Last night
Fri, 08/31/2012 - 14:11
One of my co-workers at A&F invited me to a party of his. it's one of those parties where some dude hands a flyer on school campus and people show up.
I went there with the intentions to just have FUN. i noticed a pattern where one night i would have fun, the next night would i put it in my head that "i have to get laid" This because i thought i had a grasp of things the previous night. I would be getting blown out left to right ASAP wondering why i'm doing so bad, i would lose state fast. Prob being try-hard.
Parties here in Isla Vista (I.V), Santa Barbara can be huge, literally had to climb over the neighbor's wall to get out:
http://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn1/542374_4484843083074_97512816...
Anyways i biked there. Got up the apartment stairs, some dude opened the door, happened to be one of the guys living there. I got social with him right away. I then spotted my co-worker signaling me to come over holding up a huge bottle of SKY Vodka. He introduces me to some dudes, i take a shot of vodka and start dancing to Hip Hop with half the room. There were maybe 40 people max.
Fast forward, i had done plenty socializing and dancing. I headed through the hallway leading to the main entrance of the apartment room to take a breath of fresh air. On my way there some HBblonde who was talking to 3 dudes opened me with a handshake "hi im libie" was so random, i was shocked. Those 3 guys disappeared asap and i was left with her. We talked, qualified her a bit. I remember her saying something and i liked it, so i hugged her and tried to lock her waist in my arms afterwards. i kind of broke it off because she backed off (she was just giving distance after the hug) so my hands ended up being on her waist instead.
Should i have pulled her back in anyways?
She then said i was "interesting" i replied and almost said something retarded as i was stuttering. So i only said half of what i had to say. We stared in silence. I knew even before that moment i should have gone for the make-out but i got into my head and got scared -.-
At one point she disappeared. 15 mins later i saw her, looked like she was bouncing, i Hand of God her away from one of the guys in the hallway earlier, that accompanied by a commanding tone. She said she had to leave, i don't remember what i said after that but she brought up how I "must have a lot of bitches, this place (Santa Barbara) is full of them" dunno how i projected that vibe but ok.... i smiled and said "I probably do" just to be funny, it was sort of a lie.
I get the numbers but don't really bother following up, or i kill the interaction via text, only had sex with 2 girls in my entire life (didn't tell her this). THEN she backstabs me and points at the guy she was talking to saying he's her BF. Was a lie imo, she said at the beginning of the interaction they were friends.
She qualified herself saying she only had sex with one guy and that she is classy. I went "Oh really" and went in for the make-out. She was receptive to it for a split second then backed off, it was like a peck on the lips. she went "I have a bf blah blah blah" AT this point honestly i was brain dead and was ready to let her go. She told me the address to her place and said to come see her sometime... WTF???? i'm mindfucked right now
Anybody got tips on how i would re-engage her? i was an idiot for not getting her digits.
Fast Forward, i was at some street intersection with a crowd of people around a lit up mattress, people here are wild lol. some jumping OVER the 4ft high fire smh
Anyways, at the corner of my eye i noticed a tall female figure coming my way. Turned my head and made eye contact with this HBbrunette as she walked behind me, she smiled. I smiled back but got scared to approach so i just chilled on the spot. 5 mins later i spot her again, 20 ft to my left on her phone. I walked over and hit her with "so you're just going to look at me like that and not come and say hi?" she cracked up. We talked some, Turns out she was visiting her friend and it was her last night, I went "well since this is your last night"....boom make out.
I intercepted some HOT Russian chick on my bike, the guys on the street went :O.... told her she was sexy AF, had a 5 mins interaction
she gave me her FB name, sucks because im still looking for it and there's like 20+ people with that name >:(
Much later im biking back home, some chick running in the middle of the street turns her back, sees me biking her way, she screams and books it LOL. It was hillarious, it was like she saw the pedobear coming her way. She was hallucinating, i had seen her earlier on the same street though, she must have taken some Ecstasy because she was being retarded as hell. She didn't know where she lived, who to call or anything. she would have mood swings. Me and some other dudes left her with some chicks, I insisted she stays the night at their place.
I went there with the intentions to just have FUN. i noticed a pattern where one night i would have fun, the next night would i put it in my head that "i have to get laid" This because i thought i had a grasp of things the previous night. I would be getting blown out left to right ASAP wondering why i'm doing so bad, i would lose state fast. Prob being try-hard.
Parties here in Isla Vista (I.V), Santa Barbara can be huge, literally had to climb over the neighbor's wall to get out:
http://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn1/542374_4484843083074_97512816...
