How do I get new girls I meet to ask me out and pursue me?
SO,
I have noticed that in my interactions, once I get numbers, that I am always the one initiating, setting everything up, and leading the entire interaction the whole time. I do not understand, how when guys post about how girls are hitting them up out of the blue asking to hang out and stuff or pursuing them, how their game is different than mine. My game feels solid, grounded, and centered. I feel compltely comfortable talking with a girl. I am not a needy newbie or anything like that, I make girls laugh, and hey have a good time with me, but I know that if I text or call a girl that if I do not hit them up, they will go cold. I think it is because they are intimidated by me and need me to be nice and sort of calibrate my value down by being real down to Earth and conversational kind of like a friend and just inviting them out and making them feel comfortable with themselves around me.
How do you guys that have new girls you meet texting you and pursing you set up the frame so they are chasing you and asking you out?
Ok, just to be clear, I don't get girls hitting me up like that so what I'm about to say is full keyboard jockey.
With that said, my understanding of it is this. Those guys aren't actively trying to get those girls to chase them over text like that. It happens occasionally when a girl really likes you and is invested, but it's not something they're aiming for or relying on.
Some guys do try to make girls chase in person, but text is something else entirely.
Edit: Here's manwhore's take on it: http://manwhore.org/doesshelikeme/
Great read, but also ELEVATE YOUR GAME. Like I know that sounds borderline trollish, but that is serious advice lol.
Yes understand that will almost always be the "initiator" and always the leader, but you DO need to elevate your game. You also need to work on developing an "ecosystem" that has girls coming in and out of it.
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Just to validate everything said, I had a girl hit me up today who I haven't seen since April. I was super unconscious of how that was working for me though, until I read that. So I'm just saying, that article is badass and everything said explains it so well. The only thing not mentioned that I would add is that pre-selection PLUS a lifestyle that exists independently of any woman will definitely increase the number of girls initiating with you.