How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
Mon, 12/17/2012 - 00:06
This is just an example of a tactic I just tried. I think this works great because it cuts the conversation and leaves it in the perfect place for a logistics text, pretty much whenever I want.
I met this girl last night at the party I was at. She was standing in line for the bathroom and I was broing out with some frat dudes I met at the party and saw her standing there and just sorta leaned back and said hi.
While we were talking, my date came over and was SUPER jealous and like ripped me away from this girl lol. After me and my date left, this girl texted me saying to come to some bar and then an hour or so later texted me saying I was missing out on a fun night
Me: Hey beb, where'd you end up?
Her: Downstairs bar at xxhotel. So fun! Hurting today
Her: You? Who was that crazy girl that pulled you out of the bathroom line lol?
Her: Enjoy the rainy lazy day!!! : )
Me: I just went to my buddie's place. Eh, that was my ex. She's crazy. She always makes a scene when she sees me. We broke up a while ago
Her: Bitches are cah-razy lol. I am in heaven... my guest for the weekend just left and I am enjoying the rainy day by catching up on homeland. I love chill days like this! They don't come often enough
Me: Lmao well I'll have to make up for bailing on you last night I suppose
Her: Sounds good. ; )
So I appropriately cut off the rapport conversation and left it off in a place where I can go back and immediately get logistics with my next text
I met this girl last night at the party I was at. She was standing in line for the bathroom and I was broing out with some frat dudes I met at the party and saw her standing there and just sorta leaned back and said hi.
While we were talking, my date came over and was SUPER jealous and like ripped me away from this girl lol. After me and my date left, this girl texted me saying to come to some bar and then an hour or so later texted me saying I was missing out on a fun night
Me: Hey beb, where'd you end up?
Her: Downstairs bar at xxhotel. So fun! Hurting today
Her: You? Who was that crazy girl that pulled you out of the bathroom line lol?
Her: Enjoy the rainy lazy day!!! : )
Me: I just went to my buddie's place. Eh, that was my ex. She's crazy. She always makes a scene when she sees me. We broke up a while ago
Her: Bitches are cah-razy lol. I am in heaven... my guest for the weekend just left and I am enjoying the rainy day by catching up on homeland. I love chill days like this! They don't come often enough
Me: Lmao well I'll have to make up for bailing on you last night I suppose
Her: Sounds good. ; )
So I appropriately cut off the rapport conversation and left it off in a place where I can go back and immediately get logistics with my next text
Mon, 12/17/2012 - 00:12
#1
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
@buddhagames:
Also- question for whoever.... When a girl directly asks you a question like "who was that girl" kinda shit... should i have just ignored that?
Also- question for whoever.... When a girl directly asks you a question like "who was that girl" kinda shit... should i have just ignored that?
Mon, 12/17/2012 - 01:17
#2
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
@buddhagames:
I thought you handed it pretty well actually, You could have maybe made her invest a little more by asking her if she really wanted to know. But she seems pretty invested already IMO.
I thought you handed it pretty well actually, You could have maybe made her invest a little more by asking her if she really wanted to know. But she seems pretty invested already IMO.
Mon, 12/17/2012 - 01:25
#3
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
@kris:
Hmm.. yeah, in this situation, asking her if she "really wants to know" would have come across weird. It would have been an example of "overgaming" an already cooked bird.
Hmm.. yeah, in this situation, asking her if she "really wants to know" would have come across weird. It would have been an example of "overgaming" an already cooked bird.
Mon, 12/17/2012 - 01:30
#4
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
@buddhagames:
Thats actually been a slight sticking point of mine recently, "overgaming".
Thats actually been a slight sticking point of mine recently, "overgaming".
Mon, 12/17/2012 - 01:57
#5
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
Just so we're clear, this girl is hooked because of what this other girl did. Give her enough to keep her invested, don't break the spell. This is a classic jealousy plotline. Let her live it out a bit.
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Mon, 12/17/2012 - 04:24
#6
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
@Manwhore:
lol yes. I am VERY aware that my date hooked this girl for me.
That's why I lied about the whole "it being my ex gf" thing
lol yes. I am VERY aware that my date hooked this girl for me.
That's why I lied about the whole "it being my ex gf" thing
Tue, 12/18/2012 - 16:51
#7
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
@buddhagames:
Me: Hey beb, where'd you end up?
Her: Downstairs bar at xxhotel. So fun! Hurting today
Her: You? Who was that crazy girl that pulled you out of the bathroom line lol?
