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Dear diary.

I recently noticed that i do retarded self-destructive shit...

Let's ignore that i eat junk food, waste money and don't sleep well and go straight to pickup!

Like when i opened a 3 set earlier today on the street omw home, within' 2 minutes had the girls all glaring at me like i'm a God and figured out their dynamic in the group and everything and i just started pointlessly teasing one of them and being a fucking dick...

Or i will have a girl stand and talk to me, WHEN I'm being very boring and she will fake laugh at my non-existant jokes and be all giggly and into me for no reason other than that i'm such a god and then i won't even try to fuck her or even get her number, i just let her go or give her my number or something...

It goes even deeper... girls will open ME when i'm just standing still at a bar full of people dancing and i will reject her... girls that i find attractive.

It's like... i feel like i'm so much better than everyone else, but at the same time i fucking hate myself right now...

One magic pill, please...

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Joined: 11/16/2013
Oh Ya that's just the

Oh Ya that's just the not-so-helpful kind of narcissism. You can def still get laid with that mentality but it can be harmful for sure...especially long-term

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Go volunteer at a humane

Go volunteer at a humane society and play with some neglected puppies. 

Purpose homie. Life aint all about sugar walls.

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Have you ever had a 1 year

Have you ever had a 1 year relationship with some girls in the past ?

Pur mental block, you go out there and approach women on surface but deep down you push them away. You're not comfortable be cuddly and sexually intimate with a girl because this is waste of time for you. Why the fuck will you cuddle with some girls ? You are ambivalent about women, fear of success. Been there.

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I good you figured this out

I good you figured this out man. I was feeling the same way for a while too, and like manwhore says a superiority complex can really cut you off from making some great relationships with people. 

The way ive been approaching it is by consciously not creating pain for other people. Even if someone is leeching off of you, or the girl talking to you is ugly just try "be on their team" and make them feel good or at least don't fuel any bad feelings they are having. Jabronvich discuses this in one of this posts about the success mindset. When you take interest in people you meet and hope the best for them you automatically come across as awesome.

Good example for yah. Last night my buddy invited two girls over my place and they just weren't very hot or fun. On top of that it was clear my girl had some drinking issues and what not. Not too long ago I would have gotten pretty angry about this situation and tried to get rid of the girls asap. Instead we chilled out I introduced my girl to a few people but at the same time did not lead her on to think anything romantic/sexual was going down between us. She got the idea was nice and casual about everything and told me she was going to head home. Bottom line I was not interested in her but didn't make it a superiority situation, she probably still think I'm a pretty cool guy. If I saw her around things would be all good she would introduce me to her friend etc. etc. Much better route than painting myself as an asshole because she wasn't good enough for me.

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I can relate soo bad...

I can relate so bad to this... I blow myself out of sets just for the heck of it, or if I am bored.
I think a lot of it comes from "thinking to much"or beeing stuck in your head like some people call it.

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Joined: 11/13/2014
The problem is that i don't

The problem is that i don't have an abundance of women right now and if i keep doing what i'm doing, i never will build stable relationships with women, because right now i hardly view them as humans... maaaaan

this will srsly fuck me up long-term like that guy said a few posts above...

I give so little of a fuck about my relationships with 99% of people i know, it's CRAZY and when i care it's because there is something in it for me... how many times have my old homies tried to hit me up??? dozens and i just blew them off.

I blow everyone off because i think i'm too good for them... and i'm right

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Dude would you rather have

Dude would you rather have the momentary ego trip of blowing the girl off, or would you rather be the fun happy guy who gets laid a lot.

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SultryGorilla wrote: Dude

SultryGorilla wrote:
Dude would you rather have the momentary ego trip of blowing the girl off, or would you rather be the fun happy guy who gets laid a lot.

I get a momentary ego trip from walking through a mall seeing all the girls with their boyfriends pretend they're not looking at me.

This is a deeper issue... 

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Oh Ya for sure- that's

Oh Ya for sure- that's jormal. I get that whenever I like workout it's why I run downtown cause I like that feeling of all the girls looking at me

its more the hating yourself part that's not as helpful

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This is a tough issue

This is a tough issue to get around, I have a similar issue and I find that I swim in and out of that mind set sometimes. I like what someone said earlier about consciously trying to not make people feel bad. What I do is consciously try to make connections with people. And sometimes do the same thing with chicks I'm not neccessarily attracted to, but happen to be in the social situation I am at. What I find is that other attractive girls will actually notice that I can talk to a girl who may not be the hottest at the party (maybe a fatty) and that since my ego's not wrapped up in it and I'm not nervous that it will make me less of a guy, they see this and seem to look favorably upon it. Anyone else experience this?  It's not like I aim to talk to fatties but if it's a social situation where a lot of people know eachother it has more benefit. 

Anyway, in regards to your actual issue, I think another guy pointed on it well, fear of success. You're ego is rationalizing some behavior that in reality is keeping you down (what you're on here for it to get with chicks right?) because actually going for it requires you to be vulnerable. It's much easier to turn down the opportunity.  What you need to do is try going for it despite those feelings and after a few times you will notice your feelings may change more positively towards these types of situations.  Like you mentioned there may be parts of your life right now that you're not particularly happy with, and whether you take the steps to fix them or not you need to be able to project you're not ashamed of your life situation and go for it the next time you have a girl chatting you up...The world will not end if you are actually successfull and get it in, in fact you never have to talk to her again. Just don't put a baby in 'er ;)

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Set your goals higher,

Set your goals higher, bitch. 

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common

​not unusual at all