Masculine and feminine polarities

I'm starting to think more about the sexual poles. I just started re-reading way of the superior man so maybe itll answer some questions for me. but some of the ideas have been rattling around in my brain.

my main squeeze whom i've been screwing and dating for a few months now has a real strong masculinity about her. she is young but really successful, hard working at school and her career, in control of her emotions for the most part (thinks before acting). with most other guys play the role of the feminine with her. they get super butt hurt and are reactive to her. I guess one of the only reasons i could attract her is because i am more masculine than her. in bed i am super dominant and she plays the role of the fem well, we wouldn't have it any other way. but outside the bed our relationship sometimes lacks the passion ive had with other girls.

one girl i date was super crazy and a drama queen. she would flip at an instance and be on a roller coaster of emotions all the time. just like david deida says she was like the weather. always changing. it allowed me to be masculine and be unphased by her and weather her storms. it created tons of passion in and out of the bed. the girl im seeing now though outside the bed is fairly masculine. which is okay because i do have some femininity according to deida (i like watching rom coms instead of football, i like animals, babies and family, etc.). But the majority is masculine and it is missing being able to put a girl in her place from time to time. on one hand its nice because i can go over and live at her place for a few days straight and their is never any drama or problems. if she is feeling girly emotions she just takes a step back and rationalizes or communicates them calmly. but i do miss the girl going crazy and me being the calming influence in her life. or dominating her and leading more of her decisions. but outside the bed room its more of a buisness or roommate relationship instead of passionate lovers.

someone like manwhore would be able to just dominate and lead the fuck out of anyone in any situation never mind a girl with a strong masculine essence. this relationship has shown me a bit about myself and the polarities. maybe these types of relationships are better for me since i have say a 65-35 split between the poles and she is the same but reversed. or do i need to just learn to become more masculine to bring the feminine out of her.

a normal way of asking is if there is any way to bring the passion outside of the bedroom or is it normal and healthy this way.. if were both okay with it