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hey guys,
 
some questions arising from this episode with an irish girl.
 
Backstory is I met her on the streets, we wanted to meet the 1st of january but she flaked. Then we met for a dance lesson 1 week later, but logsitics werent in my favor and I only made out with her in a dark alley. She said we could fuck later. It was Saturday evening, she went out and didnt respond to my text.
 
Then we wrote a bit, I told her I take a walk every morning and she tells me we should take a walk. Ok, I tell her 9am in front of her house and she agrees. She flakes again because she is too sleepy though. 

A few days later, due to a change of personal plans I decided to leave Brisbane the next day, leaving it the only evening available to met her. She works as a waitress till 11:30pm and we decide to meet in front of her house after her shift.

 
Buuut shortly after the end of the shift, she tells me she is too tired, flakes again. I tell her to call me, she does, and I just drive over while entertaining her on the phone. She tells me on the phone we wont have sex anyway. I arrive there, talk a bit with her, finger her and try to get her naughty but she actually gives me a hard no and tells me to leave.

So I have the impression it was a needy move. what do you think? Would you have tried it? All in all it came more of a 'wohaa, I might get laid...durrrr' feeling than something else.

 
Second question is do you take care of the hour of the date so you know she is in shape? I mean, it was two long shots here. 1st of January and one at 9am. As a guy, of course you do it and force yourself, but as a girl...what do you think?
 
Anyways tell me the flaws here...

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Setting up a walking date for

Setting up a walking date for 9am? You trying to bang her or be her gay best friend? Always set the date with logistics in your favor so that sex can happen (which is usualy at night!). Looks like this one has a habit of agreeing on plans with you then changing them last minute. At this point I would tell her to check her schedule and get back to you when she has a free night...and leave it at that. Don't contact her again until she contacts you. Once she does set a definite date. Simple. Focus on making the plans and thats it. Sounds like you have been doing a majority of the pursuing so take a step back, stop talking to her so much and leave some mystery about yourself that she can dwell on.

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ok point taken but I mean it

ok point taken but I mean it is in   front   of    her    house. Pretty good logistics in my opinion. I just invite myself for a drink and its good. 

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Staccatostyle wrote: ok point

Staccatostyle wrote:
ok point taken but I mean it is in   front   of    her    house. Pretty good logistics in my opinion. I just invite myself for a drink and its good. 

True. Understand though that when girls say things they usually only mean it in that particular moment (which im sure you already know). So say you make a date for a girl at 9am in the morning, ask yourself, is she gonna feel up for a date right after she wakes up? Is she going to feel up for a date after she's worked a night shift or will she be more likely to want do nothing. Which is why it's better to let her get back to you in terms of when she has time to make a date happen. Just some things to keep in mind.

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ok. it is so common sense but

ok. it is so common sense but thats exactly what I need haha. Thx man