I feel like i've out grown my good friends
It is totally a shitty feeling to have, but I think I have to set some personal boundaries and limit my relationship with a lot of my former good friends.
I live a completely different lifestyle than most of them and I feel like I'm getting alienated for not wanting to get super fucked up all the time, which is not sustainable for my goals. Not sure if I should let them know whats up or just slowly drift away.
I'm fine with being friends with people that are different from me but Its too much when it keeps me from my doing my thing.
This is something that I experience over and over again and i'm not sure what the lesson is for me. I've always been a jock and a nerd at the same time lol
I have had new friends over the years. More like I just change and hang out w people I click with and as I change I just don't enjoy it as much with old friends. It's not bad just meet more people and you'll start to naturally want to spend time with other people.
yah pretty much what I'm feeling. Not trying to make it a judgmental thing I'm just not clicking with the same people anymore.
Yeah it happens. You can try having deep conversations with them and see where it leads.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I went through this as well, man. I had to cut a lot of people out of my life to start making changes to certain aspects of my life that genuinely needed improvement. I had to rebuild my social circle pretty much.
I had 5 really great friends growing up. Since we were literally kids we hung out and were practically brothers. After improving areas of my life that were in desperate need of attention, I know am only close with maybe 3 of them. Their goals line up with mine, which is cool, but I find the most important aspect of it all is that they respect what I'm trying to do, support me and they have their own goals that they are working towards. It doesn't really matter to me if our goals are the same or anything, but as long as they are working towards something important to them and they respect what I'm working towards.
Respect, Honesty and Loyalty are probably my top 3 things I look for in close friends and if I don't find it in someone, I just don't want them around me.
Everyone around my age just parties and gets fucked up every weekend or even every day. I ain't about that life. Never was, never really will be. It's shitty losing friends, or well in this case, cutting them loose, but honestly I find it's for the better most of the time.
It happens to all of us as time goes by. Just start hanging with new people, but you don't have to cut them off entirely, unless they're leaching off you then you might have to.
I've figured really good close friends are rare and it takes some time do develop these relationships, but i've figured you can not meet them for a long time and when you meet it will will be like nothing happened.
And yeah, standard baseline (it sucks but it's usually spot on) if they're not in college or pursuing some position that takes professional level skills you probably don't want to associate with them as much anymore. They say you are the sum total of the five people you hang around most. There's definitely some truth to that.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
And yeah, standard baseline (it sucks but it's usually spot on) if they're not in college or pursuing some position that takes professional level skills you probably don't want to associate with them as much anymore. They say you are the sum total of the five people you hang around most. There's definitely some truth to that.
Exactly the problem. The buds from college are cool, not as close, but relatable.