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 I approach her while ignoring the fattie friend and the guy talking to the fattie. We have a good banter, fun times.  I tried to get her to the dancefloor, but she wanted to stay. They're about to leave, have their jackets on. I tell her to stay a bit more, while the friends go inside for some reason and I take her number and arrange a date for the next day. We keep on chatting, the friend is back, I tell the friend a couple of minutes and she can get her back. They see I'm cool, and seemingly leave.

 

I take her to the dancefloor now, making sure the friend won't find us should she decide to be still around. Also, moving her a bit and sexy dance time is something I'm not against at ;). We make out while dancing, I explore her body a bit, she likes to grind on me. We grab my jacket as well, she tells me I can stay. I tell her the club is closing soon, and she needs to experience my hometown spirit at my place. I make it fun, she is cool with it, but I don't know how much of a yes it is, so I consider taking a cab when getting out of the club. While I look at the cab options, she is asking me so which way do we go to your 'hometown spirit'? I take that as a big green light, not needing the cab and just start walking to my place (about 8 minutes walking, with her rather 11 haha).

 

I keep up the vibe on the way, she asks undercover (with childish metaphor something with clay I guess lol) if coming to my place also includes sex. I tell her I don't have a sandbox, but have some Halloween custom if she wants to play and just kept on talking whatever awesomeness I was talking about. She tells me she's 27, has a good profession, trying to show off with her knowledge I guess but I have better education so doesn't phase me, I still give her credit thou and keep it fun. 

 

Closer to my place, she asks why does she go to my place at all? I tell her we'll get shots, some food and can check for her how she can get home. Just before my place, she tells me she's not gonna come up, I just keep going, talking, enter the code and open my front door. She stays outside. I tell her to just come up quickly, it's fine. I have a weak disqualification by telling her I have roommates, she has to be cool, but I guess they're sleeping already (making sure she doesn't get conscious). She keeps repeating she is not coming up, and I pick her up to bring, but she resists.

 

So I realize if I keep this going on it gets needy and eliminating our future potential meetup. She tells me I have her number, and I should go up, but she kinda stays there of course... So I start some heavy makeup and neck biting while picking her up playfully. I can tell she's getting into it and at a point she stops me and says she has to go. I ask what's goin on, if she is scared, she tells me a little. I tell her nothing to be scared of, and be a bit more sensitive with her while making out. We just chat a bit and I want to amp her up again, heavy makeout, picking up. The same thing happens again and I try to pull her by the hand with a don't be stupid look. She is stubborn  so I tell her we get mulled wine at 8pm, and show her way.

 

I think even though I live close to the club, I should've taken the cab to shorten the time going home. That 10 minutes walking in the cold was long enough to change her mind/emotions about coming up. Or should've stopped sometimes on the way and make out, play with her body to keep her horny. 

 

I was honestly just not prepared verbally enough for her stopping at my door (even though it's not the first time that happens). I kinda lost the frame there, and most likely even before. Also, I could've tried some more creative aspects of getting her up, I guess there will be a drill for that later ;).

But the main issue was that I just couldn't really flip the script to 'me being the price' and she should be happy to be able to join me... 

I should've just called her out a bit on this childish 'I don't go up thing' somehow, but wasn't really able to do it, I guess that is something I've to work more on.   


Me: text me if you're at home, I rarely guard outside the center with my batmobile.

4pm:

Me: psst. wake up. I can't sleep anymore

Her: And I woke up exaaaaaaacly now :D

Me: I had to chime in in your dream...

Her: You didn't enter, it remained pure :D it was 7am till I got home, batmobile would've been needed

Me: You shouldn't have stuck in the burger king (she asked on the way to mine if there is any nearby - I wanted to disapprove her a bit)

1 hour later

Me: The homeless guy is still praying down there, if he keeps doing so I'll give him some blueberries (we passed by him while walking to mine, call back humor)

Her: You know that homeless people don't like fruits but only it's distillate, right?

Her: and also that we won't get pomegranate/mulled wine neither today :D(what a weird/asshole way of canceling... I think she's just playing, try to tell me she is not that easy...)

Me: I always have disciplinary intention. (muscle)(V) I'll also spank you if you flake on me again

Her: I just flaked once, now :D

Her: Oh that I didn't go up?! :D Don't think that I'm an amateur :D

Me: Yep, that is why you get away with it for now ;)  (she is still cooky, so I think this text is very soft, especially with the smiley)

 

I find it amazing how she just backwards rationalizing and tries to convince me now that she was never down and has these 'good girl rules'... Definitely a sign I wasn't treating things right haha

 

I think I'll just leave it at this now and hit her up again tmr or on Tue unless she answers something positive

 

Thoughts?

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'k you know what the issue is

'k you know what the issue is here, yes? Quite clearly obvious. 

Remember, we're physical creatures. Seduction needs to be anchored and chauffered along by a certain kind of "masculine" energy. It's just so obvious reading this it's missing. 

What is it? 

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yeah, the physicality was not

yeah, the physicality was not on point for the way home part for sure and I could've amped it up more at the door. Having warm clothes on certainly didn't help, but not an excuse for sure.

So what kind of masculine energy was missing? not sure tbh. penetrating (literally for sure haha) 

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You're fucking fired dude 

You're fucking fired dude 

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fuck am I really that slow

fuck am I really that slow learner? never considered myself to be one before registering here actually. 

I have some ideas from the last session but don't know exactly what can I 'flash out' so to say. 

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Bro you straight up answered

Bro you straight up answered this question in your last session write-up. What should you have "applied" in this situation with her? What was needed. 

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You mean yang energy I guess,

You mean yang energy I guess, which I did 'apply'. If that's the case, then just incorrectly, too little and/or too late.  

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Yes that's it. Obviously

Yes that's it. Obviously grossly simplified but that's the deal. 

Remember when we "discovered" that what you thought all along was "dominant" was actually sensual? Lol

You're wishy-washy and not sexual at all with girls. Until you fix this it ain't happening

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Ya, I thought there must be

Ya, I thought there must be something else because I 'did' it I thought. 

Yeah, wasn't sexual and dominant enough.  Makes sense thanks.

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She still wants/needs to feel

She still wants/needs to feel your subtle control at the helm steering course. Subtle but tangible. That takes physical sublimations. Words are not good enough

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I can tell such a difference

I can tell such a difference in you from 3 weeks ago just btw you’re explaining how things went down. Good work but its not mature yet. You need to take into consideration rhat the club is closing soon and that means full on beast mode. Hard escalation. Thats how shit goes down in club environments. It should be absolutely clear to both of you that sex is going down. I learned this best when i realized that sex didnt have to go down in my or her bedroom. It can happen in a bathroom, a car, coffee table. You should be so comfortable with yourself and sex that youre willing to get a bj right in front of everybody in the club. Once you actually try to get laid in the club your LMR with future situations will severely decline. You need to be walking into a gas station with the realization that you might get laid in there. 

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I love talking in code on my

I love talking in code on my own forum. Fuck yes

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I'm drunk. 

I'm drunk. 

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