"Im not that type of girl" tinder convo
I got this grils number off of tinder a few weeks ago. chatted on and off, invited her out to a party but things didnt go down and things faded away. Recently hit her up and things are looking better, but some speed bumps. Loookin for some guidance/suggestions. This convo is spread out throughout 3 days.
Me: Yo Julia T. Wassup
Her: T? haha
Me: um it stands for tinder
Me: duhh
Me: haven't we gone over this
Her: oh yeah hahaha
Her: I actually deleted my tinder like weeks ago (crying laughing emoji)
Me: why you don't like meeting new peeps :)
Her: not interested in those kinda peeps lol
Me: lol what an over generalization
Her: not true! I had over 300 matches and I only liked one of them enough to actually meet up him hahaha there were so any weirdos
Me: yeah ok there are some weird people and ive met with some chicks that really sucked
Me: but you obviously didnt give people a chance
Her: haha no I guess I didnt
Her: the guy is actually mutual friends with you on fb which is weird to me
Me: lol who is it
Her: (name)?
Me: haha no way! yeah I used to ski with (name) like 3-4 years ago
Me: haven't seen him in a while but hes fuckin hilarious <------- actually a super cool dude, wasnt trying to lose my value
Her: yeah hes so funny!!
Me: so that was your only tinder fling
Me: see I only meet with experienced tinder-ers ( cool glasses emoji)
Her: haha not a fling, just met up twice hes awesome
Her: haha why is that?
Me: lol maybe I could make an exception for you tho
Her: I'm not that type of girl :)
Her: hahaha
Me: woah dont get ahead of yourself :p
her:??
Me: hehe your making a heavy assumption
Her: what am I assuming?
Me: im not some tinder whore (teeth clenched emoji)
Her: How should I know ( suprised money emoji)
Me: your awfully paranoid (crying laughing emoji)
Me: its normal tho I guess
Her: haha playing safe
Me: Sorry I feel asleep on yah :)
Me: but playing it safe is for losers
Her: haha wow you went to bed early
Me: yeah my bed is too comfy :)
Me; omg I just made the most retarded looking pizza ever
Her: pics or didnt happen
Me: (snap chatted pizza)
Me:its my fine my pizza doesnt like you either
Her: it looked pretty good
Me; that is such a lie
Her: not at al!
Me: it looked like a football and was burnt as fuck
her: I love burnt food im a weirdo (girl emoji)
Me: well burnt cheese is actually good...
Me: but your still weird :)
Her: I dont like cheese (laughing monkey emoji)
Me: what could you possibly like burnt then yah freak :0
her: #shrug
Me:what is that supposed to mean :)
Me you like to eat burnt slugs
Me: thats gross
her: I said shurg
Her: damn you think im a freak hahaha
Me: maybe a lil bit :)
Me: my biggest problem is I dont know how to pronouce your last name...
Her: no one does
Me: well attempt to describe it
I make fun of her last name for a lil bit and then twist into something ice cream related. Its too detailed to share for personal reasons but it was kewl
Me: ugh no :)
Me: but I do like ice cream
Me: cuz im fat
Her: samesies
Me: oh yeah whats your favorite :)
Her: chocolate im a chocoholic
Me: for soft serve you cant go wrong with chocolate
Me: but like real ice cream I need something more interesting :)
Her: thats true depends on where I am and what I get haha
Me: very true need that high class ice cream
Me: we should get ice cream you can even get extra sprinles (cool glasses emoji)
Her: Deal
Me: cool what you up to saturday
Her: not sure yet
Me: welll we should hang in the afternoon I think I gotta work in the morn
Her: haha alright I have to check if im working ill let ya know :)
Me: ok homie keep me posted
Her: hahah I will
Im not worried about the text convo itself its good enough I practically have the meet up. I just have this feeling shes too paranoid to meet up cuz she lives like 45 min away which makes it more of an ivestment.
