Managing Flaky Girl
How do you guys handle a girl that agrees to a date over the phone , then over text she ignores and goes cold.
Met this girl at a casino, hanged out with her for a couple of hrs, we texted back and forth, i know she does like me because she keeps the conversation going, this time i told her we should meet up tomorrow , she said it sounded good about getting food and drinks.
she excuses herself bc she has to drive her friends to get food and she textes me later asking so what do you have in mind?
her: Sorry! I had to do something but I'm about to drive now tho lol and aw that's sad about your friend lol but you live and learn learn! Haha - ( i was telling her about my friend who got into a relationship with a stripper)
me: Oh sry I didn't know lol - ( she told me while on the convo that she had to call me or text me back, excusing herself)
her: No! Haha it's fine that's why I said I'll text you tho lol
me: So i wanna see you tomorrow, wanna come over around 8ish :) - ( i had already asked her over the phone to hang out, she said i didnt live that far and wouldnt mind driving 45mins to me)
her: What did you have in mind again?!
me: goint to get some food and drankz, i know a cool place
(no reply so far, i texted her this morning )
me: so silence means lol ....
At this point i dont mind if i lose her, but how do advanced players handle this?
should i punish her for ignoring my text? for flaking?
Appreciate the feedback
Bruh you should have fucked with the conversation a bit more before springing that on her. Basically she was trying to engage with you and instead you switched over to super logical/logistical. Kinda weird a girl out. Talk about some shit first, her day, your day, whatever. Make it zany and amp things up a bit then go for that. I can definitely follow the emotional rhythm of this convo and see where things took the wrong direction.
although I did all of that over the phone previous to her excusing her self, I figured I could go in for the meet up and logistics.
so what my next text should be?
Your next text should be an original re-engagement that has no attachment to the outcome. Say whatever you want in a few days. Don't bring up the fact she didn't reply or anything though.
There is a sticky/page with MW's Text Rules, search it up here. There is a rule/lesson specifically for this, it'll help you out for sure my man.
This isn't about a singular text this is about your inability to create a vibe here. Have an actual conversation it'll be much easier to get her over
I thought this text/phone convo happened right after the inital meet at the casino. Figured there was already a vibe. I must have misread or misunderstood. Looking at the texts now at face value, it does seem pretty bad. I agree, more of a conversation next time around.
Use a re-engagement text, an original if you can, then build up a convo. MW also has a pretty good guideline to follow... which is for every 3-4 texts you send that are normal, you can then follow it up with a logistic based/meet up text.
Anything happen with this?