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Living with my parents, missing out on potential f-closes

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Hi,

 

This is my first time posting on the forum, and I have a question which may apply to some other people.

 

Basically, I live with my parents. Everytime I go out sarging I know in the back of my mind that I can't pull a girl back to my place, and I have become aware that this is really holding me back. Sometimes towards the end of the night girls would ask me if I live close (right from the beginning of the convo!) so I know I can pull them, and other times I would have escalated and everything and all that is left is to get the girl out of the place we are in and take her to my place. But I never can! So I miss out on a lot of potential f-closes.

Bearing in mind that bringing a girl back to my place or moving out are not options, what shall I do? 

Thanks in advance :)

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So why can't you bring girls

So why can't you bring girls back to your place? What's your sexual escalation like. You got a car? Or you just rollerblade around

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I'm from a slightly

I'm from a slightly traditional middle-eastern family so it's kind of taboo for me to bring a girl back to my place. My sexual escalation is good, regular k-closes and intense physical action, it's from there or even from day 2s that I am unable to take it further and bring a girl back to mine. I unfortunately don't have a car, I get around by buses and trains, though rollerblading sounds interesting :P

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So why aren't you moving out

So why aren't you moving out as well? What moves are you making in life to change your circumstances. 

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Tap Water wrote: I'm from a

Tap Water wrote:
I'm from a slightly traditional middle-eastern family so it's kind of taboo for me to bring a girl back to my place. My sexual escalation is good, regular k-closes and intense physical action, it's from there or even from day 2s that I am unable to take it further and bring a girl back to mine. I unfortunately don't have a car, I get around by buses and trains, though rollerblading sounds interesting :P

Maybe try to figure out places you can pull to like public parks etc.

Or make friends with someone who has awesome logistics.  

The latter's what's lead to my logistics improving a ton lately.  So I have a place to go for day 2s and such. 

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Do you have income? A lot of

Do you have income? A lot of my relatives in Venezuela actually live with their parents until they get married. They just bang their gf's in hotels, it's no big deal. Plus, it's kinda fun for the girl if you frame it the right way. A little vacation of sorts 

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Manwhore's on to the core

Manwhore's on to the core issue.

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I live in London and study at

I live in London and study at a uni very close to my house, and accommodation is quite expensive here so there is no reason for me to move out that could explain costing my parents a lot more money. I actually once suggested that I move out with the excuse of focusing on my studies and self-development but it didn't explain taking on the extra expenses :P

I've been going out a lot even (and especially) when sometimes I feel there is no more progress beyond the point I have reached, but I'm still unable to improve my logistics. Knowing I can't take them back to my place, sometimes I suggest to the girls on going back to their places, but they come up with some excuses and stand there looking at me as if waiting for me to invite them back to mine.

I've asked friends to see whether their logistics are good for me to pull back to their places, but I haven't found anyone that I can pull to their place on the same night.

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Yeah I've thought of public

Yeah I've thought of public parks, but say I were to choose that how would I pull them there without freaking the girls out, keeping in mind that public parks could be quite scary at night for a girl? :P

 

In regards to friends with good logistics, I have a friend who I've told him about my logistical problem and he offered me his place but I have to tell him at least a day before. This makes it great for day 2s like you said but my opportunities to pull on day 2s are little to nothing, much less than when I go out at night which is when I get the most opportunities to pull.

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I don't have income, I'm

I don't have income, I'm still a full-time uni student. Yeah in my culture we generally stay at home until we get married too, it's kind of the norm. Hotels sound like a good idea for gf's especially using the right frame, but not for same night pulls. I tried finding hotels and motels that I could pull to on the same night but they are always full-booked or super expensive (London prices! :P)

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Plenty of full-time uni

Plenty of full-time uni students with jobs. You're excusing a definite lack of independence with "cultural norms". 

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But yeah the answer to your

But yeah the answer to your question is get it done somewhere outside. It's actually pretty easy. Girls are excited by the idea of it, if you add a bit of a "conspiratorial" flair to it they will BE DOWN for it big time. Public bathrooms, parks, behind buildings/alleys. Pretty easy 

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I think you're right, I do

I think you're right, I do feel sometimes that I lack independence probably due to years of bad social conditioning, I'm working on that part of myself and on unlearning those things so I could start being more autonomous and self-reliant. You actually just made me realise what I've always known, that I should be actively make things happen, not wait for what I want to somehow stroll by.. thanks! :)

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Cool, I thought it's quite

Cool, I thought it's quite hard to get it done somewhere outside, I'll try that.

Do you have any tips for some 'conspiratorial' flairs?