Mixed signals or got friend zoned?
So I met this girl at work, and got her number. I think she was into me but on text she's so cold and might lost interest. (WTF??)
Me: I noticed you were standing there while it's raining.
Me: Is it one of those moments you can't decide if you wanna walk in the rain or run for your life, while your getting all wet?
Her: Walking of course. Running in the rain sounds dangerous
Me: so I was eating a fancy ramen soup with meat and eggs and tasty noddles that makes you do funny faces while you swallow, at that **Asian restaurant name** , have you been there?
Her: hmmm.. No.
Me: I'll consider taking you there if you'll promise to behave
Her: You should stop talking that way, it's annoying.
^can't tell if it's a fucking shitest^
Me: YES 'SIR (soldier emoji)
After couple of hours
Me: Almost caught on fire. One of my brothers left the gas stove on.
Me: picture of pot with burning oil and smoke.
Me: It's a lifetime opportunity to say hello before they put my picture on the newspaper in the "Hero of the day" section. After I'll get famous I'm not sure I'll be available.
Her: Wow that's so touching!!!!
Her: One thing is for sure, you must learn how to cook.
^ wth? Doesn't she pay attention to what I wrote? I'm losing her ^
Me: Well I cook very tasty frozen meals.
Me: Macaroni n' cheese is the chef's recommendation, some prefer instant noddles. Just name it.
Her: The girl you'll end up marrying is gonna be very happy.
^ am I friendzoned already?? ^
Me: I'm off to sleep, some of us got to work- I have a busy day tomorrow.
Her: Sleep well :)
Haven't contact her for 3 days. And she doesn't bother to send anything. Is it over or can I fix it?
I thought to re-engage with:
Me: Hello from the future.
Me: I assume you were abducted by aliens. I hope those are the good looking ones and not the green ugly type with the big black eyes.. Anyway when they'll decide to return you to planet earth ,hit me back. Got something I wanna ask you.
Me: Hey I just got back from the past... Don't ask there was this crazy old guy asking for help suddenly I found myself stuck with him in the dinosaur era. Damn that TREX is creepy.
Help is needed. :O
Way too gamey mang. Yes the girl is being a bit of a ball-buster but you are definitely way too gamey.
And look at your "potential" reengagement texts lol. They're all in outer fucking space
Yeah you can shape them or add them to the database if you like.
I can't tell if it's soon to use the haircut line... It's a deadly weapon.
So should I try to re-engage and callher out for giving cold shoulder?
See her as a person, same as you. Let your guard down and just talk. Just be sure to add in spice here 'n there.
As of now she thinks your style of communicating over text is a bit patronizing and overcompensating. You're also a bit too longwinded. Shorten your texts.
Do you consider yourself a manipulative individual?
It's a rough saying but yeah, I think that's one of my big cons. Maybe I don't know to put a line between being manipulative individual and giving emotional spikes...
It's not a matter of mixed signals or frienf zone it's just that you're trying too hard so she isn't investing.
Just stop trying so hard and see how it goes
I can't tell what went wrong... maybe it's the too much gamey as MW said or the long messeges...
You work with her or met her at work?
Yes it's the gameyness and long-winded texts. She even told you, lol
You work with her or met her at work?
Met her at work.
I'll try to re-engage and see what happen.
Yeah but don't use ANY of those reengagement texts you listed. They're awful. Same b.s. they're way too gamey
Me: I feel like we're growing apart, XXX.
That's Jeffy's line and I think it's great.
Got any ideas? Can't think of something not too gamey...
I bet if you send her that text you'll get a nice asshole reply back. Try it though I'd love to see
LOL only if I'll decide to go hardcore, might be a great challenge but I'm not that skilled to recover after creating bad vibe.
What do you think of a funny meme?
Yo you need to tone it down a bit. It's all entertaining for sure, but it's too much. Throw in some real details about your life and you might even have to go "chode" to recover. Send her something about your day that's entertaining but don't make it too zany. Then follow up by asking how her day is going. After that just continue the conversation casually like you would talk to your grandma. She needs to ground you as a real person.
The vibe id shoot for is something like, "got ice cream with my little cousin. Somehow he smeared it all over his forehead lol"
"Today's been amazing , how's yours been treating ya"
of course you have your own style, but keep it simple and based in reality.