Maria Taqueria
I met chick a about two months in a pizza shop after a late night. I had a good, flirty interaction and probably should have pulled, but was dumb. Texted for a bit, but it went flat. I txted some weeks and resusitated it, but it whent flat again. Suggestions.
Month after first meeting and txts eventually falling flat.
Me: Mi ex-amor. Como estas?
Her: Como que ex? aun estamos casados jaja bien y tu( How come ex? We're still married, haha well and you)
Me:Estabamos casados pero tu dejaste cocinando para me. Un sandwich?( We were married, but you stopped cooking for me. A sandwich?(Spanish isn't my first language, obviously))
Her: jajaj bastardo!! en Marias Taqueria(a restaurant, we made up, based on her first name)
Me: I make better food than that shithole.
Me: Id cook for you, but there is no more love between us.
Her: how can you insult my restaurant like that?! :o jajaja
Me: Bc I know you know secretly enoy it:) lets discuss divorce terms this weeek. When are you free amor?
Her: we r not getting a divorce hahah
Me: The you need to come over and help me fix the kitchen. i could use someone to make me a sandwich ;)
Her: jajaja you asshole
Me:Fine, at least look hot and fan me while i sweat awar from the cleaning and fix shit. P.S. I prob make a mejor sandwich.
No response
Next day
Me: Amor, please do my homework for me ;) I might love you then
Her: hahahahaha what hw is it?
Me: I have a test on tuesday. Stuff about the human body. How r u spending your weekend?
Her: I have a dinner tonight you
Me: I procrastinated by making chicken....lots of it. How was dinner? off to the bar?
This was about about a week and a half ago. I want to reengage her. Also, everytime I try to get her out its a no go. Text and getting dates has been a really weak spot in my game and I want to improve upon it. I feel like something has been off in all the convos. I'll post somemore of my convos, and see where the deadends could be improved.
It was a very excellent conversation, until this part:
Me: The you need to come over and help me fix the kitchen. i could use someone to make me a sandwich ;)
Her: jajaja you asshole
Me:Fine, at least look hot and fan me while i sweat awar from the cleaning and fix shit. P.S. I prob make a mejor sandwich.
What'd you do wrong there..
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Hmmm..... I wonder..... whatcha think man?
I think there I pushed for a meetup again after she ignored it with her response. It was too soon, and somewhat put the value on her. I feel like when she says, "jajaja you asshole", that is a make or break moment. When I get to this point it usually flops.
Or should i have really pushed a meetup and said, " Well, prove you can make a good sandwich, here my address...."?
Also, I was going to re-engage with ,"mi ex-madre de mi hija, I heard you burnt the restaurant down over thanksgiving... never leave a woman to do a man's job"
So, I reengaged and I'm not sure when or how to go for the meetup.
Me:Goin to rob a bank and need a driver tomorrow, you down?
Her: hahahaha of course I'm the best driver
Me: No granny driving, I do enough of that
Me: A drive w me would be so stimulating you'd fall asleep
Me: Wait can women even drive in el salvador?
Her: hahah first I'm not from el salvador and second women van drive anywhere!
Me: Van drive??? You certainly will be w our 10 kids
Her: lmaoooo yeah right
I haven't responsed yet, but I was thinking, "Your vagina is going to be so floppy and tired after those 10"
But i need to move this in the direction of a meetup, or should I banter for a few days?
Set. Up. The. Date.
You aren't even taking your own bullshit seriously. How can she?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
So you make a bold move here, do something cool, she responds in her little girly way, and you.. completely back away from your own awesomeness and chode out. Not cool
You took her comment way too seriously, and showed her you were bluffing.
It was a very excellent conversation, until this part:Me: The you need to come over and help me fix the kitchen. i could use someone to make me a sandwich ;)
Her: jajaja you asshole
Me:Fine, at least look hot and fan me while i sweat awar from the cleaning and fix shit. P.S. I prob make a mejor sandwich.
What'd you do wrong there..
