Ignoring the girls texts?
What's your guys' take on ignoring a text from the girl? I don't usually ignore them but I'm starting to more. Just in general a text conversation I just had with a girl was sort of heavy from the get go so I didn't know how to reply so I stopped talking. I usually always reply but I was talking with a friend today who said when you ignore girls they almost get more attracted to you. Not sure how this concept works for text game. But I know it works in real face-to-face interactions.
Me: Hey, how's it going?
Her: It's alright, how about you?
Me: Fantastic! Why just alright?
Her: Well one of my good friends dad passed away today
Me: Oh wow, I'm so sorry. Would it be best if I leave you be as you deal with this? I know the feeling, it's terrible.
Her: It's okay, I'm fine! I just feel bad for him, he's been through so much lately I can't even imagine what he's going through
Me: They do say, "When it rains, it pours." It's really shitty. I remember when my grandpa passed away, my uncle was killed and like you really think it can't get any worse. I could imagine the thoughts crossing his mind, it does get better though
Her: Yeah it always seems to be that way, but yeah it will be eventually!
Basically I felt actually bad having this conversation. I was initially going to go for a meet up but I thought to conversation was too depressing to do it. Now I'm not sure where to go. Maybe reengage another day?
Yeah I texted a girl the other day:
me: Hey punkin. Hows your day going
her: Awesome! Just buried my best friend! Never been better! Not ...
me: What what, u serious?
me: That's terrible....
me: Damn boo, there anything I can do?
me: If u want someone to talk to feel free to call me. I've been thru rough shit like that before I know it's the worst
But you mean ignoring her last text? i wouldnt really consider that ignoring since it doesnt necessarily warrant a response. I feel like ignoring would be more like if she asked something and u didnt respond. Maybe one of the more advanced guys will hop on here and shed some light but I feel like it's definitely a case by case thing and ignoring in the right spots could be pretty powerful. Like when she "expects" u to answer bc she perceives that to be your default behavior, and u just shift her internal view of you around by actually not caring enough to either respond right then and there, or whatever the case.
Lately I've been noticing that the most important thing I can do is actually feel with whatever situation, instead of going in my head and being like ohh shes not texting me bc of this that and the other, to just be like, oh shes just silly, or shes probly busy, but I know she wants me cuz all girls want me. And if my internal belief is good like that, they end up texting me. Might sound weird but this is what ive been experiencing. Like w my keeping the fire going chick I just made up my mind I wasnt going to text her. But i also wasnt tripping about her, and thought to myself, I know she wants my dick, and she ended up texting me. Also I listened to what Chris was saying about setting boundaries, and i didnt want to chill w her friends
her: What r u doing
me: Grabbin a coffee wbu
her: Do you and ur boys want to come to a party it a small one
me: I'm good I'm working on some stuff. Wyd tmrw tho I know this place thats got the best milkshakes
her: what noo u should its going to be fun and i cant tomorrow i have an event to go to :(
me: I'm busy boo. Lets do Thursday then
her: I think i can do thursday
me: Sounds good
her: Okayyy *blush emoji
Nice man, well played.
I figure the the conversation was way too negative to continue and flip into a conversation, even I felt off after she said that.
Hopefully some of the other guys could chime in like you said. I heard ignoring specific texts could be magical.
I also am starting to develop that inner game where I just assume girls want me. I'm usually the one always texting first with a few exceptions. So I'm doing the chase. I figure maybe I'll reengage with this girl in a few days or something.. Could use advice I'm not really sure.
Its shitty i was was going to tell her to come to the fireworks tonight :P
also do you usually turn down her requests? Like for that party that you said no too
I think you handled it very well Grappler. You were proactive about helping her deal with it emotionally, she'll remember that. Alex...not so much lol
Thanks man I appreciate it. I don't do well in those types of situation whether it be friends or a girl I'm texting.
Do you suggest hitting her up in a few days? I know she's going away this weekend so it might even be pointless then to try to set a meet up.. Haha was really hoping to do that today. Either way I'm about to go out and day game.
Yeah you can hit her up tonight. It's interesting because the vibe Alex's girl has with him even with this going down is what you could be having with yours.
yeah I agree. I feel like I can hook this girl by not giving up the frame, I'll shoot her a message now and banter a bit. If she's going away I can't really go for a meet up, should I just banter and drop it after a little while?
Her: I can't come today :( but hopefully some other time! :) have fun!
So this girl sent me this, and i didn't reply anything. Supposedly she was supposed to study for a big test, and her mom didn't let her out. Some other female friends didn't show up either for the same reason. However, i met another chick and didn't bother to reply. It's been 2 days now... any advice how to re-engage?
i flaked on her once too though... thinking of sending "i think its our destiny to never meet again, there's always some obstacle :p"
good or bad?
No that's a "false barrier" that would actually come off too realistic. To be honest dude I can't quite follow you here. Who's this other girl you ignored? Dafuq is going on
The fact it's her mother holding her back is gold. THAT'S what you use for content. See what you can come up with to turn that around on her and post it up.
Haha i was gonna do that initially but i read a post of you telling some guy not to mention the girls family, lol.
No i invited her out and she said she would try to come but she didn't think her mom would let her. Then she sent me that like 10 pm when i was already hanging out with another chick..
No man it was the context of how he brought the family up. Always remember that. Can you link me to that post? Maybe I needed to explain that better.
Yeahh... dumb of me. I can't find that post though but it makes sense!