy nice guy. i wrote it as someone who's very energetic, and often making fun out of those girls during the pickup. so it's coherent to my style but isn't to his.
from the title, I thought your friend literally got shot (down)
but seems like a funny situation, curious what Manwhore has to say about this. I think the congruency thing could be for sure part of it
Nah that's a good message can't imagine there's anything wrong with that. She definitely liked it with the "haha" the second text sounds like something else entirely, doesn't sound interaction-related from what's described.
can i get some basic input on this manwhore? :)
So she convinced him to take her number then said that shit? Derp
The callback humor I felt was a little more on the belittling rather than teasing side cause you targetted things she shared with your friend which would have made her feel vulnerable (getting rejected, that she was a match for him based on something people often see as hockey or bullshit). Could also be the type that studied too much women's studies and has a bit of hater energy in her, I've met these type before and they're super sensitive and flip out quickly if you hit any of their 400 random trigger words lol, it's like you offend them with random normal conversational topics or humor. One girl I was calling her baby and she was getting offended bc she had learned I was trying to belittle her and frame her as being defenseless like an infant lol whuut.
yeah, her being sensitive to some topics could be an option. but if she freaks out over so casual message, one wonders if it's even desirable type of girl. might have serious issues.
Ya for sure
Honestly if this had been me I'd have started throwing barbs at her. That was uncalled for and disrespectful.
i wanted to try working with it but that friend refused to hand me his phone. i think that he basically freaked out after her reaction, and will not want my help ever again LOL.