how do you turn a lay into a relationship
Give some context mang it's all different.
I really dig this chick and the time I spend with her. I have only known her for little over a week. I don't like the fact that I don't know where I stand with this chick and its frustrating at times. I know she digs me but I feel like I don't know where the boundries in the relationship are and what to expect. For example I wouldn't be upset if she was talking to other guys, what I don't like is I don't know she is talking to other guys, not knowing if this is a casual relationship forces me to assume things. My assumtions drive me crazy because I would like to know were my respect lies with her. Because I don't know the boundries I don't know if I should just go and fuck other chicks. The only thing thats stopping me from doing that is I respect her. I don't like the idea of respecting someone who doesn't respect me.
I'm thinking I have to set some boundries. If that is true is it to soon for that. and I have to figure out what kind of boundries do I set.
Ok dude it's cool, chill out, but yes pursue other girls. I'm sure she's just testing your response right now. Geezez. You'll fail if you go with your preconceived course of action.
Going with MW advice, I mean you have only known her for a little over a week so I just think it's important that you let things play out, see other girls, continue on the path you've been on, etc. The last thing you want to do is force exclusivity on a girl, I've learned the hard way in doing that. Instead just focus on being the badass that she's interested in and when she realizes that you're a catch she can't pass up, she'll try to lock you down. I think that's the best spot to be, where the girl is locking you down and not the other away around. Just try to take your mind off of a relationship as she'll make it happen when she;s ready. Just date her and sleep with her and enjoy your time together. Don't force anything.
She could be rebounding, not ready for a relationship, etc. and none of that matters because as long as you continue on your path, and continue to give off the good vibes and all that, she'll be wanting to lock you down. Just keep doing what you're doing, stay focused on yourself, keep improving.
Chances are you will hate this girl in six months.