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jo! Do any of you have experience with scripting powerful affirmations for yourself?

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Never used affirmations before but now its part of my drills program courtesy of MW-Hustler Training, and I figured I might as well come up  with my own stuff, too. 

All of these concern changes in my lifes I either want to do make or just habits attitudes I want to ingrain even more . I wrote them this way, because I noticed that every time I made big changes in my life that I stuck with, it was when I made a very firm decision to be that kind of person, or not be that kind of person anymore. Stopping to drink, smoke, etc. etc.

 

But as I seem to remember there was something about not using negations for affirmations (derpiderp), but not sure how strict that was meant. Check it out: 

 

I’m just the kind person, who never misses a Deadline! Not even his own. 

I'm just the kind of guy who writes everyday.

 

I’m just the kind of person who never gives up!

 

I’m just the kind of person who takes action and not motions. I’m a doer.

 

I’m just the kind of person who uses every minute he has to work on his goals. 

 

I’m just the kind of person who talks to whoever I want to whenever I want. 

 

I’m just the kind of person who is not above others

 

I’m just the kind of guy who gets up as soon as as his alarm rings. 

 

I’m just the kind of guys who doesn’t watch porn, only makes it. 

 

I’m just the kind of guy who uses social media only to give value to others.  

 Appreciate any kind of insights on the topic, reading suggestions, and or post your own affirmations that you fared well with. 

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I made some pretty drastic

I made some pretty drastic changes to my own inner game so I think I have some good stuff to say on this topic.

I wouldn't phrase any of these mindsets the way you're phrasing them tbh. So basically, your mindsets create emotions in your body which most people then listen to in order to determine how they move through life. They think to themselves, "I dont feel like doing X so I'm not going to do X. I don't feel like I could do that, so I not gonna try" etc... When you create a new mindset, it will overwrite your old frames of reality and the emotions created by the new mindsets will be what you feel when responding to various situations.

Anyways, you have to think about how the way you phrase these are going to be interpreted by your subsconcious. For instance "I’m just the kind person, who never misses a Deadline! Not even his own. " when you phrase this mindset this way, you're actually changing your self image from whatever you see yourself as now to "just the kind of person...." but that doesn't necessarily mean you're going to feel more punctual, or like making deadlines is important to you. You have to think about why you miss deadlines and address that. Is it a motivation issue? If so, this affirmation actually isn't going to accomplish anything.

Also when you say "just the kind of person" over and over and over again for all of these affirmations, your subconscious mind interprets that as you ONLY being that kind of person. So it's actually overwriting your current self image/frame of reality with "I’m just the kind person, who never misses a Deadline! Not even his own. " and then when you say "I'm just the kind of guy who writes everyday." your subconscious basically says to itself "ok now I'm not the kind of person of never misses a deadline, now I'm "just the kind of guy who writes everyday.""

Basically the way you're phrasing them, you're nullifying these new mindsets (except for the last one) directly after creating them in your mind, haha. And the way you're phrasing them most likely isn't going to accomplish what you're trying to achieve.

Heres what I would consider when thinking about these mindsets:

I’m just the kind person, who never misses a Deadline! Not even his own. - Why do you miss deadlines? Is it a lack of motivation? Is it a lack of time management? Figure that out then come back to this.

I'm just the kind of guy who writes everyday. - Same thing, why don't you write every day?

I’m just the kind of person who never gives up! - This one's actually pretty easy. The mindset I use to handle this situation is one I jacked from RSDJulien, that being "It's never over." Basically the reason that phrase works is that when you think a situation is never over, then you can always turn something around and come back from it. Or you could try something like "Don't give up" and that would probably work as well. But I've never used that mindset so I cant say for sure. That is assuming you actually believe you can accomplish what you're trying to do in the first place. If you don't think you can do something, then that requires a different mindset altogether. And in that case I would use the mindset "If it can be done, I'm the one that can do it", which I swagger jacked from RSDAlex. I would link the article I got it from, but all Alex's shit is taken down at the moment. Basically what that mindset does, is that it makes you think that if something is possible, than you can do it better than everyone else. It is a delusional mindset, but it works.

I’m just the kind of person who takes action and not motions. I’m a doer. - Same thing, why don't you take action. Figure that out and then I can help a bit more.

All of these are pretty much the same issue and some of these issues could be solved by listening to Eckhart Tolle, like "I’m just the kind of person who is not above others" for instance. Listen to Tolle and meditate every day.

