How would you have played this date
So I met up with this girl.... texting wise she's been super down to meet me. Met her of daygame 10 minute interaction. Pretty hot brown girl.
When I meet up, give her a hug, and walk to the bar, we sit down. Her body language is closed off(literally arms crossed) and we're side by side in the booth but she is sitting pretty far away.
She talks a lot but is super logical and in her own space. I do shoulder touches here and there but her body language remains closed off the whole time. Like when I"m on other dates girls lean in, move closer to me, stuff like that, this girl just sat cross armed the whole time through and pretty far away from me, even though we were vibing pretty well and conversation flowing. I couldnt' seem to get her into an illogical mode at all..... she seemed like a very logical girl.
I mean I was a bit nervous when I met up with her.... but I didn't think it was that bad. I've been more nervous coming into dates before and had them go decently/well.
We had a drink each, date was probably around a hour and a half.
I'm not sure what's going on, does she want a boyfriend, or was she turned off by my behavior the first few minutes.
Just felt two friends hanging out... 0 chemistry or sexual tension. Just felt really weird.... no gigliness or girlliness to her. She didn't really laugh at anything either. And its not like I'm not funny.... I can get girls to laugh pretty easily.
You said she was being logical, you couldve tried asking more emotional questions. Like ask what she does for fun and then ask "how do you feel when youre doing that activity". Basically steer the convo in a more emotional direction. Maybe she didnt feel you were genuinely interested in her.
If you're nervous going into these things you should be doing drills beforehand, fucking duh. Also.. hug and kiss? And what about your behavior in the beginning do you think was so bad?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I mean she just sounds like sucks, that's all...
@JackofDiamonds
Good point about the emotions. But to be honest I was asking tons of questiosn that gave her the chance to express that emotional side. And yeah I wasn't sitting there trying to be logical, I was telling her hilarious stories, talking about random shit, etc. Every time I tried to veer off into emotional territory she'd bring a logical angle to it and just calmly give her opinion about it.
@Manwhore
Long story short but I was doing some quick vocal drilling in the shower, but the long ass commute there probably didn't help (I was going down there from my parents house, and I just quickly dropped shit off at my new place).
I was sleep deprvied all day today for the first time in a while. That might have probably had something to do with it. Tonight when I went out I was making some horrible decisions to the point where I pissed off a couple of my wings. I otherwise never piss of my wings or very very rarely.
I wasn't even that nervous... about 10 minutes in and a bit of beer in I was pretty relaxed. I mean, I didn't show up there massively full of nerves, it was just a bit shaky at the beginning. Like my voice was a bit off, and I was somewhat hesitant at the new place in terms of finding a spot to sit (like I choose one spot, decided that it sucked because it was super in the open, and then went to another spot).
Maybe it could have been that she only knew me off a 10 minute daygame interaction(during which I was very on at the end of a pretty long daygame session), so she was super critical of my behavior earlier on the date? Maybe she decided she overhyped me and was dissapointed?
@PottedFlowers
Yeah dude... I just think she probably can't let loose without alcohol(she only had 1 red wine). She reminds me of me a couple of years ago. And to be honest, she's a good looking cool hard working girl. But there was 0 spark... mind you I was trying.
What was the source of anxiety. Self-doubt? Fear? Injury?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
What was the source of anxiety. Self-doubt? Fear? Injury?
I always feel a bit nervous going into dates.
She was pretty hot and a couple of years older with a pretty solid job so maybe that? Well dressed and everything.
Usually the girls I hook up with are the college/younger girl types. I didnt go into the date negatively though, I went in open minded and thought it would go pretty well.
My day 2 game is pretty weak at this point, something I need to put conscious focus on. I definately need to go on more dates lol. Most of my lays are SNLs.
You should be exerting more control over your emotional state and your physiological. Empower yourself and turn that shit around. Going into a date nervous is gay as fuck. If nothing else turn that fear/nervousness into excitement. You can do a lot with excitement ;) And there are plenty of ways of framing that nervousness into excitement as well.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
If nothing else turn that fear/nervousness into excitement.
Fuck off dude, stop giving away my deepest darkets secrets! lol
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I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
You should be exerting more control over your emotional state and your physiological. Empower yourself and turn that shit around. Going into a date nervous is gay as fuck. If nothing else turn that fear/nervousness into excitement. You can do a lot with excitement ;) And there are plenty of ways of framing that nervousness into excitement as well.
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Got it. That makes a lot more sense. I was trying to calm myself down before but I'll just turn that nervousness into excitement from now on. That's a helluva lot easier than trying to calm myself down. Shit thats a major golden nugget of advice I appreciate it.
" I am actually a little nervious right now... which is kinda cool because this usually doesn't happen (brush shouder off) .... Only if the girl has the potential to be super cool I get butterflies, and I am kinda getting that feeling from you right now. You might work out"