I hit a wall with this girl... halp!
Hola!
So last Saturday I met a superhottie through an acquaintance at the club. We were all chilling in a bottle service booth celebrating a birthday.
Just like in my last thread i've been focusing on maintaining conversations and vibing, something I lacked a little especially in social circle situations. I was always a bit overwelming in these kinds of situations.
ANYWAYS superhottie she makes it clear to me that she is open to talk, after i'm leave to talk to birthday girl the first time lol. I pulled her to the bar where we had private time for the most-part.
The vibe was great with her investing significantly more than me (talks a lot too). It wasn't very sexual and physical, but I know i can make it up later.
It's just now i set myself up for disaster thru text and shit is not going in the direction I want it to go, have a look:
8/23
ME (1:27am): Guru cool black Dude
HER (3:16am): Yeah i'm Alex, cool white girl lol
ME (12:13pm): Lol dork
ME (12:14pm): Alcohol 1 - me 0. Maybe some Cajun Kitchen would help :P
HER (12:20pm): Lol I was awake at 9am making food then passed out again
ME (12:50pm) Well uhm good afternoon sunshine! Time to get your day started
8/25
(8:17pm) I called her while i was making dinner and left her a brief voicemail using callback humor and talking about my day.
HER (8:36pm): Hey i fell asleep lol long day.... I'm up at 6:45 everyday for work
8/26
ME (2:49pm): All good :) I had one of the big heads who interviewed m recently about my promotion come in and make me shit bricks
HER (5:01pm): Where do you work again?
ME (6:20pm): I work at ****
HER (6:21pm): What do they do?
ME (6:22pm): Haha you've never been there?? It's like a much cooler version of ****
HER (6:23pm): No i've never been there lol
HER (6:23pm): Idk where it is
ME (6:24pm): Fasho, well how was work? I may be down for drinks some time this week
HER (6:26pm): My whole department and i got laid off today so fucking shitty (As someone whose first language is not english, i just learned the difference between laid off and fired that very same day lol)
ME (6:35pm): lol wtf
HER (6:42pm): It's really not funny
ME (7:20pm): OH shit I didn't mean it like that missy. I mean it obviously sucks. What do you want to do about it?
HER (7:27pm): I think i'm just going to be homeless now.... Obviously get another job
HER (7:27pm): Not much I can do
ME (8:10pm): Got it :P Well i'm about to hit up *** bar for a good buddy's birthday. You're welcome to swing by for a bit if you want to cheer up
HER (8:12pm): I have to go to my great job at 8 am that means up at 6:30
ME (8:21pm): Ha damn. I thought it was the same job
HER (8:25pm): It is the same job...
HER (8:25pm): Our last day is October
HER (8:25pm): I still have to go to work knowing they r laying us of ....
HER (8:27pm): So i can't even go to interviews because i'm still full time until our last day
Honestly this convo started to drain me so I just stopped here. I figured i'd hit her up the next day and start fresh lol.
ME (9:21pm): psst!
Sooo yeah.... Any tips on my shitty text game and how to recover from it
This is all balls up. The text convo, meeting her. I'm not going to write your texts for you but you got to shift the emotions away from her sad times towards something better.
Your goals were to maintain conversations and vibe? That's day 1 stuff man.
Go for a meet up