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
So , would a good response to , "you asshole" have been, " no, I'm serious...helpful hint, I don't like mayonaise. Or at the least, buy me a drink. Friday, 8 pm?"
Also, I tried to setup the date and it fell flat, for now.
Her: lmaooo yeah right
Me: Well, as much as I like talking about kids, lets actually grab a drink this wknd. Early Saturday night?
Next day
Her: hahaha what time is early?
Me: 8?
No response
Thoughts
Also, thanks MW for calling me out on my own bullshit. I think half my problem is just pulling the trigger on a high note.
Here's the rest of the convo. It was went flat after I pigeonhole myself. It was seems that she isn't committing to a time/place for a date. Is this salvageable?
Her: lmaooo yeah right
Me: Well, as much as I like talking about kids, lets actually grab a drink this wknd. Early Saturday night?
Next day
Her: hahaha what time is early?
Me: 8?
No Response
Next Day
Me: Just got to use a power saw on someone's spine. It was awesome!!!
Her: Woooah haha niiice
Me: Bbe, you just woke me from nap
Me: Gracias
Me: Still up for tomorrow? I can only meet for an hr though( I thought this would make the date less commital and instead she used it as a way out)
Her: Let's do another day then :)
Me: Sure, my sunday, monday and tuesday are free and then after its lock down for an exam. When are you free?
Two days, no response
Should I a pull a, "Look, you're a cool girl up I'm not going to keep chasing you. I've lost enough tissues on lost Ecuadorian love", or should reengage and keeping bantering with her again and then go for the date later.
Here's the rest of the convo. It was went flat after I pigeonhole myself. It was seems that she isn't committing to a time/place for a date. Is this salvageable?Her: lmaooo yeah right
Me: Well, as much as I like talking about kids, lets actually grab a drink this wknd. Early Saturday night?
Next day
Her: hahaha what time is early?
Me: 8?
No Response
Next Day
Me: Just got to use a power saw on someone's spine. It was awesome!!!
Her: Woooah haha niiice
Me: Bbe, you just woke me from nap
Me: Gracias
Me: Still up for tomorrow? I can only meet for an hr though( I thought this would make the date less commital and instead she used it as a way out)
Her: Let's do another day then :)
Me: Sure, my sunday, monday and tuesday are free and then after its lock down for an exam. When are you free?
Two days, no response
Should I a pull a, "Look, you're a cool girl up I'm not going to keep chasing you. I've lost enough tissues on lost Ecuadorian love", or should reengage and keeping bantering with her again and then go for the date later.
it sounds like your not commited/scared for the date. All you did there is give her a reason to say no. I get it, that shit happens, but if you aren't serious about the date than she never will be.
also, NEVER do the whole "i'm free such and such, when are you free?" bullshit. That's what every other dude out there is doin, give her a place and time and commit to that. A good idea would be to invite her out with a group it make things less formal and shows abundance.
It's just completely obvious you're chasing her. When you try to make plans and she doesn't respond, you hit her up the next day with another text.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
The mistake you made was that you MADE a bold move with the sandwich text (and she WENT FOR IT.. she said, "jajaja you asshole"), but apparently you misread this and skittered off and backtracked. It was honestly just a completely puss move. There's no other way of describing it. It completely shifted her understanding of you. So when you did something similar a few texts later on, it didn't mean anything to her because she knew you didn't have any backbone. It had lost its "magic".
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
At that point you just started going for broke and trying to invite her out almost every time you got a response from her.. not attractive. I don't mean to put your dick on the chopping block but dude you had this girl then actively worked to lose her.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Np, I appreciate the critique. Putting my dick on a chopping block is the only way I'm gonna get better. I've been doing way too long with little results, so I have to change something.
So, when she challenged me, saying,"jajaja, you asshole", what type of bold move do I make after that? Should have gone for a meetup then? Maybe an example of what to text would be good.
I'll post some of my other convos, to see where I can improve.
"I'm serious I'm hungry and I need to know you know how to make sandwiches.."
From here her response will tell you her level of investment. You can proceed to actually planning something on the spot, or working it in later. But you backtracked and it fucked you
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male