I feel this overwhelming high value frame battle developing with this girl. Confused
Okay, i'm going to try and make this as concise as possible.
Been talking with this chick for about a week, shes your stereotypical perfect 10 with the thousands of social media followers and all that nonsense. She's a friend of a friend and persued me and I got her to hangout in 2 days with zero speed bumps besides her admitting she was really nervous. We went out and got food, made out a bit, bottom line she really liked me. Any other sexual esclaltion was not congruent to the situation at hand.
Now, I feel the conflict brewing. She hit me up Thursday and invited me to a party for Saturday. Friday we both had prior plans, and for the brief period we talked it just seemed like we were battling each other a bit and the conversation was cold.
This was the text convo from this morning:
Girl: Are you coming tonight or no?
Me: lol yes I woke up 30 min ago I was making breakfast :)
Me: what time ar epeople heading over?
Her: 9
Me: Awesome im excited to see you
Me: Do you know her address?
Her: [address]
Me: No" i'm excited to see you too"?
Me: how rude of you :)
Her: haha obviously excited to see you :)
Me: okay im satisfied now :)
ME: so is she having a lot of people over or is this something small?
No response yet.
Then my buddy asks me if im going to the party and said this same girl was hitting him up about it too all week and said she seemed kinda interested him, which kinda pisses me off when it probably shouldn't.
Damn, my mind just doesn't feel right currently. I know this is how shit works when your trying to bang super hotties, but I just don't want to play this extreme push-pull game with her.My gut feeling says otherwise. I'm stuck in a negatvity trap and I don't like what is running through my head.
Not sure if this is one big worry i'm having and if i'm concerned about something that is not real, or if I have to internalize what is going on and act accordingly.
I really just want to get this out of my mnd, scream a few times, and fuck bitches. Yeah actually thats a good idea.
fuck reading her signals fuck that
Hm, everything seems fine I'd stop asking for signals back. E.g. "I love you.. wait you're not going to say it back?" When you give someone a gift, just give them the gift, there's no strings attached. This way YOUR focus is 100% on being awesome, not getting mixed up and losing focus to nonsense. Capishe?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Hm, everything seems fine I'd stop asking for signals back. E.g. "I love you.. wait you're not going to say it back?" When you give someone a gift, just give them the gift, there's no strings attached. This way YOUR focus is 100% on being awesome, not getting mixed up and losing focus to nonsense. Capishe?
There we go. Case closed
thank you
Yeah it was pretty clear that this chick was invested in me the whole time, my friend actually tried to pull her and embarrassed himself trying to stick his hands down her pants lol. She kept on telling me all night how much she liked me. It was a little basement party and when I tried to get her back to my place it was 3 am and so that did not work out, I manhandled the fuck outta her but really no sexual escalation besides kissing her whenever I pleased. Im not sure if this is going to be a problem in the long run, I understand that girls like this need zero ruthlessness but it just wasn't right for the situation yet again.
There were some high points of the night like when her friend called me out for still talking to another girl which I somehow plowed through like a motherfucker.
I hit her up today because i'm trying to get her out again ASAP
Me: im that kid that goes hard in gym class
Me: now im sweaty
Her: haha to why what did you do?
Me: I had to show off my athleticism
Her: Your gay :)
Me: You like gay dudes and transgender people
Her: No im pretty sure I like you :)
Me: I like your honesty
Me: Your not too either :)
Me: Bad*
Me: hey by the way it takes 8+ months to have sex with me
Me: I like to take it slow lol
Her: go to class nerd
Me: [send picture of huge "fuck you" on math work]
No response. Does she deserve a kick in the butt? or do I let her engage?
What the hell I feel so gay, nothing feels right. I don't care if she says she likes me, I've been in the game long enough to know that really doesn't mean shit in terms of being fuckworthy.
There are some moments with this girl where the dynamic is amazing like when she said that she likes me because im "rude and some points but also really sweet", but shes push-pulling the fuck outta me too!
My critiques are that:
- My push-pull is being based off of her push-pull
-I'm trying so hard not too fuck up, which manifests itself
-I'm feeling paranoid as fuck this week :/
It seems you're over thinking it. To me, her not responding back doesn't mean much, that kind of picture is funny but it's not one that I would expect a reply back for. I would just send it because it's funny and then re-engage later.
I would keep an eye out for this pattern of 'kicking her butt' when you don't get certain validation you're expecting, I get what you mean by it but it could get triggered and lead to self-sabotaging an otherwise great interaction. All I see on here is a girl who likes you who's being playful. I think it's just your own insecurities projecting like there's a struggle when there isn't. But maybe MW sees something different but that's what I saw reading this.
It seems you're over thinking it. To me, her not responding back doesn't mean much, that kind of picture is funny but it's not one that I would expect a reply back for. I would just send it because it's funny and then re-engage later.I would keep an eye out for this pattern of 'kicking her butt' when you don't get certain validation you're expecting, I get what you mean by it but it could get triggered and lead to self-sabotaging an otherwise great interaction. All I see on here is a girl who likes you who's being playful. I think it's just your own insecurities projecting like there's a struggle when there isn't. But maybe MW sees something different but that's what I saw reading this.
Okay, maybe your right about not expecting a reply lol
My insecurities are definitely coming out! Thats why I am writing this out i'm really trying to seperate myself from the bullshit.
Yeah nothing to trip over mang. That was a pretty funny exchange, didn't require a response. Just make sure there's hints of other activities you may be engaged in. Make plans with this girl and meet up with her. Maybe call her and talk on the phone later, but stop tripping over one chick
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male