"I don't want to be your equal"

So I'm having sex with this girl last night and she says this to me while I'm having my way with her. In the moment it felt kind of random and out of the blue. Then she tells me something about how she loves it that I'm a man.

Prior to this we were on the couch, I basically spent 10 minutes explaining to her how I thought most guys in relationships/marriages were pathetic and foolish, how marriage is men giving away their rights to women, etc etc.

This was all after some bullshit that had popped up on a show we were watching that annoyed me. She tells me my perspectives on commitment and marriage are terrible. She tells me some standard stuff women always say about relationships. I look her in the eyes and tell her she doesn't think that and in fact is really turned on by what I said. She tells me she isn't, I tell her I'll prove it to her and stick my hands down her pants. She's dripping wet.

Me: Hmm. You're dripping wet, why is that.

Her: (hesitating)

Me: (smirking) Why do you say one thing but your pussy says another

Her: (Softly) because I'm not supposed to like it

Me: (grab her face, look in her eyes, kiss her softly, look in her eyes) Say it again, I can't hear you

Her: (she sighs, body goes more limp) Because I'm not supposed to like it

I stand her up, pull her pants down and bend her over her couch

Me: Say it again, say "ClosingIsAHabit, I say that because I'm not supposed to like it"

Her: ClosingIsAHabit, I say that because I'm not supposed to like it

Me: Say "ClosingIsAHabit, please fuck my wet pussy"

Her: ClosingIsAHabit, please fuck my wet pussy

The dynamic between us is pretty much like I'm rewarding her with my dick and the price of me giving it to her is her serving me and pleasing me.

One thing that really made this click for me with this girl was something MW mentioned, which was that for it to feel natural to a woman to get on her knees to blow you she can't feel like you're her equal or on the same level as her, literally getting on her knees to blow you is a manifestation of that. It really clicked for me because it made me think of a friend I fucked for 2 years, she flat out refused to get on her knees to blow me but would blow me while I was lying down in bed, sometimes. The sex was meh compared to other girls but I really liked her on a personal level. But she would not get on her knees and blow me and the dynamic was very much like we're on the same level. So when that clicked I met up with the girl above later that day for a date I brought that type of vibe.

What she said got me thinking about women, attraction, sex, etc.

In particular I started looking back at girls who've recently given me their number and expressed interest. They've all at some point had a moment where they feel my will influencing them and it's like their eyes light up like "Bingo, found it!". For example I was at work pitching this girl (sales) and she had been a bit flirty but now was not listening attentively, her eyes are looking all around but not at me it was a bit disrespectful to me and what I was selling. I snap my fingers in front of her face, she looks up at me, I look straight into her eyes and tell her "eyes up here (point to my eyes), I'm talking girl". Her mouth drops surprised that I called her out on it and then smiles with that excited look in her eyes like "omg found it!"

There was also this 10 at my job yesterday (I looked up her first name on google, her last name automatically popped up kind of hot) who was flirting with me and it was almost at that point where I felt it had hooked but what was missing was a higher level of her basically feeling my will/influence over her.

It's subtle but got me thinking about interactions I've had in a different light. For example a lot of people talk about "passing her shit test" but that's kind of a shitty frame. In the past I've felt like I'm performing, felt like having to prove that I'm good enough. But this look in these girls eyes and what this woman told me last night...now I'm thinking you know what if what's really going on is that they're going out to get fucked but have zero interest in any other sex than specifically the type where they surrender to your will/influence. Which is why they give you shit not because you have to pass the test but because they want to fuck the way where they feel themselves surrender to your stronger will. It's not a test you're passing, they're just creating opportunities for them to get turned out and have that kind of sex they want and the possibility of other type of sex doesn't register on their radar as that compelling but will still have it maybe just at a slower pace (the kind that can get them other things they want like stability, a guy to do different stuff with, money, feeling of connection aka relationship).

Also from this perspective, unresponsiveness become her wanting to see you do things that basically show her you're not influenced by her, do your thing and invite her again because again she wants to get fucked in a way where she feels your influence over her. This frame helped me today...yesterday I texted a girl telling her I had been busy for the last month but wanted to see her again now that I had settled some problems that were happening (went on date, made out. 2nd time was social left early bc I was tired/bored). She read, no reply. Today I tell her specific days that work for me, she replies right away "Maybe going out this weekend willlet you know if you're around :)"

A girl acting out of line is her waiting for you to call her out on it and exert your influence over her. It's a subtle difference from the me doing things to create attraction/pass a test versus they want to get fucked and are creating the opportunities to get fucked in the very particular way they are seeking. One is you're doing it to her, trying to be good enough the other frame is this is what she's already out looking for she's actively creating the opportunities for her to fuck in a way where she feels your influence over her.

Just thought it was an interesting nuance to something I had already heard about but not quite gotten in that way.