Initial Text Convo with American Girlie - What Next?
Realized recently that although my ONS game is legit, my text game is just a mess probably just because I'm lazy and never put any effort into it. Kind of scary to think how many more hotties I coulda banged if I'd made the effort.
So here's one I'm working on.
Got her number at the club, makeout number, solid and fairly sexual. Bad logistics at the end (shitty cockblock friends).
Same night, getting an initial back and forward in her phone
HER: Its ellie from tonight
ME: Heya
ME: ;)
HER: It was really nice to meet you
ME: Likewise
ME: That dancing hmm ;)
HER: Even though the american accent isn't cute we can dance :)
ME: No words just emotions
ME: ;)
HER: Do all south africans have a way with words ;)
ME: Just me ;)
HER: That's what I thought haha
ME: You're alright for a new york girl
HER: The best there is
Don't reply
Three days later:
Me: You know, you're saved in my phone as "Ellie American Dubliner" ;)
HER: hahaha well you may be in my phone as alex from the bar
ME: So unoriginal ;)
ME: Damn such an awesome day, feels like summer. Perfect icecream weather
HER: I know! Finally feels warm I am not used to the cold
ME: I have an idea. Let's go rob an icecream truck. I'll do the dirty work, you keep lookout ;)
HER: If we get caught I'll blame you :)
ME: Yeah you're too little, you wouldn't survive in jail
HER: No no Im going to avoid jail while I'm here
ME: Okay let's meet up for a drink to discuss world domination (icecream heist) ;)
No reply, thought I messed up. Then next day:
HER: So just got airtime if you're still are down for drinks and world domination let me know
ME: Of course, a classy drink is the only way to go about discussing such matters. Who says we can't have fun at the same time ;)
HER: I have no doubts that it will be fun
ME: You me and alcohol. Yup sounds good to me ;)
HER: It was last time :)
Don't reply
then next day (this evening):
ME: Aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking sexy ass people! You will be safe, I'm just texting to say goodbye
HER: Are you saying im not good enough to be taken hahaha
ME: Good comprehension skills ;) how r u new york?
HER: Harsh haha and good hows it africa?
ME: It's Howzit ;) I'm good, although feeling popcorn and cuddles
HER: Thanks for the grammer lesson haha and looks like you've got yourself a game plan
ME: I'll bring the popcorn you take care of the cuddles. My place or yours? ;)
HER: Well im currently cuddling my three roomates hahaha.
Woah that was longer than I thought.
The last text was just now. What next? And what can I improve on for next time?
Lots of winky faces lol.
She seems pretty receptive but those winky faces are insinuating sex is gonna happen which is making her tease you. Save the overt sexting and winky faces for after sex.
Say "Perfect, I'm busy for the next couple of hours. Lets chill at 9."
The winky faces are fine, the issue is you're simply not persisting for the meetup. I saw at least two opportunities where she was probably down to meet up IMMEDIATELY, and you simply let it go.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
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@ G-Money lol yeah noticed how I went overboard with the winky smileys.
Okay shit, yeah, noted should have pushed for meetup.
This is how the convo finished up last night, I did go for meetup.
Me: I am far superior at cuddling. Tell them to go to sleep and I'll take over
Her: They take that as a challenge
Me: Fine they can join, it'll be an awesome foursome ;) what's your address?
Her: hahaha not tonight goodnight!
That awesome foursome of mine was pretty lame. Should have just left it as "fine they can join" I think. Maybe also not asked for address when I kind of sensed this wasn't a good time/situation. This was like 12 o clock.
Uhh please I was talking about a nachos foursome DUH. Don't be such a gutter mouse, I was just hungry!
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
She was screening you and you played in to it so she pushed you away. Lean back a little bit let her chase and invest then get the meetup without sounding too invested that anything is going to happen
I saw something that reminded me of
Is what I would reopen her with now that it is another day to get her to invest and just let her chase and qualify/validate herself a little bit, but not completely then get the meetup with I am about to go do x come meetup with me
To answer what you asked though "fine they can join" sounds like you are playing into her frame too much when she challenged you. I would have responded "Not a challenge at all more like no contest" then let her qualify herself, friends, or both to you. The whole point is to get her in an emotional state where she is qualifying herself for your validation. But I give it to you, your line was smooth and flirty, your subcom was just miscalibrated in my opinion.
Let us know how it plays out!
Hah nice.
Damn, yeah Story that makes total sense. It's crazy how I'm like a social ninja in the club but never really stopped to think about any of the dynamics going on in text messaging. I feel excited like a little schoolkid at the possibilities now :)
And holy shit totally just had a paradigm shift after reading THE NUMBER ONE GOAL IS TO GET THE MEETUP. Sounds retardedly obvious but in my head I think my actual goal in texting has been to just extend the conversation... which makes no sense at. Re-engage, a few funny back and forwards and then smoothly go for meetup.
I'll try what you said with this one Story.. My other numbers are like auto converting into meetups cause of these small shifts.
She agreed to drinks with you, you don't set up logistics and instead you talk about fucking aliens?
I'm confused
Yeah I went out that night to party with mates and pulled. Want to set up meetups when I'm not partying: beasting is way more fun than dates to me so want to throw those in on off nights.
Then again, yeah clearly I should have jumped on it at that moment. Maybe I should text girls mre often on days when I'm actually free
Edit: I'm kind of realizing that if you set it up properly over text game you don't really need to dedicate a whole night to a date, can just pitch up at hers for sex
ya you DEFINITELY had her out for drinks...and that aliens line was damage control after you fucked up
She was screening you and you played in to it so she pushed you away. Lean back a little bit let her chase and invest then get the meetup without sounding too invested that anything is going to happenI saw something that reminded me of
Is what I would reopen her with now that it is another day to get her to invest and just let her chase and qualify/validate herself a little bit, but not completely then get the meetup with I am about to go do x come meetup with me
To answer what you asked though "fine they can join" sounds like you are playing into her frame too much when she challenged you. I would have responded "Not a challenge at all more like no contest" then let her qualify herself, friends, or both to you. The whole point is to get her in an emotional state where she is qualifying herself for your validation. But I give it to you, your line was smooth and flirty, your subcom was just miscalibrated in my opinion.
Let us know how it plays out!
Why does he need to play games and make her "chase"?
She WAS already invested. All he had to do was figure logistics and put the cat in the bag.