How to tackle the issue of a girl not responding to your first text?
Hey, first post! I'll be quick and get to the point.
I matched with this girl on Tinder the other day, and we chatted. My first message was a joke, and she replied the next day. We engaged in a conversation, but all of her replies were always the next day. I feel that's somewhat understandable considering she's working, and all of the replies were generally after normal business hours.
However, the end of our conversation was with me making a joke about Jon Snow, and that she should give me her number so I can take her out sometime that week. She sent me back a message that appeared she was elated by me asking and had a smiley face, exclamation point, etc. So, I thought I was in. I sent her a text asking her to go out to lunch. I suppose at our age group (early 20's) that may be too formal or mature (I act probably twice my age).
Anyways, she does not reply to my text asking her to go out to lunch. Now, 2 days later, still not reply. I cannot tell if she saw it or not (because Android...), and therefore I'm a bit confused. Her message seemed really excited, but I feel maybe my message was too formal for my age group. I would like to ask her out tonight for drinks, but I'm curious how I can start up a conversation.
Considering our Tinder conversation was about Jon Snow, and me making a joke comparing Snow to myself (I look nothing like him) would a text like "Oh, so I guess you don't want a Jon Snow? Maybe you'd rather have drinks tonight at some-bar?" Or what would a better way for me to start up a conversation with her?
Yeah don't take any offense man but all that is pretty awful. I don't know where you got this whole "I act twice my age" but it sorta sounds to me like a rationalization for bad game ;)
I appreciate the article! Read through it all. I realized some mistakes I made like making my first text to her phone about the date rather than maybe a joke leading to the date. I'll keep those tips in-mind. If you do have any suggestions for sparking up a conversation with someone who did not reply to a first text then feel free to post!
Did you read about callback humor 'n such? Post up the convo you need to fuel your texts with that stuff always
Jon Snow I highly recommend checking out the monthly membership...MW just did a section on reengagement texts with tons of examples. These texts are normally for girls you haven't contacted in awhile but they're also great for eliciting a response. Once you read enough examples you get the idea and can start creating some of your own. It's worth it man
I think you should do the most retardly formal text to ask her out possible:
"Madam Tinderalla, I hereby formally propose to entreat you to a wonderous afternoon full of the most illustrious jubilation you can fathom. This event will occur at ultra-exclusive, 5-star, internationally themed restuarant, chipo - lay. It will be attended by heads of state such as former presidents Obama, Bush and Clinton (Trump's not invited), as well as you and myself: His Grand Ducal Highness Prince (your Name) IV. Please have your ballgown and glass slippers prepared in advance, we will be making a grand entrance."
Then if no response:
"-This is how I ask girls out, pretty smooth right?"
I'm not saying it'll work, although it might ressurect things (that chipo-lay line was killer, if I do say so myself), but if your issue is being "too formal" sending this will help you to let go of that and just have fun. That is, you're making fun of yourself a bit here so it should at the very least help you to let go of it for next time.