Anyways i biked there. Got up the apartment stairs, some dude opened the door, happened to be one of the guys living there. I got social with him right away. I then spotted my co-worker signaling me to come over holding up a huge bottle of SKY Vodka. He introduces me to some dudes, i take a shot of vodka and start dancing to Hip Hop with half the room. There were maybe 40 people max.
Fast forward, i had done plenty socializing and dancing. I headed through the hallway leading to the main entrance of the apartment room to take a breath of fresh air. On my way there some HBblonde who was talking to 3 dudes opened me with a handshake "hi im libie" was so random, i was shocked. Those 3 guys disappeared asap and i was left with her. We talked, qualified her a bit. I remember her saying something and i liked it, so i hugged her and tried to lock her waist in my arms afterwards. i kind of broke it off because she backed off (she was just giving distance after the hug) so my hands ended up being on her waist instead.
Should i have pulled her back in anyways?
She then said i was "interesting" i replied and almost said something retarded as i was stuttering. So i only said half of what i had to say. We stared in silence. I knew even before that moment i should have gone for the make-out but i got into my head and got scared -.-
At one point she disappeared. 15 mins later i saw her, looked like she was bouncing, i Hand of God her away from one of the guys in the hallway earlier, that accompanied by a commanding tone. She said she had to leave, i don't remember what i said after that but she brought up how I "must have a lot of bitches, this place (Santa Barbara) is full of them" dunno how i projected that vibe but ok.... i smiled and said "I probably do" just to be funny, it was sort of a lie.
I get the numbers but don't really bother following up, or i kill the interaction via text, only had sex with 2 girls in my entire life (didn't tell her this). THEN she backstabs me and points at the guy she was talking to saying he's her BF. Was a lie imo, she said at the beginning of the interaction they were friends.
She qualified herself saying she only had sex with one guy and that she is classy. I went "Oh really" and went in for the make-out. She was receptive to it for a split second then backed off, it was like a peck on the lips. she went "I have a bf blah blah blah" AT this point honestly i was brain dead and was ready to let her go. She told me the address to her place and said to come see her sometime... WTF???? i'm mindfucked right now
Anybody got tips on how i would re-engage her? i was an idiot for not getting her digits.
Fast Forward, i was at some street intersection with a crowd of people around a lit up mattress, people here are wild lol. some jumping OVER the 4ft high fire smh
Anyways, at the corner of my eye i noticed a tall female figure coming my way. Turned my head and made eye contact with this HBbrunette as she walked behind me, she smiled. I smiled back but got scared to approach so i just chilled on the spot. 5 mins later i spot her again, 20 ft to my left on her phone. I walked over and hit her with "so you're just going to look at me like that and not come and say hi?" she cracked up. We talked some, Turns out she was visiting her friend and it was her last night, I went "well since this is your last night"....boom make out.
I intercepted some HOT Russian chick on my bike, the guys on the street went :O.... told her she was sexy AF, had a 5 mins interaction
she gave me her FB name, sucks because im still looking for it and there's like 20+ people with that name >:(
Much later im biking back home, some chick running in the middle of the street turns her back, sees me biking her way, she screams and books it LOL. It was hillarious, it was like she saw the pedobear coming her way. She was hallucinating, i had seen her earlier on the same street though, she must have taken some Ecstasy because she was being retarded as hell. She didn't know where she lived, who to call or anything. she would have mood swings. Me and some other dudes left her with some chicks, I insisted she stays the night at their place.
Fri, 08/31/2012 - 16:33
#1
Re: Last night
@Ghettoguru: damn i forgot just how much sb pops off. Gangsta report, funny as shit. Why didnt you try pulling the chick at the end?
Sat, 09/01/2012 - 05:21
#2
Re: Last night
Yeah it does! and i haven't even seen anything yet, don't think the summer season is over at UCSB yet. You should swing by for a minute sometime, i got no dedicated wing lol. i got it hard haha
Who? The chick who was hallucinating?
Gaaahhhh damn it there's like 100+ Russian girls with that name on FB. i spent about 20 mins looking for her, Hopefully ill see her again tonight.
Who? The chick who was hallucinating?
Gaaahhhh damn it there's like 100+ Russian girls with that name on FB. i spent about 20 mins looking for her, Hopefully ill see her again tonight.
Sat, 09/01/2012 - 08:20
#3
Re: Last night
@Ghettoguru: Nah bro, the chick you were macking on. Like what happened? Lol. I'd be down man, but fuck I'm getting old for college girls. Maybe if theyre 21+. maybe as long as you arent some weirdo MPUA. ;) ...
