Lessons from My Ex: Dominant Sex and Intimacy

You fucking dipshit. 

Haha yeah you could say that

In the act of fucking, these negative emotions bubbled up to the surface.  I almost called her a fucking bitch instead of usual dirty talk, but stopped the words from coming out of my mouth.  I guess I had pent up resentment and bitterness from how things had happened between us.  And when I say "asshole" and that I was mean to her it wasn't like I said stuff directly to hurt her.  It was more my tone of voice and me being short with her--while she was driving and I was giving her directions I was abrupt. 

And you think that's what did it huh.

That day she when she left she was on the verge of tears and didn't want to let go of me.  She asked me when we could see each other next and requested more sexting.  Said she "craved" me and my touch, etc. 

One day she was being weird and I asked her what was up.  She said she still felt like she couldn't trust me and also that her psychic (she has been seeing this woman every week so she's basically a mentor by now) told her that I was holding onto her out of fear of being alone.  She said again "I don't feel like I can trust you."  And I told her that she was right not to trust me. 

That's the whole story.  But either way, my tone and my uncontrolled negative emotions were the wedge, the original flame that burnt it all down.

Thanks for posting this. I needed a good reminder of how important the psycological/physical domination of a good fuck sesh is important to the relationship with a girl as a whole. Something I def need to work on with the girls i see.

I can also relate to the asshole thing. Recently one of my regulars told me she went to dinner with one of her ex's (drug dealer) and that he needed some help "expanding into new markets," so she recommended my name. Initially I told her I was down (which was my first mistake, agreed to it before thinking it through). Then I realized how fucking stupid it would be for me to do that. And reading MW article "How to Turn the Tables on Girls when they act badly" article gave me an idea to experiment with telling her how dumb that shit was and see if I could lead it in a direction of  sexual compliance.

Ultimately it was a fail I just came off as a huge dick. This was just wrong time wrong place to experiment with this. We have since apologized to eachother but ill post the initial interaction if some can learn from it.

Archangel, it sounds like your interactions were in person. I know texting is different bc you have some time to think about what you wanna say and craft the message how you want and check before sending. At the end of the day, as long as we learn from our mistakes I think it proves to be better for us in the long run.

JackofDiamonds you don't want to be so fatalistic or present such an extreme ultimatum. You gave her no room to maneuver and really just cut her off in those texts, super heavy-handedly. How is she supposed to answer that, you told her to lose your number. Do you know what goal you had? What were you aiming for with her. 

Yes, this is one of the main reasons why I clearly failed with these texts. My intentions weren't clear. It was a combination of reading things in your article like "...when you can tell a girl that she fucked up then tell her WHY she fucked up, they get SUPER hot and bothered." So in that regard I was attempting to teach her a lesson, like a daddy would (this chick is older than me so I wanted to take the opportunity to exercise my boundaries)

At the same time though I remember thinking that I wanted the text to have an air of "drama". But it came of way too emotional. I ended up having to meet up with her in person and patch things over.

If I could re-do it, I'd say something like along the lines of "Babe no. Just no. That really dissappoints me that you would even consider doing something like that." Basically just showing disapproval and giving her the chance to "apologize" to me. But yeah this experience taught me a lot, the ultimatum shit was definitley over the line. 

BTW she was walking by me as I was typing this and just saw the header of this website, the tone in her voice was a subtle mixture of confusion and interest LOL - "Man-whore dot org??"

You punched in the right quote but apparentely completely missed the point. Read that shit again mang