Her: Enjoy the rainy lazy day!!! : )
Me: I just went to my buddie's place. Eh, that was my ex. She's crazy. She always makes a scene when she sees me. We broke up a while ago
Her: Bitches are cah-razy lol. I am in heaven... my guest for the weekend just left and I am enjoying the rainy day by catching up on homeland. I love chill days like this! They don't come often enough
Me: Lmao well I'll have to make up for bailing on you last night I suppose
Her: Sounds good. ; )
Her: Out and about. Again. You?
Me: Just picked up a bottle of wine, headin over to a friend's place. What's your schedule like this week?
Me: What's your schedule like tonight? (I just went for it cause I have dates already scheduled for today and tomorrow-but I wouldn't normally do this)
Her: Hey you. Sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday. My day/night of relaxing turned into "Sunday funday." I was hurting today!
Her: I went to the gym post work and then knocked out some holiday gift shopping. Just got home. You out and about?
Me: You open to grabbing a drink tonight. I have plans tomorrow and Wednesday
Her: I can't do tonight. Haven't even showered post gym yet. Just walked in.
Me: Eh its okay. Id rather hang out when you don't smell, anyway ; )
Her: Lol! I smell awesome... even post barry's bootcamp! : ) I have plans Wed and Thurs but maybe we can meet up at some point. Leave Fri for the holidays and not back until the 3rd!
Me: ?
Her: what?
Me: Oh, I didn't get the first part of that text
Her: Omg. You and your startac! Love it. (This is a reference to my GHETTO ASS flip phone with the battery TAPED to the back)
Her: Time to get an iPhone! ; )
Her: Btw, if you don't have plans Thurs I can do something after my work holiday party. Can probably meet up 830ish. Let me know. ; )
Did I go into too much rapport here? haha I thought I had some pretty solid texts actually- namely, 1. The wine text (keeping that fantasy alive for her) and 2. The "I'd rather hang when you don't smell" text
Me: Hey beb, where'd you end up?
Her: Downstairs bar at xxhotel. So fun! Hurting today
Her: You? Who was that crazy girl that pulled you out of the bathroom line lol?
Her: Enjoy the rainy lazy day!!! : )
Me: I just went to my buddie's place. Eh, that was my ex. She's crazy. She always makes a scene when she sees me. We broke up a while ago
Her: Bitches are cah-razy lol. I am in heaven... my guest for the weekend just left and I am enjoying the rainy day by catching up on homeland. I love chill days like this! They don't come often enough
Me: Lmao well I'll have to make up for bailing on you last night I suppose
Her: Sounds good. ; )
Her: Out and about. Again. You?
Me: Just picked up a bottle of wine, headin over to a friend's place. What's your schedule like this week?
Me: What's your schedule like tonight? (I just went for it cause I have dates already scheduled for today and tomorrow-but I wouldn't normally do this)
Her: Hey you. Sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday. My day/night of relaxing turned into "Sunday funday." I was hurting today!
Her: I went to the gym post work and then knocked out some holiday gift shopping. Just got home. You out and about?
Me: You open to grabbing a drink tonight. I have plans tomorrow and Wednesday
Her: I can't do tonight. Haven't even showered post gym yet. Just walked in.
Me: Eh its okay. Id rather hang out when you don't smell, anyway ; )
Her: Lol! I smell awesome... even post barry's bootcamp! : ) I have plans Wed and Thurs but maybe we can meet up at some point. Leave Fri for the holidays and not back until the 3rd!
Me: ?
Her: what?
Me: Oh, I didn't get the first part of that text
Her: Omg. You and your startac! Love it. (This is a reference to my GHETTO ASS flip phone with the battery TAPED to the back)
Her: Time to get an iPhone! ; )
Her: Btw, if you don't have plans Thurs I can do something after my work holiday party. Can probably meet up 830ish. Let me know. ; )
Did I go into too much rapport here? haha I thought I had some pretty solid texts actually- namely, 1. The wine text (keeping that fantasy alive for her) and 2. The "I'd rather hang when you don't smell" text
Wed, 12/19/2012 - 00:55
#8
Re: How to AVOID too much rapport in texting
@buddhagames:
It seemed legit to me. She is going for a meet after her staff party (she'll aready be drunk), she is DTF for thursday lol.
It seemed legit to me. She is going for a meet after her staff party (she'll aready be drunk), she is DTF for thursday lol.