I have a major hurdle with leading. Its a problem in every area in dating you can think of. Is there any tips or things you guys know that can point me in the right direction to fix this and understand it better.
For example if a chick is checking me out sometimes I don't do anything, and if she digs me I don't take it further. Just every way possible.
Very common actually, it's not just dating but its a lifestyle fail that I have issues with as well. I don't think this means you gotta be the loudest guy in the room or trying to 'out alpha' everyone else, but more like you bring it out when it needs to be brought out. Most guys mess this part up or simply don't even have that 'alpha' side to them.
I would say the first thing to master is vocal projection. Then from there it's other body language and awareness things.
It starts with understanding the mission and what needs to get done. If you don't know what your goal is, you can't formulate a plan, so you have nowhere to go. Things like vocal projection are obviously important, but they help you do it, they're not the crux of leading.
What do you do when a girl starts trying to lead? I approached some chicks and started making out with one, but later she grabbed my tightly and started trying to dictate lol. I went along with it since she was suggesting afterparty but my frame was like i am the prize all the time, and she was chasing.
Yeah you actually did the right thing. That's the "high value" frame you adopt where you let her do things for you while you just sit back and enjoy it. Of course you're still high value it's the essence of it. Practice your Chuck Norris face while she's handling shit. Lol
My goal is to bang lots of chicks as soon as I meet them.
My friend yesterday mentioned I ask for a lot of investment in chicks. I think he could be right because I usually get the ones who are chasing me hard.
So basically you're a good looking faggot who can't do shit for himself but has to wait for the girl to handle things
Yeah you kinda nailed it.
It's so crazy how your spot on with things.
Lol. It's actually a common problem. They're independent of each other, everyone has excuses for not taking action. Yours are a bit gayer because you have pretty much no barriers to entry
Lol i gain alotta confidence from my looks is that a bad thing? Im not even that good looking though hahah
Yeah that's what women do. Lol. No it's not that bad! Haha. Think about what confidence based on looks is, it's not based on taking action, it's based on drawing in and letting others take action on you. Lol. It's completely unmasculine
Lol i dont try to attract girls with my looks. I think im pretty average. I think my looks and body language convey a pretty badass personality though
Ah I thought you were the other guy
Hah! Yeah even if it's not your looks you still have to "masculinize" the interaction when you draw girls and they open you. I would consider myself pretty average but from time to time I still get opened based on.. Whatever reason (height, the odd time I look put together). A chicks way of picking up is just to open. I recall once I was talking to two dudes and a tiny cute German kinda walked into our group looking at me. Once I realized she didn't know either of two dudes I pulled her hand in, held her close while talking her ear off. I didn't pull her that night but it went down the next week. point is even when girls open you, you still have to man up and lead/take responsibility for the interaction.
Protip: if a girl opens you in this way it's a VERY good ioi and you can probably ramp things up pretty quickly if you please. This is the essence of my "festival" game
Yeah I'm average in the looks department, I'm just delusional and I think I carry myself in a very attractive way.
Met two chicks at the beach today and I plan on meeting them tonight. They probably want to burn tonight. Any good text recomendations?
How do you deal with chicks that have friends that judge them?
You become greater than her friends are in her mind.
Ha I like that