Me; omg I just made the most retarded looking pizza ever
Her: pics or didnt happen
Me: (snap chatted pizza)
Me:its my fine my pizza doesnt like you either
Nice!!!
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Your holding a solid frame. Impressive
Other than that you're sorta still being a cock tho. Some of you ninja turtles gotta learn to reward a girl when she deserves it. Too much cock, not enough romance.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
really? I thought I was being nice as hell,. Thanks tho that's the reason I post these.
Her: I actually deleted my tinder like weeks ago (crying laughing emoji)
Me: why you don't like meeting new peeps :)
You're accidentally framing meeting up with you as being about as potentially awkward as it could get. In fact it would end up being hilarious to keep going with it and make it sound as creepy as possible! Maybe even make yourself out to be the victim. ;)
"Yes
You can go with any particular style or manner you want (as long as you keep certain dynamics in mind) but just wanted to show you my line of thinking here.
I typically always keep the frame positive towards the thougth of meeting up with me and the time we'll have. I only frame things negatively, or use negative shaping, or honestly mostly just the threat of it, when she's shown some sort of flakiness or emotional OCD. Which is pretty much every fucking 2 minutes with some of these girls. So yeah only do that as a last resort. Haha.
Or when I'm training either young or stubborn dickheads. Or both, such as yourself :p
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Okay that makes sense, and yes that was an accident I was trying to be positive about the meet up but I ended up doing the opposite lol
yeah the victim frame actually could work! cuz I opened her with the whole "I want to meet you as long as your not a sociopath" and that was the frame until I got her number.
thank yous
Alright this might be on she just sent me a pre-shower snapchat lol but still no text about her work schedule hmmmm im gonna have to handle that
me: I hope we are robbing that ice cream truck tomorrow :)
her: haha maybe I have a family party I might have to reschedule with you :)
me: oh yeah need a few more days to plan your kid napping of me? :)
her: yeah I bebjs strategize
her: I need to* haha
me: lol I expect something crazy :p
her: why haha
me: cuz I'm a ninja and you won't kidnap me easily :)
her: challenge accepted
me: ok sounds like fun (kissy face emoji)
damn this was actually good but should have lead it further
that's my problem I lack the presence to just push deeper and soak in a good interaction because I'm trying to get somewhere else without the work and leadership required.
she he didn't even say no just needed a lil more romance
Yes agree with both but still, good stuff.
You can always come back to this dynamic. I wouldn't beat yourself up over that at all.. "I lack the presence to just push deeper and soak in a good interaction because I'm trying to get somewhere else without the work and leadership required." is some sort of self-talk I don't think is helpful at all. This doesn't require much, just see it as it is, and how it could be, and move from there. There are much bigger fish to fry in life.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
yah I think I can work things out I'm just frustrated when I miss the window like this. Now I gotta hit her up again in a few days and start a few steps behind.
Pff so what.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Her: I actually deleted my tinder like weeks ago (crying laughing emoji)
Me: why you don't like meeting new peeps :)
i thought it was a smooth response but hey i am a noob
me: I'm having so much fun playng softball right now (clenched teeth emoji)
Me: Whats up
her: not too much yourself?
Me: playing softball bringing the heat
Her: hahah softball?
Me: lol yeah gym class
Her: oh are you in highschool?
Me: yeah
Me: why are you texting me creep :p <--- nice!
Her: ruuuude
Her: lmao
Me: lol what are you doin saturday
Her: working 3-11 <---- okay she said no a few time already gonna back off
Me: oh gawd thats a long day
Her: yup!
Me: what are you going to spend all the money you make on?
Me: pokemon cards? (cool glasses emoji)
Her: i mean what else obviously
Me: where do you live again I forgot lol
Her: (town)
her: you?
Me: oh yeah!
