Meet new girl on the street and maybe "pushed" her in the friendzone i think
So long story short : i meet a cute girl on the street...good vibe and i know she likes me...talk to her a bit...i was on the go ...i take her number and then set up a date with her about 4 5 days later....the date went off because of the ugly weather but she was down to come to my house to hang out and drink some hot tea...i do that...take her home ...drink tea...(give her a kiss on the cheek and huged her when we meet)...at my place i didn't escalated...i played it cool...which i think was the "fatal mistake" ...i walk her outside the apartment...on the way down the stairs i grabed her without notice and start making out with her...she was ok with it...did that...that was it for the day....
After a week the weather got better and i invited her out for some ice cream or something and she was ok with it....meet with her...go for the kiss and she turn away...i was like....ok..this is weird:)) go along with the meeting...tried to kiss her and she always would turn away...at the end of the day i was like :what's up?what's the problem dear?:)) she was like: you know...i can't do this cause i dont feel like doing it...bla bla bla...and this was a bit shocking cause it was a complet change in the interaction with her...
If i would have to find something that i think i did wrong i would say i didn't escalated and go for it from the first time...and this was seen as weak maybe and the sexual connection and attraction just went off....it's my first time i post here but i would like some pov's from you guys and from MW himself....btw...great job man...i like your work and i appreciate you having this forum and giving advice and a good critique .
Yeah dude sounds like not escalating at your place was the fatal mistake. Next time, on the second date you should switch up the escalation try some different stuff and just man handle her in a playful manner. She probably did not like the kissing because it reminded her off the awkward first date.
You also could have playfully excused yourself from not escalating the first time, something along the lines of "Sorry I was on my period last date" or "I had to make sure you werent a pscyhopath before I got to know you too well"
That wasn't you playing it cool, bruhbs. That was you playing it fag. Yes your analysis is right on.. but obviously it's something you read not something you actually understand otherwise you would not be able to rationalize it as you playing it cool. Playing it cool is for faggots that have to rationalize to themselves why they don't get laid.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Yeah dude sounds like not escalating at your place was the fatal mistake. Next time, on the second date you should switch up the escalation try some different stuff and just man handle her in a playful manner. She probably did not like the kissing because it reminded her off the awkward first date.You also could have playfully excused yourself from not escalating the first time, something along the lines of "Sorry I was on my period last date" or "I had to make sure you werent a pscyhopath before I got to know you too well"
^ Very solid.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
my thoughts excatly... it's a little retarded if i think about it because...as soon as i knew she was down coming to my house ...that raised some bells for me....and i ignore it:))but yeah...it's kinda gay what i did but hey...from retarded stuff we learn...
And u are right..."playing it cool" was a misused expression here....
Read a few of my lay reports.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
i m on it...but it's one thing to read something...and other to integrate it in my "game"...even with help from you it's a trial and error road...to see what tweaks i have to make in order to do it "naturally"
Yes progress from a forum is not the fastest..
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
i will consider starting some skype coaching with you this summer i think...now i spend my time with exams and shit...computer science is a bitch:))
Look up "visualizations" in the context of Psychocybernetics, and then start doing that with the lay reports.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
this sounds interesting...any recommendation of some sort of book or material on this?i will look on amazon for some books on this subject.....
edit: found it...this is the title of the book :))
in conclusion...i would have one last question...although i think i know the answer :)) i will still ask: in this situation...can i make a comeback from this situation?or it's basically game over with the sexual attraction between me and that girl?
You could definitely fix this.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
can i talk this out with her or with the first occasion push things and try to handle this "manually?or blend this two together?
You could do any of the above.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
will do....kudos for the feedback and help