Some of these though I don't think you actually need to inner game your way out of. Like, unless you have a super serious porn addication or something, you can probably just force yourself to not watch it if you try hard enough. Same thing with meeting deadlines, I think you could just force yourself to do that as well and eventually your inner game would make you feel like that is what you're supposed to do. You CAN change your inner game by simply taking action. That is, assuming you don't have any serious emotional issues (basically really intense emotions that you feel). I used to be super scared to turn in my school assignments because I thought (or felt like rather) if it wasn't 100% perfect then I was gonna end up homeless or something crazy like that. It took me hours to complete even simple assignments because the emotions were so intense. So I fixed that by starting to believe the mindset "Its ok to make mistakes". But yeah, some of these things are exactly what manwhore means when he says "your job is to execute".

I would say this though, don't mess with your inner game lightly. Your reality is pretty much what makes "you", "you". And you could really mess yourself up if you do it incorrectly.

Sorry if this isn't very clear, it's kind of tough to explain. Feel free to ask about anything that didnt make sense to you.

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Hey man thx a lot for taking

Hey man thx a lot for taking the time to reply in such depth. I will need some time to really think out some good reality modifications here, for sure.

let me explain a bit more of my thoughtprocesses though. The idea was to create the kind of self-image that makes it impossible for me to to certain shit. 

For instance I used to drink a lot, smoke at least a package a day, plus tons of weed. And Ioved it. Great times.  And everytime I stopped smoking or drinking, because it conflicted with other goals I had, I would always go back to it, because on some level I felt I was missing out. I was still attached to it. So I needed willpower discipline and momentum to keep up my resolutions and ultimately I always failed, because it only needed the right combination of things to happen, in order for my buried excuses to allow me to go back to it. and 'poof' its like it has always been. 

But once I had REALLY decided that THAT was not me anymore, that changed. All the other bullshit was gone. I don't need willpower, or discipline or anymore. It#s just a fact of life, like gravity or so,  that I don't do this anymore. 

So the 'just' is not a 'merely' here or an 'only', but more like 'that just how it is'; in german we have different word for this. So I don't think I nullify the mindsets of after the other. Will think about it though. Probably coudl leave it out just as well. 

Most of the stuff I already do on pretty good level. But they are not yet facts of life for me. See what I'm angling at here? 

Like external deadlines no probs at all,  and if there are legit issues I'll reschedule way before the deadline comes. For my deadlines I'm way more likely to give in to my excuses., instead of really going to my last drop of sweat to get it done. So that's why I would want this as my default reality, or instance.

So I think the reason for this is for most most of this just means that on some level for me its okay to not live up to my own standards I guess. 

LIke I already write every day. But would this stand the test of chilling in Bali surrounded by endless tube and beautifull ladies everywhere? Very tough. 

True enough, I should better make damn sure I know what kind of reality I create for myself, mang. Not good,ending up a manic workholic. or whatnot. 

BTW. the negation thing didn't strike you as issue after all? this thing about the sub-consconscious being unable to intpret 'no' and ''nots' 'and 'nevers' ? 

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Ok, it might work differently

Ok, it might work differently if german is your first language.

I never had an issue with using negatives.

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cool. thats good. will post

cool. thats good.

will post some new affirmations in a couple of days. 

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Anyone have a link to the

Anyone have a link to the affirmations thread Jabronivich posted in to help someone out with their affirmations? 

Someone give me the cliffnotes on all the extra verbage at the front of these?? 

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Basically, all I said was the

Basically, all I said was the way you phrase mindsets has to be very specific or you could really fuck up your reality.

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RezznT wrote: Basically, all

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Basically, all I said was the way you phrase mindsets has to be very specific or you could really fuck up your reality.

Yeah absolutely. So what was his excuse? Lol

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Manwhore wrote: RezznT

Manwhore wrote:
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Basically, all I said was the way you phrase mindsets has to be very specific or you could really fuck up your reality.

Yeah absolutely. So what was his excuse? Lol

actually he agreed ;)  

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I mean, you can read through

I mean, you can read through it, but I said I didnt think the way he was phrasing the mindsets was going to accomplish what he wanted. He said the words have a different meaning in German, so I said ok it might work then cause I don't know German or how he's actually writing them.

Regardless, if they're similar to what he said in this post, I still wouldn't go about it the way he is cause the way the mindsets are phrased, basically all they do is change his self-image. Which probably isn't what is causing these emotions that he is trying to eliminate. So it's probably just a waste of time at best, and really damaging to his self-concept at worst. But he seems to think it will work for him so I basically said whatever, if it works for you go for it.