Sat, 09/01/2012 - 11:40
#4
Re: Last night
A lot of stupid reasons lol. I did not take the initiative to escalate further. Couple that with the fact that before i went in for the make-out we were going to take separate ways. I guess i ejected way too early without thinking about it. Where i'm at right now, girls coming over is a strict no-no, so im saving up for my own place.
After the make-out it was nothing special, exchanged goodnights and went she walked back into her girlfriend's place.
Well shoot i happen to be into 21+ girls, but yeah it's all good.
After the make-out it was nothing special, exchanged goodnights and went she walked back into her girlfriend's place.
Well shoot i happen to be into 21+ girls, but yeah it's all good.
Sat, 09/01/2012 - 20:25
#5
Re: Last night
@Ghettoguru:
How often do you go out?
How often do you go out?
Sat, 09/01/2012 - 21:14
#6
Re: Last night
@ghettoguru: Yeah, all good. Its all doable. I managed w/o a car or a room for a while. But having your own place def takes priority over a chick. You got a good scene at ucsb. Enjoy it while you're in college. I'd be keen to chill once i get my car back. Def going there on halloween - maaaaad girls.
Sun, 09/02/2012 - 00:05
#7
Re: Last night
@Alex123: i usually go to the parties 3x a week. They start Thursday night all the way till Sunday night.
@Aequitas: DUDE, let me know when you're in town for Halloween. Halloween is all i've been hearing about lately and it gets riot huge on Del Playa st, people burning more mattresses, cops chasing dudes on foot, and like you said...maaad girls.
This Friday night (last night) was meh. The scene was GREAT, people everywhere on the street, biking through it was a game of dodging people. I did not do anything spectacular, but it made me realize that im still stuck in this certain mindset and that I generally prefer to stick to cold approaches. I get TOO caught up with my social circle, and when i get introduced to a hottie in the group i refuse to escalate. Yet i hang with them the whole night for some reason and it leads to nowhere. That's what happened last night.
I got off my bike and locked it and started walking with the crowd. I see one of my co-workers and we head to a party together, the party was even bigger than the one in the pic. I lose him in the crowd and see this German girl i had met about 3 weeks ago with her cute Swiss friend; i've never seen before. We built rapport and she dug me, i refused to go further than clawing her lol. Like at that moment i didn't even care what happened, i gave her space and she disappeared. Found more people from my social circle, same story and the girls were leaving to L.A.X the next day.
It's like i don't know how and afraid to escalate on the girls who are mad curious about me "OMg you speak french?? what's your accent from?? Add me on FB! blah blah"... i may need a drink or 2.
Another thing that fcks me up is not following up with the girls. Next thing i know my Euro darlings are with some dude i've never seen *sigh*
Makes me want to go off on them.
@Aequitas: DUDE, let me know when you're in town for Halloween. Halloween is all i've been hearing about lately and it gets riot huge on Del Playa st, people burning more mattresses, cops chasing dudes on foot, and like you said...maaad girls.
This Friday night (last night) was meh. The scene was GREAT, people everywhere on the street, biking through it was a game of dodging people. I did not do anything spectacular, but it made me realize that im still stuck in this certain mindset and that I generally prefer to stick to cold approaches. I get TOO caught up with my social circle, and when i get introduced to a hottie in the group i refuse to escalate. Yet i hang with them the whole night for some reason and it leads to nowhere. That's what happened last night.
I got off my bike and locked it and started walking with the crowd. I see one of my co-workers and we head to a party together, the party was even bigger than the one in the pic. I lose him in the crowd and see this German girl i had met about 3 weeks ago with her cute Swiss friend; i've never seen before. We built rapport and she dug me, i refused to go further than clawing her lol. Like at that moment i didn't even care what happened, i gave her space and she disappeared. Found more people from my social circle, same story and the girls were leaving to L.A.X the next day.
It's like i don't know how and afraid to escalate on the girls who are mad curious about me "OMg you speak french?? what's your accent from?? Add me on FB! blah blah"... i may need a drink or 2.
Another thing that fcks me up is not following up with the girls. Next thing i know my Euro darlings are with some dude i've never seen *sigh*
Makes me want to go off on them.
