How to bring her back after 2 months? Story + texts
Here’s a summarized 2 month story that I would love to have some of you guys insights.
So, I met this 18 year old VERY BEAUTIFUL girl in a party and we started going to together. She’s very smart and mature for her age, but still she’s 18 (I’m 26)
I was at the peak of my game and I blowed her mind since the first night we me, by approaching very well, dominating her group of friends holding court for more than 1 hour and pulling to her building in the smoothest way. Still it took the first night and two dates for us to have sex. But in less than a month I could tell she was already very invested in my. I even met her parents when they come visit her from another city and almost caught us fucking in her room.
She just talked about me for every friend and sent pictures of me for her sister. The relationship was packed with emotions and amazing till the last week. She was going to travel to Europe, so I made a big mistake. I was already getting depressed because a had stopped going out (I had her and a fuckbuddy that I met one day after meeting her) and just started having sex. Even so, I decided to see her 3 days in a row.
The vibe of the relationship kind of died down and we never came to discuss any term, although it was obvious that we were almost exclusive.
So she goes to Europe and I’m suddenly I’m the one starting the conversations and she’s the one finishing (it was totally the other way around before the trip). Then we stop talking for 3 days and she sees a story of me in a party in the side of a girl (no big deal, just a girl I know, but yeah, I just posted it to get a reaction) We fight a lot trough text (very bad) and then stop talking for 6 days.I just communicate a fact when she comes back from travel and we start fighting again for like 3 days on text. She refuses to see me in person so I leave her stuff with the doorman of her build. I also leave a letter with like 3 like saying something like “just wanna thank you for the time we spent together, one of best times of my life, won’t forget x y and z, take care”.
She then sent me a message saying she loved what I did and cried. I just don’t answer and we don’t talk for like 45 days. I was totally over her and didn’t want to talk again. But then she came to talk with me and I felt like seeing her again. But, I did a big mistake on text, while she seemed SUPER INVESTED.
Here’s the translated text:
I posted an Instagram story(not a direct for her, just a general story for everyone which she could have ignored) of a Brazilian artist that looks like me with the text (“Nothing to do with me”)
Her: “Ahahahahaha looks exactly like you !!”
Me: “Think this story was a shot on my own feet (laugh emoticon)”
Her: “I’m chocked I have never thought about that”
Me: “Think I commented with you once”
Her “In this picture you are identical”
Me: “Yeah, I have heard that a lot haha”
Me: “Saw a movie you would like (or hate)
Her: “Which one”
Me: No Mercy
Me: It’s a Korean movie
Her: I’ll watchhhh
Her: Where can I find it?
Me: Pop Corn Time
Me: It’s a strong story… lot’s of blood
Her: If it’s not tarantino style that’s allright (double smiley laugh)
Me: Not that much (smiley laugh)
Her: Hhahaha, I’ll see then.
Me: Sure, hope you liked it
3 days after
Me: Just saw 3 cars with an “xxx”(xxx=privacy) plate (xxx is how everyone calls her)
Her: You find out the Uber competition I’m starting
Me: What’s the number? Hope that instead of candies it offers cheesecakes
Her: We are still not operating, only training the drivers
Her: Cheesecakes are hard, we are thinking about coffee
Me: Who serves hot coffee in a moving car (smiley laugh)
Her: That’s why we are thinking
Her: But there in the middle of the seats where they put the candy
Her: We could put a small thermos bottle with coffee
Her: and little cups in on the sides
Her: So the passenger can serve himself
Her: Without running any risk
At this point I prefer to go to sleep and answer her in the morning
Me: Seems like a great plan, I’ll pray that you don’t kill anyone with that
Me: But while you plan everything
Me: What about that coffee in a stable table?
Her: ohhh, my uber coffee wouldn’t kill anybody hahaha
Her: Didn’t understood
Me: Let’s go for a coffee, laugh a little and share the news?
She didn’t even visualize and go silent (happened 1 week ago). In the two following days following she posted a ton of “I’m having so much fun stories”
Another thing is that she never was so chatty as she was on this last conversation.
Maybe my mistake was asking her out too early when she was enjoying a lot to chase me(it's subtle but yeah, i felt she was the one chasing), and then she got her validation again (which she had totally lost when we "broke up") and went away happy.
What you guys think about the situation?
What should I do if my goal is to see her again and maybe (depending on how it goes) to become FWB?
re-read this http://www.manwhore.org/how-to-text-a-girl-you-like/
your texting isn't wack by any means but there's not enough direction. You should have logistics in mind from the get-go and be mvoing towards something.
FInd out her schedule then close the date in a more assertive, more awesome way.
Me: Let’s go for a coffee, laugh a little and share the news?
are you asking her? lead hombre. You tell her what's happening, when it's going down and how awesome it is. Make it an adventure
Yeah, I regreted that right when I sent it. But still, it's very weird for her to totally ignore it after everything. She could say not or anything, but the not replying is pretty extreme. Still she's a 18 year old being hit a lot by a lot of guys. I agree that I called her out a little bit too early and giving too much validation instead of making it fun. But it can't be undone now.
I already know her schedule because we dated for 2 months. Plus she lives alone.
Yeah, reading the article you sent, I could send her: "seriously, I think i'm pregnant and the child is yours", or make up my own line on the same path. But is this the best move? Just to reengage without any boundary whatsoever?
Sure, it can show I didn't took it to heart nor care too much, but it can also telegraph a bit of needyness.
What I'm trying to figure out is where she is emotionally with me and what should be (if there is any), my next move in order to get her in a date without burning it to the ground.
It seems like I have 3 options:
Either I wait a month or so doing good social media practices to get her interest (and other girls interest on the way) and wait for her to come, or I call her out on her bullshit without making it sound like a big deal. I already waited 8 days, so it might work. Or just send a cute reengaging text as if nothing happened, which I think will communicate more bad things than good ones. So, I'm really not sure.
How does it telegraph neediness? What is this "without any boundary" whatsoever? E.g. trying to "punish" her for not responding to?
No, I don't feel any need to punish her for not responding.
I just feel completely clueless on how to reengange without "throwing my power away", if that's even important at this point.
If I had confidence I wouldn't do anything stupid I would have texted her again already, but I don't. lol.
A reegament text should be fun and engaging. That's really all you need to worry about at this point man.
No you need to explain your answers, bruhhh..
No cop-outs here
Ok dude your problem here is NOT text game, as the alumni inputting into this thread will attest. It's how you handled that three days in person, clearly. Don't trip. as your conversational and emotional skills build through the training program all this shit will become moot. I read shit like this and I laugh. You will be all the man a woman needs in no time.