I ask her out-She says I don't know
To be short... I know this girl for a few months now, but I've never really made a move because I either had other girls or I was too drunk&high to care to do something.
We had our ups and downs (we were hanging out quite a lot for some time, then nothing for a while and then again....),but all in all I have a good time with her and she's pretty hot so I wanna "seal the deal" now. She is pretty socially awkward, so she's a hard nut. Barely hangs out with anyone.
We study in the same city for the week, go home for weekend and come back on monday.
I was on one of the biggest parties in our country yesterday (will write a field report about that :)) and around 5am I went home to my dorm and when I came there I went to see her (she was the "hallway monitor" that night) to hang out. Unfortunately I was too tired and still a little bit stoned and drunk, so I just sat there and eventually fallen asleep. Before I went to sleep (she went straight home after that) I texted her:
Me: Good ride home. Look out for the vampires and shit :) (was watching some vampire series when I came)
Her: I'm still waiting :' (waiting for the next student to come replace her)
Me: Are you coming back on sunday?
Her: On monday
Me: No, I'm asking if you are coming on sunday
Me: I'll have something with me probably (asked me just before when are we going to smoke again)
Her: ...I'm coming on monday
Her: What should I do now, omg
Her: I'll leave the keys and just go (Last two lines again about that hallway monitor thing or whatever you americans call it hehe :)
Me: Ok.. Come on sunday.
Me: Well..?
Her: I don't know, I'll see how it's going to be with the ride back
I didn't respond after the last one...It wasn't the best invitation, I know.
I guess that 9/10 of responsed like that actually mean no, but still - I was thinking about calling her on saturday and ask her about it again (counting on my social skills when we'll be talking). How does that sound to you? Or if I should've asked her differently over texts...
My main question here is are there other girls in the picture? If this is a female friend you've been long-gaming, I think its critical that you're actively working on and seeing other girls. Can you give us a few more details?
As I said, I know her for almost half a year now, but I've never actually made a move or gamed her because I was seeing other girls. But she was always somewhere in between for me, mostly because she was writing me all the time and we live a few rooms apart - but it never escalated because I didn't put the effort and she was never around :)
I'm starting to like her more now, so yeah, I'd like to make something out of it.
Pretty much all your texts are asking her and indirectly trying to sell her on coming on Sunday. I'd say let it breathe, joke around with her and change it up. Otherwise it comes across as needy. I'd give this girl at least a few days before hitting her up again. And also I'd not mention Sunday again, change it up.
http://manwhore.org/forum/content/19-rules-text-game-you-must-know
You obviously have a pretty serious lack of game dude. You're blaming it on always being too high or drunk but dude that's not an excuse for anyone else. Then you go hang out with her late and night and sit there till you pass out? Derp
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
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Well as I said, I wasn't trying to game her or anything. She just was there and I guess like I acted like a douche. Because that''s how I felt - not interested and it's not hard to do all those things when you drink or smoke.
But yeah.. It was a pretty lame thing to do/ not do now when you said it. Thx for advice
Yeah it's very common knowledge that if you can't carry the interaction in person you're not going to get SHIT over text. The only reason I can do things like get a girl out over text without having met her before is because my personal level of self-expression is off the charts, so yes I've learned to let this show thru text. But you're trying to put the cart before the horse. That's not how it works
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I think I have a good personal game, that is without the fact I didn't make a move... What would you do in this kind of situation? Considering I was maybe in friendzone with her since I haven't made a move before...
Make moves in real life. Report back. Anything else is complete mental masturbation.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male