I got into a confrontation with a sociopath

I wish I stopped for a second and put him on the spot by asking something like " do you think it is okay that you killed someone, are you okay with that you don't seem to upset?" It would have been good to expose his lack of emotion.

http://mind-hacks.wonderhowto.com/how-to/disarm-manipulative-sociopath-0...

I was NOT paying attention to his reactions, everything I was projecting was coming from ME. Thats a leap in the right direction

Yes that article is excellent, that's pretty much exactly how I handle these turds. And it makes a very good point that people need to understand about sociopaths.. they are STUCK in an earlier period of childhood development.. so in actuality they can be quite easy to spot and you DON'T have to be afraid of them. Lots of people are subsconsiously afraid of sociopaths and so when they are forced to interact with one they become acquiescent. Obviously that's the wrong course of actually as once a sociopath sees a mark they'll never let them go. And yes the most bizarre and many times DISTURBING aspect of sociopaths is nothing is sacred to them, there is no such thing as right or wrong or personal boundaries. No's are simply obstacles to them. I've seen them pester their friends/students/wings to let them bang their girlfriend without batting an eye. Over and over and over again. To them it's nothing, they think it's just another aspect of game to learn how to convince/"game" their wings into letting them bang their girlfriends. 

You made the mistake of getting emotional and hostile with this kid when you should have realized this would further bait them and escalate the situation to a place you couldn't take it to. This kid's got no moral quandaries, exists outside of society. So you either would have had to hurt him and shown him the boot, or simply choose another course of action from the get-go. Just play the same game with them just like the article says. Point out their shortcomings and failings and paint them as fucking weirdos. You'll realize you can easily outgame these turds as their "game" never really gets past middle school level. 

I never got overly emotional it was more aggressive conviction, I spoke my mind and I spoke it well. And I actually did think I was going to be smashing his face in and thats why I went that route. I do not think trying to be more calm then him was even possible. Who knows, i'm defintely not looking back dissapointed.

Thanks for the insight and I understand what your saying though. How do you think I should have handled the one crazy bitch?

I should have realized that he was not going to even try to get hostile with me from the get go, i was waiting to act in self defense but he wanted to play things cool.

Yeah I'd say you probably did pretty good then. I've definitely handled similar situations the same, ;). 

Well what are some other things you could have done? How could you have owned this person and this situation.. 

I could have slowed down and put him on the spot and asked him why he deserves my respect and should have called him out for giggling about a serious crime. I probaly shouldn't have even pushed him at all. The vocals and the use of "no" im happy with though.

Right. Keep going with that.

Make it less about me being violated and more about him being out of place and emotionless. Made it clear that he has charmed everyone into thinking that he has changed but he lacks remorse, and is swindling all of the people around him. Pointing out that the threats he has made towards my friends and I have to be taken seriously because he has all of the characeristics of a serious criminal. The ultimate goal is to make him leave and make his friends turn on him.

His friends know hes a fucker he just uses his charm to keep things cool and nobody has the balls to call him out. 

Yes, and how do you communicate with the people around you both.

Eye contact and ask rhetorical questions like "Do you think (name) should be here tonight drinking after he killed someone drunk driving?"

A lot of people came up to me afterwards and said they respect what I said and i'm sure I could have got them to speak their minds during the interaction itself.

Cool. Then what about this chick that apparently kicked you out.

I'm pretty sure she banged him at one point and she's deeply manipulated by him. Her boyfriend was there though hes a nice guy and we get along well, so calling her out on that probably would not be a good option. She could have been avoided altogether by being proactive in the sense of not pushing him and making it clear my aggression was only verbal.

Or you actually could call her out on it.

yup I was pretty pissed and probably would have if it popped into my mind 

Thanks for coaching me through this as always Manwhore. I'm ready to take it to the next level when a similar situation arises.

Def should have called her out. Def tool this piece of shit. Are his charges pending? Once he asked you what was wrong was the time to just own him. You'll be ready next time, tho he's on alert of your hostility / thoughts on him now.

Dude. The timing of this post could not be more perfect. Its like the universe is sending me messages...

So I run into one of my old buddies from my highschool wrestling team at the gym. We chat for a bit, then make plans to go out. We pregame then head downtown. He is being super negative, even in the conversations hes having with women - "Did you know X amount of ppl die a year in X" "Blah blah blah, Corruption, blah blah gun control" HAHA like who talks about this shit with women at bars? I see he's not feeling it so I say lets go home and on the way back a guy asks for a ride a couple blocks to his GF's place. My "friend" proceeds to threaten physical violence against him saying shit like "I'll fucking kill you. I've been to jail I dont give a fuck." Im in the car like dude lets go I dont wanna get in trouble with the cops . He says "I will bury that kid in the bushes" or something to that effect. I laugh it off at the time.

I then read Meow's post. The thought of this dude being a sociopath enters my mind. I brush it off. I make plans to hang out with him the next day, turns out he has a couple fairly successful online businesses (netting 6 figures) and so I ask if I can come over and watch his operation, he agrees to teach me about the business and possibly hire me to help him out.

(This dude had a HUGE problem with opiates in high school and college, arrested multiple times, etc)

I go over to his place, he's showing me some stuff and everything is cool. CASUALLY mentions how he beat a kid up who we used to go to highschool with and stole his Hublot watch, says "Yeah I was a crazy little fucker back then haha"

I'll keep it concise, what started as a casual disagreement escalates quickly into an argument, he's trying to threaten violence on me like that kid who asked for the ride. Saying shit like "Youre in my house" and all that fake bravado shit. I get up, say "Guess what Im in your house, now Im out your house" and leave. I'll post the text convo that proceeded below. Holy shit. I think this dude qualifies as a sociopath. Thanks for the heads up, Meow, I wouldnt have known how to handle the situation otherwise.

Lol there's a difference, ^ he's on drugs. Ha!

Yeah nobody really knows he's probbaly going to jail soon 

That dude sounds fuckin nuts...its a damn shame he's doing well for himself because he clearly doesn't deserve it

One of the guys I did business with in the past, I'm pretty sure he's a sociopath or a chronic liar.

Basically he gets clients, and then promises them work, and then completely dissapears on them.

He had send us clients and now wer'e stuck cleaning up his mess because he promised a ton of work and got paid for it, and then never delivered.  So now we're trying to clean up his mess.  The dude knows how to network for sure, he was interning for a couple of big names including one "self help guru" who's extremely well known amongst the RSD crowd.  And then he'd use their connections to get clients and then flake on them and completely go ghost on them after taking their money.