Me: (town)
Me: imma have to mapquest that
Her: hahaha
Her: my cousin lives in (town)
Me: lol who
her: (name)
Me: how old is he
Her: my age, goes to (college), computer nerd
Her: I think he went to (private school)
Me: oh I see
Me: yeah my soccer team egged the (private school) almost got arrested :p
Me: im surprised I dont know him though I used to hangout there a lot
her: hahaha thats funny is there like a rivalry
Me: haha no not at all there sports suck
Me: their* excuse my grammer im in highschool <---- sporting it
Her: hahaha which grade
Me: 9th :p
Her: kkkk see ya (crying laughing emoji)
Me: lol im a senior 19 years of age nigguh
Me: but you are totally into freshman
Her: why so old
Her: no way I go for older guys usually (crying laughing emoji)
Me: I started schoool late I think :p
Me: oh yeah like mid 40s?
Her: last guy I dated was 23 haha
Me: wow he must have been really intelligent n shit :P <----- nice!
Her: nope thats why I dumped him after 3 years (white girl emoji)
Me: thats sad :/ dontchu drag me into this! <----- framing myself as a romantic relationship
her: no way thats long over haha crazy
Me: haha just found out im not working saturday morning wanna chill for a bit <----- getting better connection so will try again
her:maybe! haha im not sure if I have to teach lessons sunday morning or not
me: screw the little kids they dont need lessons :p
Her: saturday*
Her: hahaha they doooo
Me: hehe im kidding lemme know whats up
Me: you can only plan to kidnap me for so long....
Her: hahaha I guess so
hmmmmI think I killed it here but somethings missing she needs a little more, Maybe she is super busy she seems to be super disciplined but who knows .
Yeah man this was really good lol. For a potentially uphill battle you kicked its ass. What you want to do, what you need to do here, is start framing the time you're going to be having together. It's pretty much completely lacking here.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
But you've already got all the content you'd need to start doing it.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Yup that's definitely the missing link
thanks dad
Good stuff.
Me: (screen shot of her tinder profile)
Me: LOL! back in the game bud :p
Me: kinda like your new profile more
I tease her about creeping on tinder for younger guys, and we figure out im actualy older
Me: You still teach children how to play musical intruments :p
Me: which is creepy in itself
Her: they love me its all good
Me: even weirder..
Her: hey! be nice!
Me: lol you probably take them on nice romantic dates to mcdonalds
next day:
Her: so what if I do
Me: I would say thats slightly lame
Me: they at least deserve taco bell (cool glasses emoji)
her: im going to beat you uppp
Me: lol I do jiu jitsu im practically a ninja
Me: so thats not true
her: want to bet
Me: Id whoop yo ass and bring you to taco bell afterwards lol
Me: thats if we ever hungout (teeth clenched emoji) <----wasnt supposed to be arrogant but teasing that she has denied my dates like 3 times, idk how she interpreted
Her: yeah but youre too cool to hang out with me apparently sooo
Me: lol I never said that (crying laughing emoji)
her: then prove its not true :)
Me: any day I donthave work id gladly do so ;)
Me: how bout tuesday
her: I work 3-11 but I can in the morning....? Lol
Me: yeah thats cool I look sexier in the morning anyways
Me: hmmm how far do you live from (mall)?
her: 10/15 min
her: tops
Her: idk in reality 5 minutes haha
Me: oh awesome im pretty close too
Me: lets meet there at 10:30?
Me: its defintely a good spot for the fight (cool glasses emoji)
Me: lol AND you still owe me ice cream
her: when
Me: does 10:30 work for yah?
her: like what day
Me: tuesday thats my only day off (teeth clenched emoji)
Her: yes I think so :)
Me: awesome :)
Me: ill text ya tomorrow night and we can figure out if its still gonna work
her: okay!
my only question is does my texting fall off when I give the details about when and where? Am I delivering it weird? I don't know why she went retarded on me asking the time and day when I already said it.
So we met up, the poor girl cut her forehead on her car door on her way to see me lol so she was super nervous.
She was hot and kinda crazy. Like I was kinda turned off crazy because she shared a bit too much about herself. I hit her with the kiss on the cheek when we met up and things went accordingly and about as sexual as possible for being at the mall defintely could bang next time I see her.