One of my favorite calls with MW was about shaping a girls behaviour via compliments and statements of disinterest/disapproval in a teasy way.
Well with my now girlfirend, I shaped the fuck out of her behaviour with compliments. I never realized what effect it had until she was bringing some stuff up with me the other day. I don't see her tha much and when I was hanging out with her, I had to spend a count hours working and then went off to the gym.
Well during that time she was kinda twidling her fingers together lol and 'pretending to work'. She lives 30 minutes away and doesn't drive so she can't just go home lol.
ANyways, that night she was telling me that she doesn't like hanging out and me not being there completely. She doesn't see me that much and wants the time we're together to really be to share. Yah that kinda gay stuff lol.
I handelled it well. Told her I put her above almost everything. And it's fucked up that she's acting like I don't even try. Sometimes I have to get stuff done and if you can't respect and understand that, then I'm not the person for you.
Sounds harsh but I was also compassioante. She just has to understand how much I pour into her.
Anyways, a couple days later we were talkign and I asked her why she didn't tell me in the moment, when I was working, that she wanted to hangout and do something. Funny enough she told me the following
her: Well because I didn't want to bother you and you always told me you loved how chill I was and like you could just relax without feeling like you had to entertain me. So I didn't want to break that.
Yep this shit is really that powerful.
good example of disinterest and shaping behavior successfully. men lead, in relationships just like in dancing. it's not harsh to tell her that you have a job to do and that she has to see you afterwords. women often ask for more of your time but actually often respect you more when youhave your priorites right. hows she gunna chill at your place if youre homelss.
isnt that just adorable. now try teaching her roll over
funny story i told my now ex that i was ambivalent about the relationship and wanted to see where we stood in the long run to see if we should continue. she cried and got all upset then she later told me she respected that i brought this topic up because its important.
another example same girl is when i said i was carrying too much of the weight. i cooked more and gave her more massages and its not cool. she got pissed and drove away. i went back to sleep. she came back in 20 minutes with a full breakfast from IHOP
Fuck her she didn't cook.