How Do I Kill This “Reactiveness”?
I need an actual logical reason that’s a belief or a principle that will make it “okay” for me to not
have to constantly berate women and put them in check. I do it to the point where I’m capping my results to a subset of women. That’s not a good enough reason though. Tolle isn’t enough because he’s not a belief system or principle. He’s a just a feeling. A fleeting one at that and who’s to say that when I’m pissed off and digging into a girl that it doesn’t put me in “state” lol. In fact, after I do this to a woman I sometimes I am in such a good mood I’ll get opened by girls. Happened once just last weekend.
My belief is “Give women an inch and they take a mile”. I find this shit true. Even when Aquetas
came to NY, girls were cutting us in line. We don’t give off a weak aura or anything. It’s just because we’re men that they assume we are pushovers. I had to cut them back, after calling them out because words didn’t really register with them. There was no drama. That wasn’t too bad but it’s an example of how constantly I feel trampled over by women. Before that we had some random ho who I approached but blew me off re-approach me and try to get us to buy a table to get in the club with us. She caught it bad lol.
I am acutely aware that I’m punishing women for being women, but I can’t find it in myself to not take what they say or do personally. In fact, if I don’t let a man disrespect me, why should I let a woman do it?
So what’s a good belief to have which allows me to stay true to myself and what I am and not also ruin my sets? I don’t want to turn into a pussy who lets women do what they want.
I can’t reconcile it in my mind. The allowing girls to do run over me. To me, passing a shit test by being passive FEELS like I’m passing a predatory interview as a victim to see if they could take advantage of me. Like the girl is testing not to see if I’m a “man” but to see if she can get away with bullshit. I’m so zero tolerance lol.
You want to communicate the same thing without having to go all aggro on chicks, this is case by case and in your case this applies. You’re getting all aggressive with girls becaue on some level you feel threatened by them so you use the last resort (in your mind) which is bullying/yelling/tooling them into submission.
Here’s a frame: Can a women actually bring out your dark dominant side like that? Dude, a girl can never really bring out my wrath, they’re just too cute and fluffy. If I bring myself down that low to feel threatened by someone who can literally do no physical or emotional harm to me then what does that say about myself?
Even when I “tool” chicks, its productive and never out of control. Don’t get me wrong, i’ve said some awful shit to women thaf brought them to tears but if you’re at the club and a dumb chick asks you to buy her a table then who gives a shit. You yelling at them in haste and rage shows your lack of control dawg.
Just a dumb girl doing dumb shit. That happens and will happen a lot, regardless of your game and subcoms.
If she’s asking me to buy her a table I might have fun with it. Maybe give her a couple pennies and say I support her cause lol or just flat out ignore her and give her a disapproving look. Maybe even make her work for it by pulling out her titties and dancing for me idk.
The world is your oyster. Dont get scared by girls lol
Yeah you’re right. I don’t think I’m scared but I feel more indignant. Like righteously indignant that she would dare challenge my status.
If I were a weaker man I would just give up pick up and pretty much settle for people who like me for me lol.
Yeah you have to start being able to check yourself, start realizing as it's happening that certain emotional pathways/patterns are not constructive. A single scenario like that can ruin your whole night. I remember that shit.. back in 2006.
Also, there are different ways of channeling the energy/emotions. Why exile strange women before you've at least queried them for sexual favors? "Yo ladies, tits or get the fuck out. I saw you being naughty.. and I raise you." That should always be your first attitude. You get into ALL SORTS of interesting situations that way ;). Always sexually challenge women if they start throwing their weight around. You should see the looks on people's faces, even their own girlfriends faces when I have multiple girls in a group flash me, or do other crazy shit.
Girls coming into the line? Talk to'em. Why waste an opportunity like that. They're already feeling guilty, time to capitalize ;). Mang I've pulled some fine bitches out of line. FINE.
Slick88 has a great lay report coming from last week. Bally shit like that.
I been in this a long time. Been thru and seen/done a lot of weird/interesting/crazy shit. I forget things all the time, get into different rhythms, etc., but one important lesson is always be learning to channel your energy better. Stop getting angry then stuck. Use it. That anger make you more ballsy? Good. use it.
I like where this is going. Thanks to you both.
So I have to be able to channel that energy into making girls do stuff and qualify themselves (in a sexual way) rather than just verbally bitch slap them because it feels good. That makes so much sense. I can just stand there and say something outlandish but it'll keep me in the Game and discharge my aggression.
Polarizing, but I'm sure it yields a higher percent than what I'm doing now.
Also gonna meditate more. It's gonna cut into my downtime but it's worth it.
Energy control. Right. Control it better. It's good but not good enough. Got it.
My post was actually a mash-up of me trying to recover my previous post which got lost. You probably won't get girls flashing you to cut in line, 'cuz their ego won't allow them to "stoop" to flashing tits to cut, which is funny because you can easily get them to do it for "free". But stuff like that will definitely get you on the right track with incoming girls. In their head and yours. But yes, using sexual disqualification will make crazy things happen. You can use lil gimmicks to seed CRAZY sexual complicity. I've wanted to a couple shock videos using some. Anyone remember the one to get girls flashing you their tits?
You mean the t shirt you used to get them shaking their chimmy changas for you?
Naw but that was a fucking good one too