I deleted this response to a question I wrote on RSDn "Going out with a girl that said "Would you have a problem if I.."
So basically I'm talking to this girl I met online. She's pretty uptight.I asked her out on saturday, she said she already had plans with friends and asked me if I could do it on saturday. I had plans then so we didn't go out yet.
But the whole time you can tell she's on a defensive state even though, she answers imediatelly, complains when I take to long to answer and is coming to chat everyday. There's always something for her to get offended "I didn't like your joke" "that was offensive" etc. ok
I told her to ask for her psychologist for a permission to go out with me (cause her psychologist suggested she downloaded the online dating app) and she also didn't like that haha lol but then she asked If I would have a problem if we went out and nothing happened.
I said "no, If I don't like you personally I wouldn't want do anything and it goes both ways"
Than she said she was asking because she went out with this guy who was really agressive to her because she didn't want to kiss him. And she said she probably would kiss him on a second date, but not on the first... She said she takes time to know if she really wants to hook up with someone.
Well... I ain't going on 2 dates with her if nothing happens on the first, that's for sure. But I was wondering, what about that kind of case.
Something to connect with her faster, good kinno, Idk...
Yeah you're going to have to navigate her inner bullshit. Once you do though she'll probably end up being a fucking freak. You got two main strategies here.. either work at this shit to an acceptable level and then "conquer" the rest so to speak when you meet in person, or just completely blow this out of the water before deciding if you want to show up or not. Obviously with first option you risk not pulling it off and ending up wasting your time, but second option risks miscommunication over text/phone. With stuff like this it really depends on the girl and the circumstances. Typically I can work through anything in person so I just sow the seeds and let it stew before I show up, BUT.. these particular kinds of headcases with the obvious sexual hangups are a bit of a different kind of breed. I would just go option 1 as far as you can take it comfortably without risking her busting a nut and then see where you stand with it.
Depending on your wording and delivery and even the order you employ the following, these can have POWERFUL effects. You can even completely neutralize all sexual hangups in her mind beforehand.. it just doesn't always go according to plan, lol:
- I don't like girls that don't go with what's happening in the moment. You try to put things in a box beforehand and you kill any realness.
- I'm not into girls that aren't in touch with their sexuality. That's a fucking awful existence.
- I don't like girls or people in general that worry about people judging them. I create my own reality.
- If I can tell a girl is holding herself back for bullshit reasons it's not attractive at all.
There's more but I got to get back to work nucka
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
That's fucking gold Jon! I'm stealing the fuck out of these. Great mindset/frame control.
Yeah man, lol. It got no responses on Rsdn I was like.. welp, let's post it somewhere else where someone might get some actual use out of it.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
This is amazing. Seems like you could reformat these lines anytime you need to make a strong projection, especially the second one
Yes absolutely. Which one you want to reformat depends on the girl though, and/or the situation. Some will nail the situation on the head while others won't have much bearing on the current emotional overhead.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Gotcha. So they are all attacking the same issue just from the different emotional perspectives she might have. That's super subtle and totally would have flown over my head
Really appreciate this
Niice, awesome