Sun, 09/02/2012 - 14:25
#8
Re: Last night
Went out again tonight. Same routine, lock bike, walk with the crowd. Within minutes i hear a buddy of mine shout my name. He insisted that i join him with his buddies in search for parties. The guys were already in that party state due to the fact that they were buzzed and high, its like i was non-existant. Anyways we get to this party and initially was not feeling it. The guys scattered, i followed my buddy to get beer at the keg. Next thing i know some chick he knew pulled him away and i just stood there LOL. Out of the blue some dude walks by me and welcomes me to a game of fli-cup, i think he saw how solitary i was at that moment :P
But it was all good, flip-cup was all i needed to get my night going. Our side won then everyone scattered off. I spot this HBHazeleyes talking to her asian friend. She had in fact been playing flip-cup but i never really paid attention to her because i was into the game. I opened her, and some dude pops out of nowhere and takes care of the Asian friend lol. Interaction went great imo, some good story-telling, signs of intent and plenty of rapport. I reflect on the interaction and i was really expressive, stating my opinion on things and showing enthusiasm in the things i liked.
Also finally understood what it means to be "present", i wasn't going into my head trying to predict things with her.
Anyways She put her digits in my phone, then a fucking cup came flying my direction, some chick deflected it LOL. She got tight a hug for that one. At one point HBHazel eyes started reacting to some song, took it as an opportunity to ask her for a dance. It was a no-go, instead she wanted to find her friends. We found them, i introduced myself, we talked a bit. I decided i wanted to eject because i did not know where to take things, I pulled HBhazeleyes to the dance floor saying we'd dance for 5 mins then i need to find my friends. I was already dancing but she just stood there, called her out and she replied with "nooo!! i want to dance with you but this is not my song" i said something to which she replied "go find your friends and come back when the good music is on" I told her "cool ill see you then" i tried to go for the make out, she backed off lol -.-
Found my buddies and talked to a couple of sets. My progress was decent considering how much initial resistance i was getting from the girls, did some good plowing and stayed in set longer. About 15 mins later HBhazeleyes walks by me, she said she was leaving. We talk some more and She wants me to call her. i texted in front of me at that moment instead because my phone is retarded "Oh hi sugarface"
She went "i like that name, i looovvvvee candy" Fast forward she left, so im prob going to call tomorrow.
I met some other chick on the street who pretty much fell in love with me around her 2 friends. i don't recall what i did, but there was plenty of rapport which quickly turned into physicality from both of us. She was equally turned on, why i never went for the make-out? because im still a chode.
After that I got caught up with a some co-workers from A&F and one of them is a prime example of someone who does not give a fuck about anything and exudes sexuality. We went out eating and he would be coming in hot and opening girls like a boss. I definitely need to hang with this guy more often.
But it was all good, flip-cup was all i needed to get my night going. Our side won then everyone scattered off. I spot this HBHazeleyes talking to her asian friend. She had in fact been playing flip-cup but i never really paid attention to her because i was into the game. I opened her, and some dude pops out of nowhere and takes care of the Asian friend lol. Interaction went great imo, some good story-telling, signs of intent and plenty of rapport. I reflect on the interaction and i was really expressive, stating my opinion on things and showing enthusiasm in the things i liked.
Also finally understood what it means to be "present", i wasn't going into my head trying to predict things with her.
Anyways She put her digits in my phone, then a fucking cup came flying my direction, some chick deflected it LOL. She got tight a hug for that one. At one point HBHazel eyes started reacting to some song, took it as an opportunity to ask her for a dance. It was a no-go, instead she wanted to find her friends. We found them, i introduced myself, we talked a bit. I decided i wanted to eject because i did not know where to take things, I pulled HBhazeleyes to the dance floor saying we'd dance for 5 mins then i need to find my friends. I was already dancing but she just stood there, called her out and she replied with "nooo!! i want to dance with you but this is not my song" i said something to which she replied "go find your friends and come back when the good music is on" I told her "cool ill see you then" i tried to go for the make out, she backed off lol -.-
Found my buddies and talked to a couple of sets. My progress was decent considering how much initial resistance i was getting from the girls, did some good plowing and stayed in set longer. About 15 mins later HBhazeleyes walks by me, she said she was leaving. We talk some more and She wants me to call her. i texted in front of me at that moment instead because my phone is retarded "Oh hi sugarface"
She went "i like that name, i looovvvvee candy" Fast forward she left, so im prob going to call tomorrow.
I met some other chick on the street who pretty much fell in love with me around her 2 friends. i don't recall what i did, but there was plenty of rapport which quickly turned into physicality from both of us. She was equally turned on, why i never went for the make-out? because im still a chode.
After that I got caught up with a some co-workers from A&F and one of them is a prime example of someone who does not give a fuck about anything and exudes sexuality. We went out eating and he would be coming in hot and opening girls like a boss. I definitely need to hang with this guy more often.