That and I said some of these things don't really require coming up with a new inner game mindset to deal with. Like, unless it's a real serious issue, you just push through it and let your emotions catch up that way.

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Lol Chris. Wait Rezznt why

Lol Chris. Wait Rezznt why you deleting your posts? 

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I'm not deleting anything.

I'm not deleting anything. Those were just posts I made to test if I was still gonna have to wait 9 billion years to post.

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RezznT wrote: I mean, you can

RezznT wrote:
I mean, you can read through it, but I said I didnt think the way he was phrasing the mindsets was going to accomplish what he wanted. He said the words have a different meaning in German, so I said ok it might work then cause I don't know German or how he's actually writing them.

Regardless, if they're similar to what he said in this post, I still wouldn't go about it the way he is cause the way the mindsets are phrased, basically all they do is change his self-image. Which probably isn't what is causing these emotions that he is trying to eliminate. So it's probably just a waste of time at best, and really damaging to his self-concept at worst. But he seems to think it will work for him so I basically said whatever, if it works for you go for it.

That and I said some of these things don't really require coming up with a new inner game mindset to deal with. Like, unless it's a real serious issue, you just push through it and let your emotions catch up that way.

ah didn't get this before. So I thought basically affirmations were all about self image..  Actually you said it superwell in the beginning of your first post. but I didn't connect it correctly at first. 

But rereading it now alot of the things I wanted to affirm are way too specific or otherwise not the stuff to be tackled by affirmations in  the way I envisioned. 

So you askd me to find out the MINDSETS I suspect I have that lead me to not do things in the optimal way. 

For instance, regarding writing, if I am not writing allthough I should, or should want to, than in someway the pain I associate with writing is bigger than with not writing. So I need to find out what it is that I believe that causes me to irrationally associate the pain with writing and then just counter it with a positive belief. 

From this perspective what I did with drinking etc, was rather that I replaced the mindset 'There will be huge hole in my life without alcohol and drugs.' with 'I have more fun sober than anyone else in the room.' Which by the time I did was actually something I had good reason to believe.

Actually I could see that something like this was actually responsible for the change, rather than the self-image change. Or maybe a mixture of both..

Am I on the right path here? 

PS.: didn't find an Affirmation thread in Jabronavichs posts. 

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Yeah, that's more in the

Yeah, that's more in the right direction.

I think "I have more fun sober than anyone else in the room." is actually too specific, cause now you're just talking about being in a room. I would go with something like "I have more fun sober than drinking". But again, you have to think about how serious of an issue your drinking/drug use actually is. If you can deal with it purely with willpower, you probably should, because living in a reality where you believe this, you might not feel like EVER drinking again. Which may or may not be something that you want. Thats why I say you should only come up with new mindsets to deal with real serious issues.

Like I said earlier though, a lot of this could be solved much easier just by listening to Tolle and meditating. Probably this pain associated with writing would be solved as well.

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"I have fun sober" is the

"I have fun sober" is the direction you want to head in. Affirmations need to be direct and not have any linguistic or semantic complications.

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RezznT wrote: Yeah, that's

RezznT wrote:
Yeah, that's more in the right direction.

I think "I have more fun sober than anyone else in the room." is actually too specific, cause now you're just talking about being in a room. I would go with something like "I have more fun sober than drinking". But again, you have to think about how serious of an issue your drinking/drug use actually is. If you can deal with it purely with willpower, you probably should, because living in a reality where you believe this, you might not feel like EVER drinking again. Which may or may not be something that you want. Thats why I say you should only come up with new mindsets to deal with real serious issues.

Like I said earlier though, a lot of this could be solved much easier just by listening to Tolle and meditating. Probably this pain associated with writing would be solved as well.

haha its no issue at all anymore.  have been sober for etc for more than one and a half year now. Also most people can't even get their head around the fact that  anyone could have as much fun as me without drinks and drugs. 

And yeah there were reasons. lol mostly that I won't stop to drink, and second that I would always start to smoke again. 

anyway, I do hear you on the rest on the rest being not big issues and probably a mixture of Tolle, Meditation and just doing will in time resolve the issues just aswell. or better.  

So I will keep it really basic for now, and try to figure out a couple of things that make a sense to use here. 

been reading this just now for inspiration: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/70525

guy seems to know what he's talking about